Compassion for yourself

Compassion for yourself

Life is full of beautiful experiences, but it also has its dark sides. Psychological and physical discomfort in all possible variations and degrees. When someone you care about is suffering from something, you naturally feel compassion. You would like the suffering to stop and you usually feel a loving concern.

You can also have compassion for yourself, which is not the same as feeling sorry for yourself. Simply you notice: this is heavy, it hurts. Then you send yourself the loving wish that you would send to a good friend if he went through the same pain, sorrow, or trial. Self-compassion usually only takes a few seconds. You are then more balanced and cheerful and you can do what you need to improve your life. The big question here is:

How do I feel compassion for myself?

That proved to be a difficult task this week. Feeling and showing compassion for another is not that difficult. Somehow that is ingrained in our nature, caring for others. Then projecting those feelings onto yourself turned out to be a lot more difficult. Last week I briefly interacted with a man who reacted rather surly to a question I asked. I immediately thought: what have I done wrong? I have noticed that in such a situation I immediately seek the blame (cause) on myself. So this situation invites you to project onto yourself the compassion you would feel or show for another in a similar situation.

Compassion for yourself

Fortunately, I was helped in this situation by an acquaintance who assured me that the reaction of said person was in the nature of this person and not in my attitude or behavior. He had already been confronted with it himself and many with him, he told me. He showed compassion for me. What helped me to apply this practice to myself was the lesson my yoga teacher taught me. Be kind to yourself, don’t judge yourself. By actually feeling this within (as light streaming in), it spreads throughout your body and being.

When you keep practicing this repeatedly, you will experience that you become more balanced and that you are better able to cope with these kinds of difficult moments or encounters. My conclusion is: that the man in my example seems to be screaming for compassion from another because he cannot feel and show it himself perhaps?


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