3 Reasons Grounding Can Be Difficult When You’re Highly Sensitive (and What You Can Do About It)

3 Reasons Grounding Can Be Difficult When You're Highly Sensitive (and What You Can Do About It)
If you are highly sensitive and easily pick up on the emotions and feelings of others, it is extremely important that you are well-grounded. Being well-grounded means that you are connected with your body and with the earth. You can do that by moving your attention from top to bottom and simply feeling all parts of your body. Then visualize or think of a grounding cord, tube, or tree roots that connect the soles of your feet to the core of the earth. You do this under each sole of your foot and under your base chakra, the energy center at your tailbone. That way you are firmly connected to the earth at three points.

Why is grounding so important?

A good grounding makes you feel firm, stable, and more balanced. You can have more, you are less likely to be thrown off balance and therefore less dependent on what is happening around you. You are more in touch with your own inner strength. In the ideal situation, a storm can rage around you and you can still stay in your own center.

We are not perfect and we will not always succeed, but it is certainly possible to experience that more and more. Especially if you are highly sensitive, a grounding is extra important because your sensitivity makes you more vulnerable and more easily thrown off balance than someone who is not so sensitive. The problem is that especially if you are highly sensitive, it can sometimes be difficult to ground.

3 Reasons Grounding Can Be Difficult When You're Highly Sensitive (and What You Can Do About It)

Below I discuss 3 situations that can make it difficult to ground, why that is the case, and how you can deal with them so that you can still ground and (re) find your balance.

1) Physical discomfort

If you don’t feel comfortable physically, the first reaction is often to shoot out of your ground. That makes sense because it makes you feel less, you are less present and it seems as if you are less bothered by the physical discomfort.

The problem is that this makes you more emotionally vulnerable, making it more difficult to deal with the physical pain or discomfort.

How can you work with this?

See what happens if you (as best as possible) remain aware of your body, and remain present in your body with what is there. Breathe with that which is there, let it be there, and try to observe it without judgment. Everything may be there.

If you can assume the role of an observer, your experience can become lighter. Your head can tell a whole story about what you are feeling, but the moment you go back to your body awareness that story falls away and only the experience remains. The emotional charge and the judgments you have about yourself can then disappear (at least for a while).

In this way, you can break that vicious circle of “experience discomfort -> out of your grounding grain -> experience even more discomfort”.

In addition, it is good to be aware that grounding is a lot easier when you are rested. Sometimes your best option is to go to bed early and try again the next day! Be kind to yourself and listen to your body as much as you can.

2) Emotional discomfort

3 Reasons Grounding Can Be Difficult When You're Highly Sensitive (and What You Can Do About It)

Even if you experience difficult emotions, the tendency is often to shoot out of your ground (so that you don’t have to feel or feel less). The problem with this is that you start to feel even more out of balance and have even less access to your inner peace and confidence. This is again a vicious circle.

You can break this vicious circle by consciously connecting again with your presence and rest beyond all emotions and everything you feel.

How can you work with this?

Observe what you feel, give it a label (‘I feel fear’, ‘I am angry’ etc), and observe where you feel the emotion in your body. Does it flow throughout your body or does it have a specific place? Do you feel the tension in your lower abdomen, your heart, or your throat? See if you can observe without judgment.

Then connect with your heartImagine that in your heart there is a very small but bright light. Imagine that light getting bigger and sending that light, that heart energy, to the place where you feel the emotion. Let it be all there. Give it space.

You can also imagine that you are breathing that light towards the tension in your body, as it were. Focusing on your breath helps you stay in the here and now and not run in circles in the emotion.

The emotion may then become stronger for a while, and that’s okay. If you continue to allow it, it can grow like a wave first and then weaken and disappear.

Because you remain present with what is in your body, you remain more or less grounded. If you want to make that even stronger, re-visualize your grounding cords from your feet and your base chakra to strengthen your foundation once again. You can do this while working with the emotion, but certainly also afterward, to connect extra with the peace and balance in yourself.

Working with emotions in this way can give you the feeling that you can be ‘in the eye of the storm’. Whatever happens, you can keep your own center. It will probably never be perfect and it doesn’t have to be, but you help yourself to experience more balance and to flow through your emotions more easily (instead of locking them in).

And then there’s another reason why it can be tricky to the ground:

3) Don’t really want to be here

3 Reasons Grounding Can Be Difficult When You're Highly Sensitive (and What You Can Do About It)

The feeling that you don’t really want to be here often occurs in people who consciously or unconsciously remember where they come from. They know there is more. That there is an unconditional love & acceptance somewhere, but not experienced it in their daily life.

That feeling of ‘I don’t really want to be here can really stop you from grounding properly. The problem is that that puts you on the brakes. You have a resistance to your life and that which is. And that resistance doesn’t make you happy.

How can you deal with that?

Healing that resistance can take time because it often has many layers. It can help to realize that you can use the support of the earth to feel safe, balanced, and supported here.

You can work with the loneliness, the lack, and the resistance as you also work with other emotions. Be kind to yourself, this often runs deep. If you can’t figure it out on your own, seek help from someone who can guide you through it. You don’t always have to do it alone.

Remind yourself that the more grounded and present you can be in the here and now, the more peace, trust, and acceptance you can experience, and the easier it is to allow and experience that energy of unconditional love in your daily life. If you can bring those energies here, the lack, the longing and the loneliness become less strong.

And the more you let go of your own resistance, the more your life can flow and form in a way that suits you and that gives you satisfaction.

The more you can be here, the better you make it for yourself and the happier you can be.

Your grounding helps you with that.


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