When we say ‘I am healthy’, it usually refers to our physical body. But what about our emotional state? What does it mean to be emotionally healthy? Psychologist Jonice Webb, the author of Unknown Feelings, lists 5 characteristics. They may surprise you…
Do you understand your reactions to certain things? Are you aware of your feelings and why you feel them?
Do you ever wonder how emotionally healthy you are?
We all have a general idea of what we think an emotionally healthy person looks like. Perhaps such a person in your eyes is not depressed, anxious, diagnosed, or in pain. Perhaps an emotionally healthy person is happy or lives a good life.
Five characteristics of an emotionally healthy person
1. You can form contradictions in your head
Is she a good or bad person? Did you like the movie or not? Are you talented or not? Who’s right? You or me? ‘ In all areas of your life, you can polarize things to arrive at a simple answer. But this especially happens with very personal questions, such as how you see yourself, how you look back on your childhood, and how you see others.
Not everyone manages to see the gray areas. But we go one step further. The ability to say, ” We’re both right and we’re both wrong” during a conflict with someone else. ‘ To be able to conclude in any situation: ‘ This is extremely good and bad. This person has good and bad intentions. ” I love you and hate you at the same time. My parents have given me a lot, but they have also disappointed me. ‘ Everything is true.
Opposites go together better than you think. And if you can simultaneously form those opposites in your head, you get a better picture of yourself, someone else or of a situation. An image that is much closer to the truth than when you try to find a one-dimensional answer.
2. You can control your feelings while communicating
It’s hard enough to control your feelings, but to do that while communicating with someone else? That goes one step further. It’s quite a challenge. Try suppressing the pain while explaining your feelings to someone. Or to control your anger while describing a problem in such a way that the other person understands you. These are two examples of strong psychological mental health.
3. You are self-aware
Everyone knows themselves. But how good really? Do you understand your reactions to certain things? Are you aware of your feelings and why you feel them? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Talents? What do you like and what do you like less? What do you need and what do you enjoy? When you understand yourself well, you can handle more, but you can also forgive yourself faster for the mistakes you’ve made and you make better life choices.
4. You feel comfortable in your own body
This means you are happy to be yourself. For example, by spending time with yourself in a happy and comfortable way. Can you be alone without entertainment and still feel comfortable? Are you living in the now and not thinking about the future, the past, or anything or anyone else? Are you able to feel a feeling, accept that feeling and try to understand it? These are all examples of how you feel comfortable in your own body.
5. You are willing to take risks
It takes a lot of strength and resilience to venture out of your comfort zone. Are you willing to do that? Do you trust that you can make mistakes without being held back? Do you know yourself well enough to know what things are worth? Can you forgive yourself when something doesn’t work? It does indeed take a lot of strength to make mistakes and then move on with your life.
Don’t worry if all of these examples sound intimidating. Very few people have all five characteristics. You’re already making progress by having just one.
Three ways to live a healthier emotional life
1. Don’t always try to be right
When you let go of the urge to always be right, a new world opens up for you. You get a much better picture of the world and that way you become a lot wiser. Let go of the good-or-bad mentality and start seeing yourself and others in a different way.
By seeing opposites, the truth, you better understand your own feelings (which are often diametrically opposed) and those of others. This way you see and understand yourself better.
2. Learn and do mindfulness exercises
Mindfulness, living in the present where you focus on yourself, on what you do, and what you feel. Mindfulness is important to become self-aware and to feel comfortable in your own body. It has also been scientifically proven that mindfulness has a positive effect on other psychological aspects.
3. Try to see your mistakes from a different angle
Mistakes are a sign of courage. If you make mistakes, it means you have stepped out of your comfort zone and taken a risk. By making mistakes in the right way, you develop yourself more. You learn more from your mistakes than from your successes.
As you become more self-aware, communicate better emotionally, and feel more comfortable in your own body, you can take more risks and learn from them. You form deeper relationships that give you more satisfaction. Ultimately, you will achieve and experience much more than you could have ever dreamed.