Chinese Medicine & the 5 Element Types: What’s Your Biggest Annoyance (And Your Partner’s and Friends’s)?

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This article contains a manual for your partner, your colleague, your girlfriend, and your child. After reading them, you are guaranteed to understand them better, which prevents a lot of fights! “When you understand the ‘why’ behind the behavior, you stop taking it personally and can accept and love others for who they are.”

It can be helpful to remember that someone else sees the world differently than you do.

The 5 personality types

We all unconsciously assume that everyone thinks and feels the same way we do. Therefore, it can be very difficult to understand why your partner is not reacting the way you expected. In fact, when a group of people experiences the same event, they all experience it differently and react to it in different ways.

That is why it is so important to delve into the five personality types from Chinese medicine. It helps you understand why other people behave the way they do. When you understand the “why” behind their behavior, you stop taking it so personally and you can finally accept and love them for who they are.

They find this annoying to someone else…

For example, understanding why someone annoys you – or why someone annoys you – can prevent a lot of problems in your relationship. Let’s take a look at what the five types find annoying about interacting with other people.

Chinese Medicine & the 5 Element Types: What's Your Biggest Annoyance (And Your Partner's and Friends's)?

What are Water-types annoyed by?

If you find it annoying when someone keeps on chatting and doesn’t give you time to think, you may be a Water type.

When people expect them to be able to talk and think at the same time. Water types need silence to think things through. They are deep thinkers, so they need time to process their thoughts. But if other people go on talking, Water-types can’t even hear themselves think. Other personality types like to think out loud, but for a Water-type, that creates an annoying noise that disrupts their thought process. Several Water-types told me, “My brain just freezes when the other person doesn’t shut up!”

If you find it irritating when someone just keeps on chatting and doesn’t give you time to think, you may be a Water-type. This discovery can give you new insights into your needs in communication and reduce the chances of blaming the other person for your discomfort. Or if you experience your partner becoming silent when you try to talk to him or her, he or she may be a Water-type. Knowing this can help you avoid taking the response personally and find new methods of communication that are comfortable for both of you.

What are Wood types annoyed by?

Chinese Medicine & the 5 Element Types: What's Your Biggest Annoyance (And Your Partner's and Friends's)?

Wood types are naturally direct in their communication, as they like to think in straight lines and don’t like small talk.

What particularly annoys Wood-types during a conversation is when the other person doesn’t get to the point. Wood types are naturally direct in their communication, as they like to think and react in straight lines and don’t like small talk.

Wood types are very goal-oriented and often enter into a conversation with the question: what is the goal and how can we get there the fastest? So if the person they’re talking to goes on and on about ‘I then said this and then she said that, and then this and this happened, and then I thought we should do this’, that’s extremely frustrating for a Wood -type.

If you often feel impatient and frustrated at having to wait for your conversation partner to get to the point, you may be a Wood type. This insight can reduce your frustration. Or if you’re in a relationship with someone who always exclaims irritably “What’s your point?!”, then you now know why and you probably feel less hurt by his or her reaction.

What are Fire-types annoyed by?

What annoys the Fire type is working with people who take everything too seriously.

What annoys the Fire type is working with people who take everything too seriously. Fire types are by nature carefree and positive people. During work, they are the ones who lighten the mood a bit by joking or making a comment that cheers everyone up. But there may be times when other personality types don’t respond, or worse, misunderstand the Fire type and think he or she is irresponsible or even untrustworthy.

For Fire types, work should be fun and light. It can be a huge downer for them if they have to work with people who take everything too seriously and don’t understand that they are trying to improve the atmosphere.

If you often find that your attempts to do this fail because someone misinterprets your behavior, you may be a Fire-type. This insight can prevent you from feeling hurt and can help you keep your heart open for the other person. Or if you’re in a relationship with someone who jokes a little too much, this knowledge can help you better understand the motivation behind this behavior.

What annoys Earth-types?

Chinese Medicine & the 5 Element Types: What's Your Biggest Annoyance (And Your Partner's and Friends's)?

Earth types are true storytellers: they like to explain the whole situation, not part of it.

What do Earth types find annoying about other people? Earth types are the least likely to get annoyed because they are very patient by nature. They can put up with a lot of others because they always give them the benefit of the doubt and want to make the relationship work. But what they do find annoying is when someone doesn’t listen to them or interrupts them while they are talking.

Earth types are true storytellers: they like to explain the whole situation, not part of it. And because they care about everyone involved, they find it important to explain who said what and why.

If you have often experienced people not wanting to listen to you or interrupting you impatiently, you may be an Earth-type. With this new understanding, you may feel less hurt if this occurs because you now know that you have a different way of communicating. This way you can come up with a compromise that can meet everyone’s needs. Are you in a relationship with a storyteller? Then you can now be a little more patient, but also come up with new strategies that benefit both of you.

What are Metal types annoyed by?

Metal types are naturally very aware of what is going on around them. They place great value on good manners.

Metal types often get irritated when shopping. For example, if someone just parks their shopping cart in the middle of the aisle and just stands there, staring at the shelves, or worse, making a phone call! That person doesn’t even realize that he or she is blocking the aisle and getting in the way of others.

Metal types are naturally very aware of what is going on around them. They are constantly scanning their environment. And they value good manners. So it can be very irritating for them when someone shows such lack of awareness or good manners.

If you often find yourself sighing with annoyance when you run into someone who seems completely absorbed in their own world and doesn’t realize the effect this has on others, then you may be a Metal type. It can be helpful to remember that the other person sees the world differently than you do.

If you are in such a situation, this idea may lower your stress level. Or if your partner often seems annoyed by things that aren’t so important to you, now you know it’s because he or she is a Metal type. By being aware of the fact that he or she experiences the environment very differently from you, you can place that behavior much better.

Becoming your most powerful self

Understanding the five personality types gives us more space and compassion in our being with other people – and also helps us to love ourselves more. There is a reason why you are the way you are. And when you understand that reason, you can embrace your true nature and become your most joyful and powerful self.

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