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Am I Suffering From A Quarterlife Crisis?


Most people are familiar with the midlife crisis. But it is less known that there is also a Quarterlife crisis. Actually, they do look quite similar. They are both existential crises. We call it a Midlife Crisis if you suffer from this between the ages of 40 and 65 and a Quarterlife Crisis between the ages of 20 and 35. But these are guidelines of course, an existential crisis can occur at any age.

What is an existential crisis?

An existential crisis is a period of panic, doubt and fear about life’s questions. You start to question your own existence, the meaning or purpose of your life. You no longer know who you are, what you want, what you are here on earth for. Whether you have made the right choices and what it actually means.

An existential crisis is usually accompanied by worrying, fear, uncertainty, gloom, doubt, stress of choice and a feeling of exhaustion. Physical complaints can also occur due to the stress that accompanies a crisis like this. It feels like everything you were sure of is suddenly not sure, like everything you had seems to be slipping through your fingers. You are desperate for grip, answers and certainty.

What is the Quarter Life Crisis?

The Quarterlife crisis usually arises after your studies, between the ages of 20 and 35, although there are also younger and slightly older people who recognize themselves in this. It is a phase of your life where a lot is happening. Significant things. You finish your studies, you start looking for your first job.

You want to make a career (quickly), prove yourself. You want to move in together, buy or rent a house and start a family. But you don’t really want to give up your student life and your rich social life (yet). You would like to travel, go out, do fun things. But duty also calls and with that family you can’t wait too long.You can’t do everything at once, but you also don’t want to make choices and that splits, can just give you a Quarterlife crisis.

What are the characteristics of a quarter-life crisis?

A Quarterlife crisis can manifest itself in different ways. You may recognize only some of the characteristics below. That it only focuses on your work or your relationship. It is also possible that you recognize all the characteristics and that it is intertwined in your whole life. There are also different degrees. One recognizes it but is not very bothered by it, the other goes through it towards a burnout or depression and everything in between.

Some features may include;

  • Choice stress
  • worry
  • A “is this it” feeling in the field of work, relationship or your life in general.
  • You don’t know what you want.
  • You increasingly ask yourself big life questions that you can’t figure out.
  • You are mainly in your head and find it difficult to feel.
  • You think you shouldn’t complain, because you’ve done pretty well.
  • You long for certainty, but also for challenge and adventure.
  • You have the feeling that you are on your own, even when you have enough people around you.
  • You feel different and misunderstood.
  • You’re either too busy or it’s too boring; you are never really satisfied.
  • You compare yourself to others and they all seem to have it better than you.
  • You feel enormous time pressure.
  • Your life is not what you thought it would be at this age.
  • You feel gloomy and dissatisfied.
  • You are often tired and/or have a headache.
  • You are afraid that if you continue like this you will end up in a burnout.

How do I get rid of it?

The key is getting to know yourself, reconnecting with your body, learning to feel again. Recognize your body’s signals and act accordingly. And that often starts with the simplest things like eating when you are hungry, stopping when you are full, drinking when you are thirsty and going to the toilet when you have to. Sounds crazy, but even there we often ignore the signals from our body.

In addition, it is important that you become aware of your thought patterns and behavior. Because if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got. So investigate how your mind and body work, observe yourself, ask the right questions  (Why am I doing this? Is there another way?). Get started withyour Mindset. And dare to make choices.

Teach your body and mind to work together in a way that gives you the result you would like to see. And that is usually happiness, contentment and balance. A life full of life.

Do you want help with this?

I have several free and paid options to help you further. Like a test with which you can test whether you have a Quarterlife crisis. An e-book with 5 practical tips to get through the Quarterlife crisis. A private Facebook group full of tips and inspiration. Or my DeepDive program in which I personally guide you.

This program will help you not only deal with the Quarterlife crisis, but also come out of it stronger. You will benefit from this for the rest of your life. And the large amount of personal guidance you receive from me ensures that the program is completely tailored to your specific situation. So real customization. And therefore very effective. For all free and paid options click here.


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