In a recent Facebook post, I wrote about a long-term relationship I had with someone, and that relationship has been very difficult, frustrating, and sad.
For a very long time it felt like it was completely stuck even though I can see its wonderful potential and the others can’t. When I thought about it a few nights ago, I suddenly understood why things never really progressed in that relationship, why it just doesn’t “work ” and is disappointing and painful.
This realization was so powerful that I was able to let go of the relationship and all the disappointments and frustrations about it in a matter of minutes. The post received so many comments that I knew I had to tell you more about it.
What I realized then, and I never saw before, was that our relationship existed in different dimensions. I remember a connection with him that isn’t there for him, because he isn’t at that level in this life (and probably doesn’t want to be there either). My goal in this life is to help him remember something he doesn’t want to remember now. And I hold an energetic space for him that he isn’t ready for or doesn’t want to occupy with me.
The dimension, vibration and frequency that he has chosen for this life now are part of his lessons. I hold another frequency that is available to him, but he has to choose it. I can’t choose that for him. Now I can see the potential we could have as a couple,
and it’s amazing, but it’s not just that he doesn’t see it, the idea of being on that level scares him too. Where I think I’m giving him the most wonderful opportunity, he thinks I’m trying to push him into a situation he doesn’t want to be a part of (and he really doesn’t want to).
But this kind of situation exists in my life outside of this relationship, I see it in other parts of my life, where I remember a much more joyful and powerful connection with others, and keep an energetic space for them that they can’t. and in which they are often angry and frustrated with me, instead of sharing my vision.
I had to come to the realization that this is not their path for this life unless they choose it.
And they’re not there yet, even though I’ve done so much to make that happen, including martyring myself to them.
Here are some signs that show you are in a multi-dimensional relationship (not just partner relationships):
- You feel that you are working harder to make the most of this than the others.
- You wished they would change.
- They are your ‘blind spot’ and you cannot see their faults, even if everyone in your life wonders why you are so attached to that person or why you cannot see what they see.
- The connection between you is very strong, and yet it is stuck.
- You are afraid that the relationship is not working, and you have an unpleasant feeling that it will end at some point.
- Secretly or openly, they think you are weird, strange, different, or difficult to understand.
- It is better to see the potential in them than them in and for themselves.
- You may see more potential in the relationship than they can see or acknowledge. And for you, it can feel like you’re being deliberately rejected.
- If you are honest with yourself, you will know that you are a martyr in this relationship.
- Suddenly the relationship comes to a painful end, and you don’t understand why.
This is no one’s fault, it is a by-product of spiritual growth, and as we approach higher dimensions, we are not all doing it at the same pace or in the same way. We have also connected with many of our soul mates and partners, to remind them of other possibilities, aspects and potential for their lives.
In that way we remind them of a soul contract and another choice they can make. But if they are not done with the lesson on the path they are now walking, they are not ready to evolve into a higher dimension. We know what’s possible for us together, but we can’t share it with them until they’re ready to know and see for themselves. And maybe that won’t happen in this lifetime.
In these relationships it may feel like we are being rejected (and in a way we are), but it is the invitation to be with us in a higher dimension, vibration or frequency that is rejected. What can you do about it? Nothing but respecting their path, letting go of them and yourself and moving on, thus attracting someone who aligns with the frequency, dimension and vibration you are in.
That’s also why many of our biological family relationships are ending, and we are now finding new connections with people we don’t have a relationship with, but who are much more loving, joyful, and fulfilling.
These were long-term soul contracts whose rejection is painful, on a soul level, because we respect a commitment to them from long ago, and it feels like they are breaking their commitment to us. But that is their path and their healing journey that they must choose for themselves.
For many people this is a life of much learning, and even though they came here to be powerful, they seem to choose to express their strength through very low energies. But this is what they need to experience, and even though we remember our connection to them on a completely different level, and keep that space for them, this is not where they wish to be right now.
Accepting this will grant you peace, completion and termination, and soon you can untie those cords to free yourself from that soul contract, the healing path, release this obligation from your energy and grant everyone the freedom to be in your respective dimensions and there find joy.