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Authenticity, are you yourSelf?


In my previous blog ‘ Can children of this time really be children ?’ I mentioned that everyone has their own identity, they view the world in their own unique way. This does not only apply to children, it applies to everyone, regardless of age. The question is: how authentic are you? Are you your full Self or do you live your life according to imposed laws and rules and are you therefore not happy at all deep inside? Ed Nissink wrote the book ‘ Authenticity, the path to yourself ‘, a beautiful book to gain insight into what is called authenticity. In this blog I would like to share the beginning of the discovery of yourSelf.

To be happy

Suppose you have a good job, earn enough money, live in a nice house, are happily married, have 2 treasures of children, enough friends, a nice hobby, that nice car you always wanted, in short everything a person needs can ask for. You are satisfied, yet not happy. Of course you have moments of happiness, but you don’t feel happy. It may even be the case that your body is trying to make you aware of the fact that you are too far from yourSelf and therefore not happy.

What is that, authenticity?

authenticityI searched on google ‘what is authenticity?’. Some very interesting definitions then come up. Everywhere you look, everything you read has words like ‘real’, ‘trustworthy’, ‘credible’, ‘follow your heart’ and more such terms. Nissink gives a very short, powerful representation of authenticity: this is the state in which you are only yourSelf in all purity. When you come into the world as a baby, you are completely authentic. After you are born, the outside influences start. Suppose you manage to resist these influences all your life and start from your own inner strength, only then have you always remained authentic.


Most of us have a layer of, for example, opinions, beliefs, ways of thinking and obstacles about the authenticity with which they are born. As a result, the self-esteem, the Self, no longer comes into its own. Nissink mentions this in his book The Law of Oppression. This law is based on four main principles: denial, guilt, fear and impotence. In short, denial means that ‘something isn’t there’ if we just deny it. When someone has a feeling of guilt (in the broadest sense of the word), the choices made by this person will be related to this. Fear is one of the most successful ways to keep someone down. Powerlessness gives you the idea that you can’t change your situation.


When the law of oppression comes into play in life, one loses its authenticity. We receive signals in the form of emotions, thoughts and dreams. Our body, our possessions and resonance also provide various signals. Emotions tell us how we are doing, thoughts and dreams tell us what keeps us busy, our body can slow us down by, for example, pain and stiffness or speed up by being fit and resonance ensures that we get everything in our path through attraction. we need. It often seems coincidental that, when we have another car in mind, we suddenly see many of those same cars driving. This is an example of resonance. To become authentic it is important to recognize the symptoms of not being authentic.authenticity

Who are you?

How do you see yourself right now? In order to discover whether you are authentic and what you would like to change in order to get closer to yourSelf, it is necessary to consider this question: how do you see yourself at the moment? You form a judgment about yourself with this. My hair used to stand on end the moment I heard or saw the word judgment. I have since learned that there is a difference between judging and condemning. It is very normal to have a judgment. The difference is in the way you deal with the judgment, the condemnation. In this case, it is important to look at yourself from a distance, without judging yourself. The self-image that we have determined to a large extent how we experience our life.

Are you authentic?

Now, after reading the foregoing, if you look at yourself and ask the following questions:
– Do I really feel happy?
– Do I wave things away, do I deny a lot?
– Am I acting out of guilt and/or fear?
– Do I sometimes say that I ‘cannot help it’?
– What emotions do I experience, what do I feel?
– What are my thoughts, my dreams and my body trying to tell me?
– Is there a pattern to be found in my life, are there ‘coincidences’ to be discovered?

What is your ‘judgment’ then? Can you say that you are completely authentic?


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