“My dear friends,
I salute you all. We welcome your arrival today and we celebrate your presence here on Earth.
Before I say anything on today’s theme of dealing with children, I want to draw your attention to you. Every day anew you try to sow and realize your light, your original nature, on earth.
You experience heaviness in life on Earth. It sometimes seems as if you are trapped in your body or in moods and emotions that are oppressing you. We want to tell you that we trust and respect you for everything you live and accomplish here.
We love you just the way you are and would like you to show more respect for yourself and what you’ve already put down here in your life on Earth. By continuing to hope, desire and love, even as the light becomes veiled around you and you face adversity, you show your greatness and tremendous strength.
You are planting seeds of light on the earth and they will bear fruit. Thanks to the inner work you are doing, you are already forming a bridge to a new generation of incarnating souls who want to shine their light on Earth. We want to speak about these souls today.
Before we talk about these souls, I ask you to go back in time and feel who you yourself were when you entered the earth sphere as a child. Feel the innocence and beauty in your energy.
The sincerity of your desire and the subtlety of your feelings. Oh, you have been connected to the earth for so long! So many times as a small child you have made that leap into the deep. And now feel what your intention was this time.
You probably had some personal baggage with you that you wanted to dissolve in this life. Wounds in your soul that wanted to heal and heal in this life. But in addition, you were also guided by a deeper and more universal ideal, namely the promotion of consciousness and inner growth on Earth.
You knew that you would be born in a time of transition, that there was ‘work to be done’: an inner work that would open new paths in thinking and feeling. You felt involved in this process and were prepared to take the plunge again, to commit yourself once more to this long cherished ideal: peace on earth, unity and connection between all that lives and breathes.
You have broken boundaries in thinking and feeling time and again in your life. Every time you have felt suffocated in old structures and traditional rules, and you knew deep down that your soul could not thrive in a fear-dominated relationship or environment, you have felt the need to struggle free.
It hurt, it was hard and heavy, but you couldn’t help but stay true to the feeling that ‘something wasn’t right’, that it was ‘not enough’, that something was missing. This nagging feeling reminded you of the original ideal that you carry as a soul and that you want to remain faithful.
You often could not adapt well to social demands and ways of thinking, because this did not correspond with what you as a soul wanted to realize on earth. you were destined to be’ and not by God or any other supreme being who is outside or above you, but because you are who you are.
You have been inspired by a new consciousness, which we may call the Christ consciousness, or a heart-supported consciousness, or a consciousness of love and oneness. What you call it isn’t that important.
But the spark has spilled over to you, that much is certain, and it is this spark that propels you forward in your desires, your seeking and your asking. This spark, which is the beginning of a new consciousness on Earth, is now spreading to many. For that reason, the “children of the New Age” feel that their time has come. For that reason, they have been coming to Earth in large numbers for several decades.
They come to complete the inner work of which you are the cradle. You have been inspired by a new consciousness, which we may call the Christ consciousness, or a heart-supported consciousness, or a consciousness of love and oneness. What you call it isn’t that important. But the spark has spilled over to you, that much is certain, and it is this spark that propels you forward in your desires, your seeking and your asking.
This spark, which is the beginning of a new consciousness on Earth, is now spreading to many. For that reason, the “children of the New Age” feel that their time has come. For that reason, they have been coming to Earth in large numbers for several decades. They come to complete the inner work of which you are the cradle. You have been inspired by a new consciousness, which we may call the Christ consciousness, or a heart-supported consciousness, or a consciousness of love and oneness.
What you call it isn’t that important. But the spark has spilled over to you, that much is certain, and it is this spark that propels you forward in your desires, your seeking and your asking. This spark, which is the beginning of a new consciousness on Earth, is now spreading to many. For that reason, the “children of the New Age” feel that their time has come. For that reason, they have been coming to Earth in large numbers for several decades.
They come to complete the inner work of which you are the cradle. But the spark has spilled over to you, that much is certain, and it is this spark that propels you forward in your desires, your seeking and your asking. This spark, which is the beginning of a new consciousness on Earth, is now spreading to many. For that reason, the “children of the New Age” feel that their time has come.
For that reason, they have been coming to Earth in large numbers for several decades. They come to complete the inner work of which you are the cradle. But the spark has spilled over to you, that much is certain, and it is this spark that propels you forward in your desires, your seeking and your asking.
This spark, which is the beginning of a new consciousness on Earth, is now spreading to many. For that reason, the “children of the New Age” feel that their time has come. For that reason, they have been coming to Earth in large numbers for several decades. They come to complete the inner work of which you are the cradle.
You who belong to previous generations of lightworkers, born globally before 1980, were the forerunners and the trailblazers. You were inspired by the same ideal as the ‘new children’ now, by the same call of the soul.
But the territory you explored, especially in the 1960s and 1970s, was still deeply marked by entrenched beliefs and deep-seated fears about freedom of self-expression in the areas of emotionality, creativity, and sexuality. Some forty, fifty years ago, the collective energy field of the Earth was very different from today.
It was denser, more murky and less transparent to the clear and loving energies that can now access the earthly sphere. One of the developments that has contributed to this increasing transparency is the rise of equal women’s rights (from the beginning of the 20th century), or in other words, the greater recognition and appreciation of the female energy in the world.
The much-needed restoration of the feminine energy has contributed to the increasing acceptance and recognition of the emotional dimension in life. In the course of the sixties and seventies of the last century much has broken open in the field of intuition, emotion and creativity.
Much work has been done by the older generation of lightworkers, and it has cost them dearly, for they have had to traverse the valleys of self-doubt and loneliness inwardly before they could open up new horizons for generations to come. You who are part of this older generation have established a beacon of light for them.
Now you pass the baton to this new generation, and in this passing you can provide them with support and guidance, while they can inspire you through the purity and intensity of their radiance. Even more than you, they are ‘different’.
While it was still possible for you to some extent to adapt to an alien environment, it is often impossible for them to realize this adaptation even at the level of outer behavior. Their emotions and their physical bodies protest on a deep level against the limiting energies of many old parenting ideals and educational systems. Adjusting is not an option for many of these children.
Certainly the most sensitive among them will be physically and emotionally shattered in an old energy dominated environment and will show such great adjustment problems that a response from the environment is required. Ignoring or suppressing is no longer possible. The children who come in now will force educators and society to change, because they will no longer be able to deny themselves to the extent that previous generations could.
The children born now (and incarnating on Earth for several decades) carry with them a greater part of their full soul consciousness than you did when you came through ‘the veil of ignorance’. There is a veil in a metaphorical sense that encompasses the earth dimension and separates it from the dimension from which I speak.
This veil is like distorting glasses that, once you put them on, make you believe that you are a separate self, locked inside your body. The veil of ignorance actually makes possible the experience of living on Earth in duality, so it has its value, but now the time has come for a more transparent veil, which allows more communication between both sides.
More and more people reach through the veil, feel that they are one with something greater than just ‘this body’ and ‘this personality’. The more people do this, the more a channel is created through which loving, cosmic energy flows in and touches the Earth. On this wave of cosmic energy the new children come in.
Try to feel the energy of these children and the wave they come in on. Don’t think about it, but open your heart to the feeling it evokes in you. They vibrate on a higher level; their energy feels playful, light and butterfly-like and at the same time wise and of an unusual depth. They very consciously choose to bring a greater part of their essential being, their deepest Self, to earth.
They do this because they want to contribute to the consciousness transformation on Earth, and while they know that this energy will get them into trouble. At the level of their higher selves, they have consciously made this choice. But at the level of the emotional self (or “inner child”) they will collide with the earthly reality and traumas can arise that leave deep traces in their lives. So they are clearly taking a certain risk when they take the plunge into the earthly.
They realize that they run the risk of derailing and getting lost in the earthly sphere. They cannot “turn off” their sensitivity and refined vibration while they are here, so they will either have to find a place on Earth where this energy can flow freely or experience intense difficulties in dealing with Earth’s reality. So behold the courage and love power of these angels.
You showed the same courage and love power when you incarnated.so they will either have to find a place on earth where this energy can flow freely or experience intense difficulties in dealing with earthly reality. So behold the courage and love power of these angels.
You showed the same courage and love power when you incarnated. so they will either have to find a place on earth where this energy can flow freely or experience intense difficulties in dealing with earthly reality. So behold the courage and love power of these angels. You showed the same courage and love power when you incarnated.
I will now go into the characteristics of the new generation of children. Some children exhibit these qualities more strongly than others. In a sense, all children are currently “new age children” – they come in through another (thinner) veil and intend to express a greater part of their souls than ever into matter. But every soul has its own development,
and within the new generation of children there are the extremely sensitive ones, who differ more strongly than the rest and it is this group that you call “new age children”. I will now outline the general characteristics of this particular group of New Age children, bearing in mind that these characteristics are also exhibited to a lesser extent by the new generation of children in general.
In fact, through the development of consciousness on a collective scale, a “new man” is emerging on Earth. An evolution is taking place towards a socially and spiritually more intelligent person who lives in harmony with nature and in respect and connection with his fellow man. The development towards this new human being first manifests itself in the children.
Characteristics of the “new age children”
- – The new children are increasingly clairsentient, empathetic and telepathic. They pick up on feelings from others easily. The boundary between the sensory world and the ‘invisible’ world of feelings, moods and energies is very fluid for them. They perceive “the inside” more easily and are not misled by outward behavior that does not match what is happening inside. Their intuitive perception is accurate.
- – New age children are peacemakers: they feel the impulse to reconcile opposing interests, create harmony and settle conflicts. Together with their intuitive abilities, this often leads these children to grow old and mature early:
they sometimes understand their parents better than they understand themselves or each other, and they often try to help them or build a bridge between the two. They feel they become ‘the parent of their parents’ and can identify with this helping, therapeutic role. Part of their uninhibited childhood can be lost as a result.
- – The new children are idealistic. They are spiritual, profound and imaginative. They are inspired by ideals such as equality, brotherhood and respect for nature. In their aura you often see that the highest two chakras are wide open: they can therefore experience a lot of inspiration, insight and enthusiasm. But often you also see that this energy is not (completely) grounded, which manifests itself in vagueness, restlessness, dreaminess or lack of sense of reality.
- – New age children are more emotional than rational. They have difficulty with preconceived structures and mental boxes that leave little room for intuition, unpredictability and individuality. In fact, they are here to teach us to break with a tradition of excessive thinking and analysis.
Now it is true that all children are emotional beings to some degree, but what distinguishes New Age children is that it is physically and emotionally impossible for them to adapt to an environment that is too highly ratio-based. They then literally become ill or show serious behavioral disorders. They are, as it were, with one leg already so firmly anchored in a heart consciousness that they cannot go back.
- – Partly because of this strong intuitive awareness and their inability to adapt, New Age children can come across as rebellious, “different” or headstrong. In fact, it is not their intention to be rebellious. They just want to be themselves. But if there’s no room for that, they can become dropouts, loners living on the fringes of society.
- Because they are less driven by fear and self-preservation, they are less sensitive to coercion, authority and discipline. Yet they can suffer intensely and be confused by the misunderstanding they encounter. As a result, they may feel alienated and lonely and wonder what the meaning of their presence on Earth is. However, when they do find their place and express their creative and spiritual energy, they are original and inspiring in their ideas and gentle, loyal and non-competitive in their dealings with people.
Problems New Age Children Experience
In the enumeration of these characteristics, it immediately becomes clear what the problems look like that new age children (can) have to deal with. The main problem they encounter is that their energy is not properly recognized and understood by the environment, which prevents them from expressing themselves sufficiently. If communication falters here, if there is a substantial misunderstanding of their energy, various “behavioral disorders” can arise.
Children can become rebellious, hot-tempered and difficult to handle. They don’t feel seen and heard and actually want to say “no”, but don’t know exactly how. They still lack expression skills. What happens over time is that they themselves no longer understand what exactly moves them.
If their inner life is not mirrored by an environment that names it and helps to manifest it, children become locked in with their “otherness”. They can then seem difficult, irrational or unmanageable, and it takes a lot of attention and insight to understand what goes on in these children, because often they don’t know it themselves anymore.
It is also possible that children who feel emotionally unwelcome withdraw and close themselves off from the environment. They do not react in pressure or rebellious behavior. They are in their inner world and are difficult to reach for the parents or other people.
There is often an intense sensitivity in these children, which, together with the incomprehension they experience for their way of being, results in a “slam of feeling”. This reaction is sometimes referred to as autism (or autism-related disorder). It is a paradox that autistic children are called non-empathic (ie incapable of empathizing with others). They are without exception very sensitive.
You could say that they have such a hard time holding on to the boundaries of their own self, that they cannot afford to reach out empathically with their consciousness to another. They have the feeling that their world will collapse, as if everything will sink into chaos and they will not be able to find themselves again. The non-empathic behavior of an autistic child is based on an enormous sensitivity and therefore a very great receptivity to other people’s energy. It is in response to this that an autistic child feels it needs to protect itself and emotionally shuts itself off.
The non-empathic behavior you see in an autistic child is therefore a survival mechanism and not an essential property of the indwelling soul.as if everything will get bogged down in chaos and they won’t be able to find themselves again. The non-empathic behavior of an autistic child is based on an enormous sensitivity and therefore a very great receptivity to other people’s energy.
It is in response to this that an autistic child feels it needs to protect itself and emotionally shuts itself off. The non-empathic behavior you see in an autistic child is therefore a survival mechanism and not an essential property of the indwelling soul. as if everything will get bogged down in chaos and they won’t be able to find themselves again.
The non-empathic behavior of an autistic child is based on an enormous sensitivity and therefore a very great receptivity to other people’s energy.It is in response to this that an autistic child feels it needs to protect itself and emotionally shuts itself off. The non-empathic behavior you see in an autistic child is therefore a survival mechanism and not an essential property of the indwelling soul.
Both children who seek an extroverted “solution” for their inner problems (rebellion, restlessness, concentration problems) and children who choose an introverted solution (locking themselves up in their inner world) have a number of characteristics in common:
- – They don’t feel welcome, not really valued for who they are.
- – They are not properly grounded. You can literally observe this because you see that their aura at the bottom does not reach all the way to the ground. What it concretely means is that they have no resting point in themselves, an anchor, as it were, from which they can clearly feel where they stand. They don’t know what it feels like to be calm and relaxed “with themselves”.
- – They may show physical complaints or react very sensitively to certain foods or other substances.
- – When they become teenagers, it may be difficult to find a good connection with society (eg finding a suitable education or job).
Below we would like to say something about the way in which you could guide these children and teenagers and help them to get a better foothold. But first I want to emphasize that it is important not to think in terms of guilt when we talk about the causes of the problems that New Age children experience. The parents of these children often go out of their way to take good care of them and take care of them.
A number of parents are very aware of the special qualities of their child and become increasingly intuitively attuned to who they are. Due to their openness, a tremendous learning process takes place and it is these parents who, in collaboration with their children, will pave the way for new ways of interacting with children in society.
The sometimes painful confrontation that the new age children enter into with earthly reality has been deliberately chosen. They come to bring something new and in their hearts they know it. This puts their difficulties in a different perspective. At soul level they take responsibility for what they encounter in their lives, they accept the obstacles.
Society is not “against them”, but society is sleeping in many ways. It is the habitual sleep and the arrival of the new age children is a ‘wake-up call’. Yes, they do look a bit like you, can you feel it?! The older generation of lightworkers have experienced the same dilemmas as these children, with the difference that things are gaining momentum these days. The new children are both the cause and the effect of this acceleration.
Guidance of new age children
When guiding new-age children, as a parent, teacher or therapist, the basis is that the supervisor attunes himself inwardly or the emotional reality of each child. The single most important quality you can possess in relation to these children is the ability to listen and be open to something new.
It is therefore not so important whether you have certain knowledge or skills. They can even get in the way. Theories about (new age) children are often based on general classifications of outward behaviour. Diseases and diagnoses are based on the outwardly observable symptoms. But what is so important for successfully guiding these children is that emotional contact is made with the inner consciousness reality from which the behavior comes about.
To look and feel unbiased, you need to let go of preconceived expectations and ideas. You can only make contact with another person (anyone) if you first let go of everything you think you know about that other person. Only then is there room for a feeling presence in the now. That is also a very nice way to welcome someone, because then you are really open to his or her soul energy.
From such a fundamentally open attitude, there is room for a mutual encounter, which is enriching for both parties. The interaction with a new age child is never a one-way street. In the relationship, both of you are teachers at times, and students at other times. This is how it is in all spiritually meaningful relationships.
If the relationship between child and caregiver is entered into in such a clear and open way, there are many possibilities to support the child in his or her development. We will globally name a few ways, which do not pretend to be complete, but which do indicate a certain direction.
- Positive appreciation for their being “different”. Help them remember who they are, help them realize that their sensitivity and idealism is the most beautiful thing they carry with them. Let them identify what they feel “different” in, and encourage them to describe and clarify how this “being different” can enrich the world. Come up with creative ways to give them joy and pleasure in their (high) sensitivity. Bring them together and let them exchange experiences with each other in a group.
- Intuitive development, in which contact is made in a playful way with one’s own emotions and with the body, can help these children to strengthen their self-awareness. Grounding, knowing your own limits and feeling what is good for you from your intuition are skills that these sensitive children can easily learn when they are young and open-minded. As they get older, there may have been a distance from their natural ability to feel, fantasize and imagine.
Then it is often important to first uncover the emotions that are bothering them, or the blockages that prevent them from following their feelings openly. When there are problems, it is often the case that the energy in the lower three chakras is not flowing properly. There are fears, frustrations, disappointments and, as a result, uncertainty, gloom or even death instinct. It helps to let them come into contact with that themselves.
- Respecting their maturity as souls: Assume that their “being different” is a conscious choice on their part and trust that they have the capacity to handle their problems. Don’t treat them as victims. Call on their talents and abilities: let them find and formulate their own answers as much as possible. Encourage them to get in touch with their original inspiration and let them figure out for themselves how they want to shape this inspiration.
- Attention to self expression. Attention to the shape. Often the energy of new age children or young people is so ethereal and idealistic that it seems elusive. It is good for these children to express themselves in material form.
It can be in creative form or in sports and games, but what matters is that there are tangible forms through which they ground their energy and become visible to others. This is channeling their energy to the earth. The premise here is that they enjoy expressing themselves in material form. If they are encouraged to experiment freely in this, they will naturally find their own ‘form in the form’.
- Gentle, natural healing methods such as healing, reading and alternative medicine can be very effective for these children because they are so sensitive to energy and these methods work first on the energy (the psyche) and secondly on the body.
Here too it is important not to choose a particular method on the basis of general external symptoms, but on the basis of an inner attunement to the unique situation of the child in question. As a parent or therapist you can ask the child inwardly whether the substance in question is good for her/him. And if it is old enough, you can very well involve the child yourself and let it choose.
- Appropriate education (for all children, but new-age children in particular) takes the child himself and his experience as the starting point. In the past, knowledge from tradition was often passed on ‘over the heads of children’. If knowledge transfer takes place too much from above, the information becomes dry and rigid, and children will not be able to place it in their environment.
They will turn away from it and become unwilling. Then it seems impossible to teach a child anything without coercion and discipline. However, in every child there is an original curiosity and desire to learn. You can see this very clearly in the little child who is constantly exploring and exploring his world. Education must match this will.
Responding to and cooperating with the child’s “free will” forms the foundation of new education. In this approach, the teacher is first asked to be present with the child in a listening, intuitive way. There is confidence in the natural abilities and individuality of the child. The child is not so much regarded as an empty vessel into which knowledge is poured, but as an adult soul with its own interests, goals and talents.
To use an artistic metaphor, it is not about creating a sculpture from a rough mass of stone, but about liberating the already present and perfect image, which is still hidden in the stone. There is confidence in the natural abilities and individuality of the child.
The child is not so much regarded as an empty vessel into which knowledge is poured, but as an adult soul with its own interests, goals and talents. To use an artistic metaphor, it is not about creating a sculpture from a rough mass of stone, but about liberating the already present and perfect image, which is still hidden in the stone.
There is confidence in the natural abilities and individuality of the child. The child is not so much regarded as an empty vessel into which knowledge is poured, but as an adult soul with its own interests, goals and talents. To use an artistic metaphor, it is not about creating a sculpture from a rough mass of stone, but about liberating the already present and perfect image, which is still hidden in the stone.
Dealing with your child’s suffering
If you are the parent of a sensitive child and you see that he or she is having a very hard time in this world, you would like to save or protect your child. Unnoticed you can start to see the outside world as the culprit and your child as the vulnerable victim.
You may get scared and wonder if your child will ever make it without you. Seeing your children suffer can throw you back on your own worst fears, sorrows, and disappointments in your life. Yet there is always a hidden logic hidden in the arrival of the child in your life. There is a deeper meaning with a very positive thrust.
One way to find that logic and meaning is to look at the child through different eyes. Not as a helpless vulnerable creature, but as a teacher – an angel if you will – who comes to tell you something. I invite you to do the following guided fantasy with me. If you don’t have a child of your own, feel free to have a fantasy child come to you.
Imagine walking in a beautiful garden. Open your heart to this world of peace and harmony and let your gaze wander over the many flowers and plants in the garden. Feel the steady rhythm of the seasons, the cycles completing all by themselves.
Now you look to the side and you see that a child is walking with you. Take the first child that comes to mind. It silently takes your hand and together you walk through the garden, taking in the beauty of nature.
After a while you will find a seat, a bench or a clearing at the bottom of a tree. You sit down. Now look at that child. Take in the face. You look it intensely in the eye and after a while you notice that a metamorphosis is taking place. Slowly you see the child turn into an angel. You see it take on a luminous aura, very ethereal, and you may see colors appear around the child.
You look very calmly at this angel child and you feel more and more awe at this apparition. You feel yourself becoming a bit smaller, you literally feel yourself becoming a bit of a child again. Let the burdens of adulthood slip from your shoulders for a moment and feel the wonder that is a child again.
You look wide-eyed at that beautiful angel in front of you and you notice that she has something to tell you. She (or he) does that first with her eyes, by making you feel an energy. You let that energy come over you, and feel what the essence of this energy is.
And then you ask this angel something. You ask, ‘Why did you come to Earth? What are you bringing here?’
You let the angel speak. It does not necessarily have to be in words, it can also be through the feeling. Then you suddenly know without words – or images – being used.
When you have received the answer, you let the angel know that you have understood and then you ask, ‘What is the highest I can do for you? How can I best support you in your mission, in your intention?’
Let the angel child tell you.
Then say goodbye to each other while you feel that a lasting connection has been made from heart to heart.
Often what the child asks of you is something that has helped you yourself. What you support it with is almost always exactly what you essentially support yourself with. We will cite some examples.
For example, you may have a very introverted, hard-to-reach child. What that requires from you is to learn to tune in to him emotionally, to be patient and to dare to go into the depth of your feeling.
That helps the child. Usually it is the case that these qualities are important for you to develop, not in the first place for the child, but for yourself! You may be someone who has very strong convictions, or who is quite action-oriented, practical and decisive, and who has never descended that far into feelings and emotions. The child invites you to restore the balance.
So while your child initially presents you with a problem, there is also hidden in the problem an incentive to develop certain qualities that fit very well into your specific path of development as a soul.
You may also have a spirited and assertive child, who easily oversteps your boundaries and forces you to “act up” and clearly state what can and cannot be done. The child frequently makes you angry, and you feel overwhelmed at times by his or her presence. What this child asks of you is that you become clear inwardly about your limits, so that you can indicate them in a calm and self-conscious way.
If there is a lot of struggle, it usually means that you are not yet sure what you will and will not tolerate. The child forces you like no other to clarify this and to determine where you stand in the relationship with him or her, and usually in all other relationships that you enter into.
The child (or rather your reaction to the child) magnifies a problem that is already there. Most likely you had a problem with assertiveness before the child arrived. Now the child asks you to become really powerful and inwardly aware of who you are, and that is exactly what is good for you in your own developmental path.
Where you develop the qualities that support the child, you help yourself and the child. Through your increased understanding, love, warmth, independence and strength, you can become a role model for the child, a beacon of light.
And so, in a mutual stimulation of growth and healing, a new energy is born on Earth. A torch of light is passed down from generation to generation, one that shines brighter and brighter.
We commend you for your commitment, love and commitment. We wish you to experience joy and pleasure in the adventurous journey of discovery you embark on with the new generation of children. We hope you have compassion for them but especially for yourself and your own ups and downs on this road.
We trust that your torch will stay burning and send many sparks to the torchbearers who come after you. But whatever you do, whether you experience joy or despair, compassion or judgment, open-mindedness or resignation, we will continue to support and encourage you. You are welcome, always.
questions and answers
After the channeling there was an opportunity to ask questions. Some of these questions and answers are listed below.
What can I do for my autistic 6 year old daughter?
First of all I want to say that you love your daughter very much and that this love is very tangible for her, and with that the most important thing has been said. Your love envelopes her as if in a constant, invisible embrace.
That doesn’t take away the problems that she experiences, and that you experience in relationship with her, but it is a very important condition for things to work in your lives. So feel it for yourself, how honest and sincere your love is: that is the most beautiful gift you can give a child.
It is understandable that at times you may feel despairing, and desperate, but at the bottom there is a deep love that binds you together. If things don’t go the way you want or hoped, then it’s not up to you or her. There is something she wants to work out in this life, a special reason why she carries this problem with her. She wants to be here on earth in a very pure way.
She carries a very pure and loving energy that will touch many people. But it will take a lot of patience, from itself and from you, for this energy to land on Earth. She has chosen – this is a bit complicated to put into words – to bring a pure and high energy to the earth and also to be relatively unprotected therein.
So her energy is not aligned with the structures of the earth and so she needs a translator, someone who makes the translation to earthly reality. She has chosen this unprotection and high sensitivity because it keeps the original quality of Light that she has within her intact.
You can also see it this way, I’ll say this a bit more generally. If you have a “normal” child, normal in the sense that it adapts more easily to worldly expectations, that child is more likely to forget itself. It is more likely to be influenced by society’s expectations and norms and even the most enlightened and sensitive parents often cannot prevent it.
A child who is “afflicted” with certain problems, such as in the field of autism, does not make that translation, that adjustment so easy. But it is precisely because of this that something of the inner dimension of the child is preserved, something which, as it were, does not give way.
The environment will have to adapt to this child, instead of the other way around. This situation is often very problematic for parents, doctors or educators. But in the problem is a hidden treasure. The child’s being different challenges the environment to find new ways of communicating, not to take anything for granted and to be really open to the inner reality of the child.
What is asked of you in the relationship with your daughter is above all to have faith in this child and to listen to her needs. And you do that very well! You have a large spiritual space at your disposal. Also trust that this child has chosen her own path in life, that she has already mapped out certain milestones in her life herself and that she has chosen you as parents so that you can pave the way together to let her Light shine on Earth . You do that very well.
Addition Pamela: after this morning I did a short reading of this girl based on a photo. It turned out that her autism is also based on a previous life experience. I literally reproduce the reading below.
Above her head I see a lot of light blue energy in the form of shimmering links that are in an upright oval above her crown chakra. It contains a high vibrating energy, which has to do with deep insight into the life and psyche of man. In my opinion she once lived on earth and then had a very strong spiritual or clairsentient experience in which a lot of knowledge came through.
She knew a lot then and saw everything about the people around her, including the power relations and secret games that people played among themselves. Somehow she couldn’t give that knowledge a place afterwards. I get the feeling that she then became ill, that she was both physically and mentally became unwell. She couldn’t express her truth, because her closest friends couldn’t “get it”, they didn’t get it.
This gave her many fears, she had the feeling that she had knowledge with which you can protect others from suffering and injustice and at the same time not be able to express it because you would then be excluded. My impression is that she was not able to solve this dilemma in that life, that she was destroyed by physical and psychological problems, which resulted from not being able to integrate those higher insights.
She snapped shut, this had an effect on the throat (self-expression), the heart (connection with others), and the lower three chakras (keeping you safe and secure to feel). Now this higher knowledge (those blue links) hangs above her head, it is very pure and beautiful, and her intention for this life is now to integrate this with her physical and emotional reality on earth. I also feel strongly that that is exactly why she came to you.
You as a mother also have some of that blue (that quality of higher insight) in your aura, so there is a natural connection to her, and you also have red in your aura at the lower chakras, indicating that you can stand up for your truth, stand up for yourself (although I also feel there has been pain because of that). I have the feeling that just your presence with your daughter is healing for her, that’s really beautiful. She wants to heal in this life, step by step. You are part of the solution, not the problem.
My two sons are both highly sensitive, but in very different ways, which is why they have quite a bit of strife among themselves. I find that very difficult. I also get involved in a struggle with them, while I am so fond of peace and harmony. How do I deal with this?
It is very important for you to stand behind yourself and to stand up for your own feelings, and to set clearer boundaries for others. Your consciousness can sometimes automatically “go up” and be active mainly from the higher chakras. From your top two chakras you can easily empathize with others, but you often lose contact with your own center, say your belly, in which your basic feeling resides: ‘I want this and I don’t want this’. So the child in you sometimes gets trapped.
You are very sensitive yourself, and in your sensitivity is a strong compassion, a reaching out to others. This is based on a desire to be together, to feel connected, but you do yourself short of that. It is important to dare to enter into an energy shift in yourself and also to take emotions such as anger and not wanting to take seriously.
The struggle you have with your children and the mutual struggle is there for a reason! This challenges you to set your limits and demand respect for yourself. This is often a problem for parents who are highly sensitive themselves, who understand their children well and do not want to hurt them.
In the role of parent they sometimes get out of balance because they start to suppress their own emotions and lose sight of their own inner child. So you can put yourself more powerfully in the relationship with your children.
One of your children is sensitive in a way just like you are. The other has a more robust appearance, but is also sensitive, only he reacts differently. These children are clearly connected to you.
Also try seeing them as adult angels (as we just practiced) and see what they have to say to you. In any case, be convinced that that struggle has something to teach you, something about a balance in your own energy. Then you will be able to live with it more easily, look at it differently.
By becoming more self-aware and assertive, you will be better able to lead your children. By choosing for yourself you help them, because then they will see a positive example of what it is like to be both sensitive and powerful (self-aware). When you embody that, you help them more than anything you say.
Because that is what you will then radiate, and children pick up on that, especially sensitive children. They listen less to words, but mainly feel who you are. So give yourself more space and you will see that it benefits your grounding and that it brings more fullness and true harmony into your life.
How do I achieve my ideal of guiding children? I feel an enthusiasm to work with children, but at the same time I feel inhibited by fear and doubt and because I think: who is waiting for me? Each time I am thereby “interrupted” in the movement to manifest myself outwardly. What can I do about it?
Explanation Pamela: This question was asked several times in various forms. I have summarized the question here in a general sense and afterwards asked Maria for an overarching answer. That’s what follows below.
There is an authentic desire within you, which comes from a deeply felt inspiration in your soul. It is important to nurture that desire and deal with it calmly and lovingly. Besides enthusiasm, this desire also awakens fears. It exposes an old pain, going back to your childhood and/or past lives, in which you were rejected for the specific qualities you wanted to share with those around you.
That rejection (often resulting in violent persecution in past life situations) has left a trauma in your soul. This trauma is now causing a great hesitation and reluctance in you to re-manifest your original soul energy. Understanding and accepting this is a first, fundamental step towards becoming whole within yourself.
Take the time to heal the hurt inner child within you. Your enthusiasm is a good indicator, but it can also make you restless, because you want to get over your inner wounds too quickly. In fact, this whole process is not about your outer manifestation, but your inner healing.
The first and foremost aim of the soul in incarnating on earth is always inner self-realization. Developing love for and acceptance of yourself. That is the foundation of all truly creative, spiritual energy. When this foundation is laid, the flow outwards will follow naturally.
The fact that you want to start working and being in the world from your heart shows that you want to get to the core of what still hides in your soul of fear and darkness. The desire to express your soul energy on Earth comes your way, the moment you are ready for a deep level of self-healing.
Because you want to express your heart energy on Earth, you will become more than ever detached from your past, your upbringing and relationships that no longer feed you. Connecting with your soul inspiration thus sets a lot in motion, and it can therefore seem as if you are taking a few steps back before putting your spiritual energy into clear material form.
You break new ground by making contact with the deepest layers in your soul, and that often first brings a lot of turmoil, change and even chaos in your life. This state of affairs is exactly as it “should be”. So do not despair if manifesting your soul desires comes in fits and starts. It is these fits and starts that make you realize deep down who you are and what you have to give to others.
In living through the old fears and pain that you encounter, in the sight and acknowledgment of them, your empathy becomes great and wide.
You become more and more judgmental, your gaze becomes mild and wise – and just when you think, okay I get it, it’s only about my self-healing and not about that of others, that’s when they come: the people and the possibilities that your desires in the field of work help to convert it into concrete material form.
At that point you are ready, and the outer manifestation will be relatively easy. You can accelerate this moment by saying yes completely to your fears and doubts and taking them by the hand like frightened children who can knock on your door for help.”