It gives me great pleasure to be among you again, and to make contact with you in this way. I can tell you that this also means a lot to me, that I attach importance to these encounters, because in this way I get a little closer to your earthly reality than I can do from my sphere alone.
Yet I always live in your hearts and wait, always looking for moments when you open up and access my energy. For my energy, the Christ energy being born again at this time, is not just my energy, not just the energy of one man who once lived on Earth; it is a collective energy field of which you are all much more a part than you sometimes comprehend.
You have all once made a promise inwardly, felt a deep intent, to carry this energy out on Earth, to anchor this energy in the Earth. You have been doing this for many lifetimes, for many centuries. You are all busy giving birth to the Christ seed within yourself and it gives me joy to assist you in this.
I was a forerunner, yet planting the Christ seed was a collective effort. Also my arrival on earth was only possible because it was supported by a field of energy, which was already present here. We work together, we are one. That’s why I am also accessible to all of you. I am not exclusively accessible to one or the other. I am at the service of all of you.
And today I have come to speak on a theme that touches all of you deeply and with which you are all involved in one way or another in everyday life. This is about dealing with emotions.
Last time I went into the flow of the masculine and feminine energy through your energy body, through the chakras. And I then emphasized the importance of healing the lower three chakras as part of your inner growth and return to yourself.
I thought it important to emphasize this, because some of you who are attracted to the spiritual often tend to withdraw in your thoughts and feelings into the higher chakras.
There is something attractive about the heart, third eye and crown chakra, because these centers bring you into contact with the higher realms that you are all so familiar with. However, the true inner work is on a lower level, in the area of the lower chakras, the area closer to the Earth.
The realm of the emotions is extremely important on your path of spiritual growth and healing. You are spiritual beings, coming from non-terrestrial realms, in which the rawness and grossness of the earthly reality was unknown to you.
Dealing with that has been difficult. Through many lifetimes you have tried to mold your cosmic energy on Earth. And in that shaping, in that channeling your energy towards the earth, many misunderstood injuries have arisen. Many traumas and injuries have become attached to the emotional body that you all have; I want to talk about that today.
Anyone who embarks on the path of inner growth knows of the importance of emotions: that you must not suppress them, that you must work with them in a certain way, that you must eventually let them go, but how and what exactly is not always so clear.
First I want to distinguish between what I call emotions and feelings.
I’m not really concerned with the terminology here, you can also give it other names. My point is to distinguish between emotions, in the sense of energies that are essentially signs of misunderstanding, and feelings, in the sense of energies that are essentially an understanding of the higher. In short, you can say: feelings are your teachers, emotions are your children. Here I would like to further clarify this distinction.
Emotions are energies that manifest strongly in the physical body. Emotions are reactions to things you don’t really understand. Just imagine what happens when you have a tantrum. Someone hurts you unexpectedly, and you feel a wave of anger run through you. You can feel this very well in your body: in certain places your energy is cramped.
This physical cringe, which comes from an energetic shock, indicates that you do not understand something. An energy comes at you that you cannot place, that you do not consider justified. In essence, you respond to the misunderstanding in the emotion. An explosion occurs energetically, which is also a discharge.
When this happens, you are then faced with a choice: what do I do with this emotion? Am I going to base my responses on this? Do I base my behavior towards other people on this or do I leave the emotion for what it is, and adjust my behavior to something else? I will go into this later, I first want to say a little more about the distinction between emotions and feelings.
Emotions are essentially explosions of misunderstanding that you can see very clearly in your body. Feelings, on the other hand, are perceived very differently. Feelings are much quieter in nature than emotions. They are the whispers of the soul, which reach you through gentle encouragement, an inner knowing or a sudden intuitive action that later proves to be wise.
Emotions always have something intense, something dramatic about them. Just think of sharp anxiety attacks, panic, anger or intense sadness. Emotions occupy you completely and pull you away from your center. At that moment you are full of an energy that takes you ‘outside yourself”. Emotions are always accompanied by a lack of inner clarity. In that sense, emotions are like clouds before the sun.
This is not to say that emotions should not be there. Emotions should certainly not be suppressed, but I do want to indicate what the nature of this energy is: it is an explosion of misunderstanding. In essence, emotions pull you away from your center.
Feelings, on the other hand, bring you deeper into your center.
Feelings have to do with what you also call intuition. Feelings testify to a higher understanding, an understanding that transcends the emotions and the mind. Feelings come from a sphere of being that is not physical, which is outside the physical. That’s why they are not so clearly localizable and palpable in your body. Just think about what happens when you feel something, when you foresee something.
Then there seems to be a kind of knowing in you that comes to you from the outside, which is not a reaction from within to something else, but what you take in from the outside, as it were. At such a moment you can feel something opening in your heart chakra.
There are many moments when such an inner knowing comes to you. For example, you can know something about someone else without really talking much together. You can feel something about both of you that is very important and which will play a major role later on, but all of which cannot be easily captured by words or understood by the mind. I will mention another example of a feeling.
Joy can be a feeling that transcends the emotional. You can feel a joy deep inside that lifts you up for no particular reason. You then feel the divine in yourself, the connection with everything else. Such a feeling can come over you in an unguarded moment. It is then as if something bigger is touching and lifting you. Feelings are not so easy to evoke and sometimes seem to come out of nowhere.
Feelings actually come from the dimension of your higher or greater self. In order to receive these whispers in your heart, it is necessary to be able to become silent inwardly.
Emotions can get in the way of this silence and tranquility. That is why it is so important to come into emotional balance and to internally heal and release unresolved emotions. Only from your feeling, the contact with your soul, you can make really good decisions.
By being still and calm inwardly, you can sense with your whole being what is right for you to do at any given time. Making decisions based on emotion is making decisions from an uncentered position. It is necessary to first let go of the emotions and return to your inner core, where there is clarity.
Now I want to discuss with you how best to deal with emotions. Before this I said: ‘feelings are your teachers, emotions are your children’. The comparison between emotions and children is rich in meanings.
So you can very well see your ‘inner child’ as the seat of your emotions. But there is often a striking resemblance between how you deal with your emotions and how you deal with real children.
A child is by nature honest and spontaneous in his emotions, and he does not hide or suppress them until adults encourage him to do so. However, the fact that he is spontaneous and expressive about this does not mean that the emotions in the child are present in a balanced way. Everyone knows that a child can get carried away by his emotions (anger, fear or sadness) and often cannot stop them himself.
It can then almost drown in his emotion and this makes him uncentered. One of the reasons a child cannot control his emotions is that he comes from a world where limitlessness is the norm. In the superphysical or astral dimensions from which the child descended at birth, there were not nearly as many boundaries and limitations as in the physical body he now experiences.
His emotions are often his reactions of incomprehension to this. As a child grows up in the earthly environment, he needs guidance in dealing with his emotions. This is part of the ‘good incarnation’ on earth.
How do you deal with emotions, in your children or in yourself?
It is better not to suppress or judge emotions. Emotions are an important part of your being and as such they deserve respect and acceptance. You can view the emotions in yourself as children that need your attention and respect, and your guidance. You can see an emotion as something that comes to you to be healed.
It is therefore important not to be completely absorbed in the emotion, but to be able to look at it with awareness. You could put it this way: you should not suppress an emotion, but on the other hand you should not glorify it either. Because if the latter happens, the child within you becomes a tyrant that dominates you and which you have no control over.
The most important thing you can do with an emotion is to invite it to be fully there, while not losing consciousness. Take anger for example. Anger can invite you to be fully there, you can fully experience this energy in your body,
while you continue to look at it with your consciousness and neutrally perceive how the anger is working in you. What happens in that moment is that you surround the emotion, which is essentially incomprehension (why is this happening?, what did I deserve this?), with awareness, with understanding.
We want to explain this with the help of an example. Imagine: a child has bumped his knee on the table and it hurts terribly. The child gets angry, cries in pain and kicks the table leg, because he is angry with the table. He sees the table as the source of his pain. What a loving parent does in that moment is help the child name what he is experiencing.
“You’re angry aren’t you? You’re in pain aren’t you?” This naming is essential. What you do with this is that you bring the problem – the anger, the pain – to the child itself. You shift the focus from the table to him. It’s not in the table; you are in pain, you are angry. And that emotion may be there, I understand!
The parent envelopes the child’s emotion with understanding, with warmth. The moment the child feels seen and understood, the anger can decrease. The physical pain may still be there, but the resistance to the pain, the anger around it may diminish. The child reads understanding and warmth in your eyes. And that has a relaxing effect, the emotion can now flow away. The table, the source of the emotion, no longer matters.
In enveloping the emotion with understanding and warmth, you shift the focus from the outside in, teaching the child to take responsibility for the emotion. You show him that his reaction to a stimulus from the outside world is not fixed, that it is a matter of choice: understanding or incomprehension.
Acceptance or resistance. you choose. If you apply this to yourself, to the relationship between you and your inner child, turning to and naming your own emotions means recognizing the child within you. It can then receive your comfort. This turning inward, this making the whole process subjective, ensures that the child within you does not become filled with resentment, with an intention to hurt someone or something outside.
Strong emotions (whether anger or sadness or fear) always have a component of powerlessness, that comes from feeling yourself a victim of something outside of you. What you do with the above movement is that you in fact eliminate the outside world in the chain of origin of that emotion. It doesn’t really matter what triggered your emotion; you turn purely to the emotion itself and say: okay, this is my reaction, and I understand. I understand why you feel the way you feel.
Loving yourself in such a way to yourself, to your own emotion, sets you free. It does require a certain degree of rigor on yourself. Letting go of the outside world and putting the blame on yourself means admitting to yourself ‘I choose to react that way’.
You no longer look at who is right, whose fault was what, you renounce what happened in the outside world, and you completely bend over yourself. ‘I now experience this emotion in the full awareness that I choose it’. That’s taking responsibility. The strictness lies in the fact that you do not get stuck in your right, do not continue to confirm yourself in your emotion, but really dare to say: this is what I choose; I have control over my emotions.
Taking your own responsibility here is a form of humility: looking yourself in the eye very honestly, even at your weakest moment. This is the rigor that is required of you. But it also needs the softness of self-acceptance. The emotion you have chosen, the anger in this example, may be completely there at the same time. ‘You’re angry, aren’t you? I understand’. You understand it of yourself; you forgive yourself, and this understanding is healing.
This is the true role of consciousness in self-healing. This is spiritual alchemy. Consciousness doesn’t do anything, it surrounds you with something.
It surrounds you with the energy of love and thus transforms misunderstanding into understanding. In essence, consciousness and love are the same. To be aware is to let something be completely and to recognize it as your creation.
Often you think that ‘awareness alone’ is not enough to transcend your emotional problems. You then say: I know what unprocessed emotions I have, I know the causes, I am aware of it, but it does not go away.
In that case, there is a subtle resistance in yourself against that emotion. There is talk of keeping the emotion at a distance, for fear of being overwhelmed by it. But you are never overwhelmed by an emotion, if you consciously choose to allow that emotion. As long as you keep the emotion out, you are at war, in battle with that emotion and it will work against you in all kinds of ways. And you can’t keep her out in the end. It will settle in your body or in certain moods such as dullness and depression.
It is about allowing these emotions fully into your consciousness. And if you don’t know exactly what emotions are involved, you can very well feel the tensions in your body, as a gateway to those emotions. It’s all hero in your body.
You can go with your awareness to tensions in your body and ask what lives there. Imagine a child sitting at the site of the tension. And ask this child to show you what emotion lives in him or her.
There are many ways to connect with emotions within yourself. You have to realize that the energy that has become trapped in the emotion wants to flow through.
This energy would like to release itself and therefore knocks on your door as a physical complaint or a feeling of stress or gloom. For you it is then a matter of making contact and being really willing to open the door.
Emotions are part of your reality on Earth, but it’s good not to let them control you. Emotions are like clouds before the sun.
That is precisely why it is important to deal with it very consciously, so that you can more easily make contact with your inner core, with your feeling or intuition from a tidy emotional body.
There is a lot of confusion about emotions in your society. This is expressed, among other things, in the confusion that exists about raising children. Children are clearly beings who express their emotions spontaneously, much more spontaneously than you are used to as adults. This presents difficulties for you.
What do you do when the boundaries are crossed? What do you do when it seems to be chaos? Should you be strict with children or should you let them go? Should you let their emotions run wild or curb them?
A good upbringing teaches your child to develop an understanding of his emotions, to understand where they come from and to take responsibility for them. With your help, the child learns to understand his emotions as ‘explosions of incomprehension’ and through this understanding he can avoid drowning in his emotions and acting chaotic.
Understanding sets you free and brings you back to your center, without suppressing the emotion. The parent teaches the child this way of dealing with emotions by being a living example.
Any questions you have about dealing with children also apply to yourself. How do you deal with your own emotions? Are you strict with yourself? When you feel angry or sad, tell yourself: Cheer up, now I have to move on, now don’t hang around too long. Are you suppressing the emotion? Do you discipline yourself and pretend that that’s good, that that’s great, that that’s how it should be?
From whom did you receive that information? Maybe from a parent? Or are you going the other way? You get stuck in it and you go to the other extreme: you get so caught up in the emotion that you can’t quite get out of it. This is also very common.
For example, you may have felt a victim of something outside of yourself for a long time in your life: your family, your partner or your work. At some point it is liberating to connect with the anger in yourself about this, because it allows you to detach from the negative influence. However, it may happen that you embrace that anger for a long time, that you are so happy about it in a way, that you don’t want to give it up anymore.
What you then see arise is a form of emotional victimization that is not healing at all, on the contrary, it prevents you from really standing in your own power. It is very important to take responsibility for your own emotions and not make them absolute. If you elevate them to absolute truth, instead of understanding them as ‘explosions of misunderstanding’,
You see the same in this analogy with children who are given too much emotional freedom, who are allowed to take up too much space. They become uncontrollable, they tyrannize you, and that is not the intention. Emotional chaos is just as unpleasant for the child itself as it is for the adults.
You can observe very well within yourself whether there are emotions that you cherish in such a way that you actually just see them as truths (instead of as explosions of misunderstanding).
You have come to identify with those emotions. Paradoxically, these are often emotions that you think you are suffering from! For example: victimhood (‘I can’t do it’, ‘I can’t help it’), leadership (‘I’ll take care of it’, ‘I’ll take it on’), but also sadness, fear, anxiety and so on. These are all emotions that are painful but that actually give you something.
Just think about that victim feeling. There can be benefits to feeling like a victim. It can make you feel good, equally safe, to be a victim. You don’t have to do certain things for yourself. You don’t have to take responsibility. “You can’t help it, can you?” It’s safe that way. It’s a dark corner but still a safe corner.
The danger of getting stuck in your emotions in this way is that you become so fused with them that you lose sight of the clear core within yourself, your own freedom. Things may have happened to you in your life that have justified a sense of anger or resentment.
That could be in your childhood, or later, and they could have been done to you by someone else. It is good to make contact with the feeling of anger, or being wronged. But at some point you have to take responsibility for your own emotional reactions.
Being centered in yourself, being clearly present with yourself, means that you take full responsibility for all the emotions that are in you . You can then acknowledge the emotion of anger in yourself and at the same time say: this was my reaction to certain events.
I surround this response with understanding, but at the same time I intend to let it go. In the end it’s not about being right; it’s about becoming free, about becoming a happy and complete person. It is very liberating to let go of old emotions.
So essentially it’s about finding a point in yourself from which you neither go too far in your emotions nor suppress them. In both directions you have been given things from your upbringing that do not correspond to the essence of spiritual alchemy.
The essence of spiritual growth is that you do not suppress anything, but at the same time you take responsibility for it. I feel this, I choose this reaction, so I can heal her too.
In accepting everything there is in yourself, you become master of it at the same time. That’s the core of my message today. Claim mastery over yourself, over the emotions in yourself that you struggle with, that you feel are tormenting you behind your back. Take responsibility for it, make inner contact with it.
It is your consciousness that is healing here. No one else can give you mastery over your emotions. There are no outer means or instruments to take away or drain those emotions. It is in the process of becoming aware that they are released, that they go to the light. Emotional healing is one of the most important facets of the spiritual growth in which all of you are so involved.
Finally, I want to say: don’t make it too difficult, this spiritual path that you are on. It is all very simple in the end: it is about love for yourself and clarity in yourself. Spiritual growth does not require you to do all kinds of difficult and complicated things.
You have all the instruments to complete that healing yourself at your disposal. Make contact with your feelings in a quiet moment; let your feeling, your intuition tell you what is left that needs to be cleaned up. Get started. Believe in yourself. You are the master of your life, of your way.