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Contact with my deceased mother: a healing experience for both of us

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This month, June, is the time when my mother passed away, or passed over to the other side. Last year after her departure from this earth I wrote the article: Why did I choose this mother? A quest for more insight through reincarnation therapy. In it I told about our complicated relationship and its karmic background.

It probably took her quite some time after her death to recover from the last part of her life that had been tough both mentally and physically, because despite the fact that she made it clear to me before her death that she would contact me it nine months before she actually did.

Because our communication during her life had not been easy, I was not out to contact her myself. To be honest, I thought it was quite peaceful. When I read somewhere that souls often only take action after a period of recovery after a year or more, I didn’t think it was that strange that I didn’t hear from her. I was totally unprepared for it when she was suddenly there.

Still, I’d had a few dreams of her lately, which hadn’t happened in all that time.One dream made me live her departure from Earth. That was an emotional event for me, in which I heard myself shout, ‘I love you!’ three times. That surprised me very much, because I had never felt that way in her life.

I later understood that at that moment we both experienced our real connection as souls, just as I could have experienced loving contact with her soul during meditations during her life.

A nice smell as a signal

For a week I kept smelling a pleasant, lightly perfumed air, while I could not discover its source. I rarely wear perfume, but I used to have a favorite scent called White Linen. A few months before her death, my mother had given me a bottle of it that she herself had been given, but never used.

The smell reminded me of that. It was only after a week that the penny dropped: it was my mother’s way of making herself known! Before her death she had asked me, ‘How shall I contact you?’ Then I replied that she had to figure that out all by herself and I would notice.Well, my mother had an extremely refined sense of smell, and once at Findhorn, a spiritual center in Scotland where she once attended a workshop, she had a clear-smelling perception that had made a deep impression on her. In fact, this way suited her very well.

When I sat down and tuned in, I understood that the signal was to make contact, but that it was my father who spoke on her behalf. When the going got tough, she was used to pushing him forward, so that fitted the pattern of their relationship, which, unsurprisingly, continued after their deaths. I understood that she was cautiously approaching and reconciling with me. Of course I liked that, but I still felt some resistance within myself and said that I would wait for the right moment.

That moment came two days later, when I woke up early and did some more dozing. I smelled the nice smell again, which by the way had disappeared immediately after the message had come through last time, and felt I was ready to reconcile with her. That happened in a flash: it was as if our hearts were energetically fused together. It felt warm and good.

I did let my mother know that I was not out to be in permanent contact with her. During my childhood, my mother had always been on top of me with her overwhelming energy, and I had no good memories of that. But she had clearly changed: she showed that she respected that and that I determined what would happen in the contact.During my childhood, my mother had always been on top of me with her overwhelming energy, and I had no good memories of that.

But she had clearly changed: she showed that she respected that and that I determined what would happen in the contact. During my childhood, my mother had always been on top of me with her overwhelming energy, and I had no good memories of that. But she had clearly changed: she showed that she respected that and that I determined what would happen in the contact.

Dreams as a connecting factor

A few days later, I was going to interview someone for my new book on health. This woman worked with her dreams to gain more insight into her health issues. Now dreams were and are very important for my mother and for myself and they also formed a theme in which we could have contact with each other in a pleasant way. In addition, someone would be present during the conversation who my mother knew from the past when she attended a dream workshop with her at the Center for Self-Reflection .

It didn’t really surprise me when, waking up early again, I smelled the familiar smell and immediately understood that my mother asked me if she could be present at the interview! It seemed only reasonable to me to allow her to do that. It turned out to be an animated meeting and both women were happy that my mother was there.

The fact that my mother had made a comeback was also apparent from the zeal with which she ensured that the apartment, which had been for sale for almost a year without much enthusiasm, was sold to people who greatly appreciated the special way in which this house was renovated under her direction.

She had always wanted to be an interior designer and thought it was very important that the right people would buy the apartment. My youngest brother, who had met the buyers but who doesn’t believe in the afterlife and knows nothing about my contact with our mother, said: ‘The couple was just a younger copy of our parents, very striking!’

My mother has now been added to my team of guides and supervisors. It feels good this way and it gives us both a chance to heal the past.

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