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Goddesses in woman: Hera

This series of articles is about the female archetypes as Jean Shinoda Bolen described them through goddesses from Greek mythology. Each goddess represents a character structure with good qualities and pitfalls, its own shadow aspects and its own potential for personal growth. This time: Hera

The archetype

The wife

1950We all know the fifties picture of the stereotypical housewife: Hubby comes home after a hard day’s work, his wife gives him the newspaper, his slippers and an aperitif and starts cooking. That’s the attitude of a Hera woman. She lives for her husband. Although we find this exaggerated image to be stereotyped and unemancipated these days, it is indeed a motive for many women to want to commit themselves to a man, to take care of him and to derive their happiness in life from their marriage. Although the drive to be faithful and pursue lasting relationships is an important motive in human history, there are many limitations for a woman to pursue that as the main life goal. 

The pattern of life

 

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Hera on the medallion of a red-figured kylix by the painter of Sabouroff (c. 470 BC, Staatliche Antikensammlungen in Munich)

Hera is the wife of Zeus, the supreme god, in mythology, but her marriage does not seem to make her happy. Zeus goes one after another and Hera runs from one place to another to put out fires, limit the loss of face, take revenge on illegitimate offspring and scold Zeus for not being faithful to her.

She has what she wanted, but above all seems afraid of losing it and at the same time it makes her deeply unhappy. Hera is an archetypal pattern imposed on women in patriarchal cultures. Until well into the twentieth century, women regarded a good marriage as the highest good in life.

They too hoped to be loved and respected by their husbands as his one and only wife. They were often deceived. Even in today’s spiri-land, breaking free from the stubborn ideal of the lifelong, starving, monogamous love relationship proves difficult. The Hera archetype is a pattern that is closely intertwined with femininity and at the same time one of the biggest pitfalls for women.

A typical Hera woman is a status-sensitive woman who rises in society by marrying a rich, powerful man. She is driven by a blind instinct to be faithful to one person. She will often claim her husband and want to bend it to her will. At the same time, he must behave like ‘a real man’ and treat her with courtesy and protection.

She seeks a symbiosis with her husband and falls into a deep pit when her relationship is disappointing or ends. Because the Hera archetype has been forced on women to the extreme as a result of patriarchal coercion, many women will have some traits of the archetype, although most will not have the full palette of ‘Hera traits’. Most women will recognize that they can be very attached to their partner and ambivalent in their wishes towards him,

As a teenager, she seeks a steady relationship with a boy who is popular. As a woman she is looking for a man with status or at least the security of a good income. A Hera woman is sensitive to the outward status of the marriage.

She values ​​jewelry and wedding rings, the fact that she uses her husband’s name and emphatically puts her husband forward as head of the family. The expectation that marriage will bring ultimate happiness, and the hangover that follows when it turns out not to be, is at the heart of the Hera archetype in (post)patriarchal cultures.

Under the influence of women’s emancipation, social appreciation for Hera is somewhat on the decline. Most women would like to get married, but they will not want to devote their lives to a man, they will gladly continue to work side-by-side, maintain good relationships with friends, or devote attention to their hobbies.

We like to see ourselves as free women. And that’s precisely why many women are shocked by the vehemence of their own reaction when they suspect their husbands are cheating, or when their relationship is threatened in some other way. We no longer find that attitude of this time, which is why many women have supplanted Hera.

How is the archetype activated?

A typical Hera girl talks about getting married at a young age. Some teenage girls are so obsessed with getting married and proposed to them by their prince on the white horse that other avenues of fulfillment fail. The film ‘ Muriel’s Wedding ‘ is a clear example of such a girl. Because nowadays girls are more or less expected to get an education and go to work, Hera’s influence is a bit overruled by the more autonomous archetypes, but such girls still exist.

Some women naturally have a strong Hera slant, but there is also a lot of cultural pressure that pushes women to get married. For example, because a single woman is asked again and again: “So, what about love?” while she herself does not have to have a problem with being single. Sometimes women marry because they feel they are expected to, or they think under the influence of romantic movies, sugary pop songs or the blissful aura that surrounds the marriage, that they will be happy if they are married.

The archetype can also make a sudden impact later in life when a woman, after a long single period, finds that she is the only one in her group of friends who is not yet married. The fear of “shooting over” and ending up as a spinster (that’s how a Hera woman really feels) can overwhelm a woman just like Demeters fear of being childless (sometimes they occur at the same time). She can then desperately start dating, go down dating in misery just to have someone, and cry bitter tears when she can’t seem to find the right one.

That the Hera archetype is not only a result of a patriarchal system that allowed women only to marry, but also has a basis in the psyche of women themselves, is evident when a lesbian woman feels the same harrowing grief as a heterosexual woman when she is constantly can’t find a partner. Making long-lasting, close connections is a primary motivation for many women. However, they often have a lot of karma attached to this beautiful quality, as will become clear later. 

Little self-awareness

A Hera woman experiences little ground in herself and that is the reason that she clings to a partner so much. A Hera woman takes marriage or a committed relationship extremely seriously. ‘Till death do you both part’ really means life for her. A Hera woman cannot be alone.

She lacks the autonomous basis within herself that characterizes the virgin goddesses, especially Hestia. She has no definite idea of ​​who she is and needs a partner’s relational ‘reflection’ to see herself as an individual. For that reason, a Hera woman will want to talk a lot about the quality of the relationship. For her partner this can seem like endless booming, but she needs it to know where they stand as a couple.

To a large extent, she derives her identity from being together. If she knows where ‘they’ are, she knows where ‘she’ is. Knowing that the quality of the relationship is good and that all irritations are ironed out is important for her well-being and self-awareness. You could say that she is not an ‘I’ but a ‘we’. You could also say that she gets the much-needed yang she doesn’t have from the man in her life.Goddesses in the woman-Hera

High expectations of marriage

A Hera woman lives from childhood with the expectation that marriage will make her perfectly happy. She searches for the ultimate unity between man and woman. As a little girl she already wants to get married, as a teenage girl she is very serious about boyfriends and relationship problems. When such a teenage courtship ends, her world collapses. Inconsolable heartbreak is a real Hera ailment.

A Hera woman takes marriage very seriously, but can be tackled by her own overwrought expectations. Many a Hera woman lives with the illusion that she will be truly happy if only she is married. She may be in a disappointing relationship and genuinely believe that everything will be fine as long as she is married. She is so focused on the status of the marriage that she sometimes has a blind spot for the quality of her relationship.

Meeting unspoken expectations

A Hera woman has a strong sense that something is expected of her, although that has never been said to her in so many words. She feels insecure if she’s not sure she’s complying, and guilty if she clearly doesn’t.

A Hera woman has internalized the patriarchal message that a woman must nurture and serve her husband, give the last word, and present herself to the outside world as a faithful and supportive wife to earn respect. Nowadays no mother will literally pass on that message to her daughters, but a Hera woman feels that way.

A Hera woman apologizes if her house isn’t spotless when visitors come. She believes that a woman should have her house in tip-top shape and feels inadequate when it isn’t (as if it’s easy with a family). She subconsciously thinks that she has no right to relaxation and pleasure if she has not fulfilled her obligations first, but the obligations she imposes on herself are in fact unachievable. She may fall prey to self-blame and guilt when, in fact, she has done nothing wrong.

She conforms to the patriarchal ideal of the subordinate woman who knows her place because she keeps herself under control. She is so docile that she does not claim space for her own wishes. are in fact unachievable. She may fall prey to self-blame and guilt when, in fact, she has done nothing wrong. She conforms to the patriarchal ideal of the subordinate woman who knows her place because she keeps herself under control.

She is so docile that she does not claim space for her own wishes. are in fact unachievable. She may fall prey to self-blame and guilt when, in fact, she has done nothing wrong. She conforms to the patriarchal ideal of the subordinate woman who knows her place because she keeps herself under control. She is so docile that she does not claim space for her own wishes. 

Hera in relationships

For a Hera woman, her relationship is both her greatest source of strength and her greatest pitfall. She can say like no other: “We are going to do this together”. A Hera woman, if her shadow aspects don’t tackle her too much, is a team player. She cannot function alone.

A Hera woman is unconditionally committed to her husband, but also expects him to be emotionally available to her. For her, marriage is a source of fulfillment in which the love between the two is a source of nourishment for her. She expects a man to remain loyal to her, be emotionally warm to her, bring her gifts as a token of his appreciation for her, and openly flaunt her as his wife.

However, if status is very important to her and she chooses a man who is pursuing a career and wants to climb the social ladder as high as possible (because appearance success is important to her, it often happens), she can be disappointed and her marriage can be broken. become a source of depression and bitterness instead of a source of fulfillment. If she marries an ambitious man, she may feel that he is more married to his work than to her, and this disappoints her.

Power-hungry men are often emotionally immature and incapable of the kind of emotional security a Hera woman truly desires. And they have a strong tendency to cheat. she may be deceived and her marriage may become a source of depression and bitterness instead of a source of fulfillment. If she marries an ambitious man, she may feel that he is more married to his work than to her, and this disappoints her. Power-hungry men are often emotionally immature and incapable of the kind of emotional security a Hera woman truly desires. And they have a strong tendency to cheat.

she may be deceived and her marriage may become a source of depression and bitterness instead of a source of fulfillment. If she marries an ambitious man, she may feel that he is more married to his work than to her, and this disappoints her. Power-hungry men are often emotionally immature and incapable of the kind of emotional security a Hera woman truly desires. And they have a strong tendency to cheat.cheating-Hera

Precisely because marriage is so important to her, her world collapses when her husband cheats. Her biggest fear is that that will happen. She will constantly want to know where her husband is, become jealous if he leaves without her (she will want to do everything herself with her partner) and in the worst case, if she has serious reasons to be suspicious, she will take refuge to questionable means such as checking his telephone or mailbox.

She takes the ‘we-ness’ of her relationship very seriously, but demands the same attitude from her partner and does so in a rather coercive way. She can destroy her relationship in her efforts to make him perfect. Precisely because she wants to make sure that she can trust her husband, she is molesting the basis of trust in her relationship because her husband cannot trust her.

She is so blinded by her illusions about marriage that will bring her full fulfillment that her world collapses the moment she discovers her husband has another. She is also very naive about it; she believes her husband when he says she’s sorry and can be hurt again and again by her husband’s escapades while he promised to change his life. A Hera woman can be a slave to her illusion about her dream marriage for years.

Some Hera women may try to please their man to the extreme. She only wants to cook what he likes, do only what he likes, wear only what he likes. In their fixation on their partner, they forget that individuality, originality and autonomy can make a partner more interesting than coquetry. It is precisely this extreme attachment in which the difference between ‘he’ and ‘she’ disappears that many men get on their nerves.

And many men nowadays no longer need a woman who does exactly what they want and appreciate authenticity in a woman. If he ends the relationship then she can’t understand. Didn’t she try so hard to please him? She does not realize that a relationship is a dynamic between ‘together’ and ‘autonomous’. She needs to learn that in order to learn to build a balanced relationship. 

Hera as mother

The Hera archetype makes women, while compliant and subservient, not really caring. If no milder archetypes are active in her, a Hera woman is a fairly distant mother. She is so attached to her husband that she is less emotionally available to her children. Typical Hera behavior is letting her mother role end when her children are adults, unlike a Demeter woman, who always continues to feel like a mother. If her adult children are in trouble or need help, they can expect little help from their mother.

In a woman with a strong Hera identification that spills over to the dark side, there is a negative pattern that can severely affect her children: she is so extremely attached to her husband that she takes sides with her husband when she had her children. have to protect. In times when the man was still in charge of the house, it often happened that the father was unreasonable with his children and when the children went to ask their mother, her answer was: “You heard what your father said.” The meta-message was: I think the bond with my husband is more important than with you.

That is a hurtful experience for a child and many adult children have resented their parents for this behavior and later expressed it. Often they would run into a wall of incomprehension, where the bulwark of the parents’ marriage and the father’s power, supported by the mother, once again became apparent. These children often have no or very little contact with their parents. There is not much for them to gain. Being raised by a combination Hera woman / Zeus man is in fact a guarantee for therapy at a later age.

The Dark Sides/The Repression

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A Hera woman has in common with an Athena woman that they both strive for social success, but where an Athena woman achieves that success herself, a Hera woman uses her husband as an intermediary to climb up socially. Although many emancipated women don’t like the Hera strategy, you can’t deny that it works: a gold digger who does it smartly leads a luxurious life that doesn’t even require much effort. A status-sensitive Hera woman can  marry an unattractive man who is wealthy as a trophy wife .gold digger She mercilessly takes advantage of the fact that many low-conscious men with big egos become inattentive when flattered by a woman. They strive for ever greater success in flattering their wives, unaware that they are in fact being hitched like a horse to a cart to give their wives a luxurious life. On the surface, she serves her husband and behaves the way a decent woman should behave under the patriarchy – subservient and docile, but in fact she directs her husband to where she wants him: high society.

Just as her husband uses his wife to appear in public and polish his image as a successful alpha male with a fairytale marriage, she uses him as a tool for her purposes. The credo ‘power eroticizes’ probably only applies to women with a strong Hera slant. Many other women are not that interested in a rich, successful man at all because they see through the facade. 

The Patriarchal Woman

The Hera archetype has a lot to do with the suppression of female power under the patriarchy (the reason for this will become clear later). A Hera woman joins the pattern alpha-man-servant woman. In fact, she gives herself completely to her husband and puts aside her own wishes to please him (from the previous section it becomes clear that she does have a self-interest in doing so).

Even today, Hera women in a relationship can experience obligations that we no longer consider of this time. For example, she may feel that you cannot refuse a man sex, or she may not dare to contradict him even when he is wrong. Or she thinks you should take care of a man or that it is ‘pathetic’ if a man still has to do household chores after a day’s work. It can be even more extreme. You sometimes read a story in the newspaper that a father for years severely abused his children or even committed incest with them.

The mother knew about it, but tolerated how her children were being destroyed under her nose. When confronted with such a mother, she cannot really say why she allowed it. This is the darkest manifestation of a twisted Hera archetype. Any other woman would have left a guy like that. A Hera woman’s symbiosis with her husband is so overwhelmingly powerful that she is capable of sacrificing her children to her marriage. Her loyalty to her husband comes not from a conscious choice to be with that man, but from an instinct to be with someone to fill a void in herself (this too will become clear later on).

The ‘little’ woman

A Hera woman keeps herself small and pretends to be dumber than she is. She will never boast about her intelligence or her achievements. She behaves ‘blonde’ and likes to be helped by men with chores she could have done herself, but she wants to ensure their sympathy and loyalty. And she does that by stroking their egos. Not every Hera woman will still consciously regard men as ‘the boss’ today, but that is the division of roles that she unconsciously aims for.

Because she is not aware of her own qualities, she uses a man as an ‘auxiliary engine’ to get things done that she thinks she cannot do, but also does not want to investigate whether she might be able to do them. A Hera woman unconsciously considers the female sex to be the weaker sex because she has too little self-awareness to notice and develop her qualities. And all too often she finds that underdog position extremely comfortable. 

Mighty from behind the throne

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Because a Hera woman is manipulative, she knows how to exert a lot of influence from her position as a wife. She knows everything, knows everyone and is unconditionally loyal to her husband who often resembles Zeus in his pursuit of power and success. Although a Hera woman has a lot of influence, she doesn’t show that she has it. She doesn’t want to offend her husband with her Machiavellian qualities, although she does let him take advantage of it.

And just like with cheating there is a ‘ don’t ask, don’t tell’agreement in which they both certainly know what’s going on, but never explicitly state it because they mutually benefit from the deal in the pursuit of power and status. A Hera woman is therefore an open champion of a patriarchal balance of power. As a woman, she consciously plays second fiddle so as not to offend her husband’s male pride and to gain a position of prestige in which she rides on the success of another.

Precisely because she does not openly present herself as powerful and influential and behaves dependent, her power can become very great because she is underestimated by powerful men. She therefore has every interest in leaving the respect to the men and spinning out her power games herself from behind the throne.

Addicted to her relationship

The Hera archetype in its pure form is quite limiting for a woman as it encourages you to put your source of happiness in life completely outside of yourself. The emptiness that arises when a Hera woman is single, the disenchantment that arises when the marriage does not meet her (extremely high) expectations and the total uprooting when the marriage ends, have already given many women an unhappy life. .

And because a ‘classic’ Hera woman has usually not worked on other forms of life fulfillment, she also has a really bad life when her marriage goes wrong.

And at that moment a Hera woman is screwed by her lack of self-awareness: she can burn out in a bad relationship, but at the same time can’t let go of her partner. Because she doesn’t experience a clearly defined self, she literally feels like a part of herself is tearing away when her partner leaves her.

So she sometimes stays for years with a man who abuses her or drinks too much. She must learn on her own, through trial and error, and through many trials to build a solid foundation in her own psyche. That is a condition for ending an energy-hungry relationship. 

The savior syndrome

What a Hera woman has in common with a Demeter woman is that they run the risk of becoming addicted to caring for others. But where a Demeter woman mothers too much, a Hera woman feels that she has to ‘save’ a man from herself. Because she doesn’t have the courage to end a destructive relationship and her psyche drives her to stay to the extreme with a man who, in her eyes, needs her care and devotion (she can’t bear to see her ex and other woman gets), she could be wasting the best years of her life on an alcoholic, junkie, psychopath, or mentally ill man.

Against her better judgment, she continues to believe that true love conquers all. But often that love is not that real at all and the other person doesn’t really want to change either.

Destructive Anger

“ Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned ”. A Hera woman can be completely upset if her husband is found to be cheating or if he makes the decision to end the relationship. If she has chosen a man, she simply won’t accept no. Because it seems that she follows her husband unconditionally, she is indeed in control of her well-developed plan to the top and if he thwarts it, she won’t take it.

Precisely because a Hera woman is so committed to marital fidelity, it hits her extremely hard when her husband cheats on her or wants a divorce. And precisely because her husband is everything to her, one of the most remarkable patterns of behavior of a Hera woman arises at that moment: she takes revenge, but never directly on her husband.

When a Hera woman is cheated on, it is typical for her to direct her anger at “the other woman.” When her husband wants to divorce her, in extreme cases she can take revenge on him through her children by aiming for a fight divorce. She can incite her children against their father, or prevent her husband from seeing his children.

She becomes the stalking ex, the one who makes alimony or visitation problems a problem, or she makes life miserable for her husband’s new partner. Her goal is to destroy her husband, but she always does that through others. As a result, she drags other people into the vengeance that results from the one-sided identification with her marriage. If a woman is a typical Hera, she can leave a trail of damaged lives in the wake of a divorce.

It is precisely the overwrought anticipation of her marriage and her role as a wife that makes a Hera woman very vulnerable and therefore turns her into a fury when her marriage breaks down. And that’s why she never directs her anger directly at her husband: he is still the center of her life. she can leave a trail of damaged lives in the wake of a divorce. It is precisely the overwrought anticipation of her marriage and her role as a wife that makes a Hera woman very vulnerable and therefore turns her into a fury when her marriage breaks down.

And that’s why she never directs her anger directly at her husband: he is still the center of her life. she can leave a trail of damaged lives in the wake of a divorce. It is precisely the overwrought anticipation of her marriage and her role as a wife that makes a Hera woman very vulnerable and therefore turns her into a fury when her marriage breaks down. And that’s why she never directs her anger directly at her husband: he is still the center of her life.

Opportunities for growth

Putting the importance of marriage into perspective

A Hera woman can only break free from the psychological pattern in which she makes herself emotionally dependent on her husband if she can put the importance of being married into perspective. Marriage is not a lifelong, divine union between two people destined for each other, but a connection between two imperfect, mortal people, with positive intentions, but with the fringes and fallibility that come with it.

Marriage can be satisfying, but it is not the highest good in life. A Hera woman may learn to draw her source of self-esteem and life fulfillment from herself. Only when she stops making others responsible for her happiness in life can she stop destroying others when this happiness falls away from her.deal with disappointment

In mythology, the cat-and-mouse game between Hera and Zeus didn’t end until Hera was the one to get out. When she had had enough, for once she didn’t get angry, but gave in to her grief and went back to the mountains where she grew up (she lets her emotions really sink in, instead of going on autopilot). react, symbolically steps out of her role as a married woman and goes back to her childhood, when everything was still open).

She stays there for a long time. Zeus begins to realize that things are serious now and tries in a typical Zeus way to get her back: he manipulates her by trying to arouse her jealousy by staging a fake wedding in which he marries a statue (in real life you often see that a man, when his wife threatens to slip away from him, an affair begins with a 20-year-younger copy of his wife hoping to arouse her jealousy and make her return). Hera sees it as a joke and laughs about it. She forgives Zeus and returns to Olympus.

I don’t know what will happen with their marriage, but it’s clear that something fundamental has changed. She is above the situation and no longer feels like the dishonored wife. And what happens next is crucial: only when Hera has changed does Zeus understand that it is serious and that Hera might really leave him now. He had always relied on her instinctive reaction to stay with him, but when a woman struggles with her Hera identification, that could change.

And then he’s the one fighting to keep the marriage going. emotionally immature, Unconscious men often do that by playing on their partner’s weaknesses, but when she outgrows them, it doesn’t work anymore. Sometimes the wife fights along, consciousness growth occurs for both and they make it, but sometimes too much has happened, the husband can’t keep up with his wife’s leap in consciousness and a Hera woman can overcome a marriage that limits her on her own. let themselves be.

Recognizing and embracing her feminine power

It is sometimes argued that the powerless position of women in the past was not so bad and that they exercised considerable power in secret from behind the thrones of kings and emperors. That’s true, but they have often used their feminine power to consolidate a patriarchal system and not to keep the balance in the big picture.

They have given up their true responsibility as women in order to survive as best they can in a patriarchal system. The women who have really used their feminine power to maintain the balance between yin and yang, between the soft and the hard forces and who have always supported the position of women, the witches, the druids, the naturopaths, the herbal women and the wise women,

The power of a woman who has surrendered to a patriarchal system is the intricate, crafty, manipulative power of the one who plays the game and is apparently loyal but who wants to improve her own position first and foremost. She is loyal as long as the boss’s interests are her interests.

The impartial feminine power that balances the excesses and serves everyone’s well-being and that of the collective is the power of the woman who is rooted in her feminine being and understands why she is a woman and what task she has to fulfill. It is the power of the woman who recognizes and understands her own power. And because a Hera woman does not have the calm dignity, the inner rootedness and the impartiality and detachment of the divine feminine, she can’t understand that these values ​​can produce anything good.

When a Hera woman embraces her feminine power, she restores balance to her inner self, filling the “gap in her mind” created when she surrendered her true feminine power to maintain herself in a male-dominated system and she can see herself as a full-fledged individual again. And then she no longer needs a man to be someone. 

Help from other goddesses

A Hera woman can learn from Artemis to choose a personal goal that makes her happy, or just end a relationship that makes her unhappy. She can learn from Athena to use her own abilities for a career and be proud of her own achievements instead of letting her husband make a career for her. She can learn from Hestia that outward success is not everything in life and that you can get a lot of happiness and satisfaction from your own mind.

She can learn from Demeter not to put the relationship with her husband above that with her children and to see her children as a source of relational happiness. She can learn from Persephone to be receptive and not set her expectations of her marriage so extremely high. She can learn from Aphrodite that to keep a man’s attention,

The pre-patriarchal primordial essence

While writing, I found it very difficult to empathize with the Hera archetype. I didn’t get past the periphery of her shadow qualities to get to her essence. And I realized that in many cases this is also how society looks at this archetype: a possessive shrew, a slacker who pulls a man in front of her, an intriguer and gossiper, the type of woman who doesn’t shy away from a catfight . go. I only began to understand her motivations when I began to empathize with her prepatriarchal role.

In mythology, Hera goes through distinct phases: Hera the girl, Hera the wife, Hera the widow. Hera represents the transformation principle. A woman is constantly changing: the girl starts menstruating and becomes a young woman. She finds her place in life and becomes a mother. She goes through menopause and becomes a wise woman.

Due to the impoverishment of the female perception and experience in patriarchal cultures, marriage is the only initiation rite left for a woman and it is therefore not surprising that a Hera woman is so hookedis getting married. A Hera woman seeks rites of passage and undergoes them as a life-changing event, there is a clear before and after. In matriarchal cultures, this theme was strongly linked to the serpent, which is a symbol of renewal and transformation by shedding its skin.

And this is also the symbol for the primeval female power, which was later so twisted and that Hera women have repressed and buried within themselves. The main theme of the Hera archetype is the transformation through ritual. She experiences transitions as an archetypal moment, down to the soul level. When she steps over the threshold, she almost literally drops her old skin and takes on a new guise.

Hera is on the one hand an (until recently) imposed archetype in our culture and at the same time a displaced and disgraced goddess. For in our time, marriage is the only initiation ritual that we still know. For some people, graduation has the air of stepping over the threshold and growing up, but that’s not quite the same as the magic of swearing fealty in front of a priest or a registry office until death do you both part.

Even women who feel little need to marry are not immune to the transformative power that is evoked the moment a marriage is consummated. It is, in fact, the only sanctity we have left, and perhaps that’s why marriage, across the realities of divorce rates, is such a mythical affair.

The Hera archetype revolves around ‘becoming’ in a person’s life and taking your place. The desire for the hieros gamos , the sacred marriage in which yin and yang are united within one person and all duality and contradictions are removed.

It is therefore poignant that it is precisely the distortion of this archetype that has taken place in the past patriarchal centuries that drives a Hera woman from it by binding herself outwardly to a man and in that bond expressing the stereotypical role pattern between men and women. to play. Sacred marriage by definition takes place in yourself and not in everyday life. It’s about becoming androgynous, removing all contradictions between male and female.

The Hera archetype is currently an archetype heavily laden with karma. As Hera women shed their negative identification and begin to develop their core qualities, we may well see the return of a feminine aspect that has been underground for too long and that we don’t really know anymore.

The Patriarchal Wound

Hera’s adaptation is to renounce her yang qualities in order to become acceptable to a patriarchal ruler. She gives up all desire for personal autonomy and fulfillment and gives herself to her husband. It is very sad that this archetype is almost exclusively associated with its negative excesses.

And the bitter thing is that unconscious men judge this type of women mercilessly, while in the past they themselves have aimed for this distortion. And as supreme goddess she has fallen the deepest. Hera has made by far the greatest sacrifice of all goddesses and has lost herself in the process. To heal this wound, a woman must make the unfolding of her own latent feminine gifts a priority.

The patriarchal wound of the Hera archetype seems to run deeper than that of the other goddesses, with the possible exception of Aphrodite. There is even a point in history when this may have happened: In the matriarchal culture that predated the Greek, Hera was a virgin goddess, just like Artemis and Athena.

Her cult was already devoted to the rites of passage from girl to mother to old woman. She was not yet married to Zeus. That was added later. The ancient myths have been rewritten by a patriarchal system in which Hera was ‘suddenly’ betrothed to Zeus. This mythological event even has a parallel in history.

The inhabitants of Athens were allowed to choose their city god. At that time, women still had the right to vote and took part. The election was held between Poseidon and Athena. The women won the majority by one vote. Athena became the city god of Athens, but the women were punished: they lost their right to vote, their citizenship and were forced to be married off in a patriarchal marriage. The women were brutally deprived of all their privileges.

Suddenly a patriarchal society was rolled out over a culture that still had many matriarchal elements. As the brand new wife of Zeus, Hera seems to be the hobbyhorse of this development. Apparently there has been some form of manipulation and violence in the past that seems to have worked energetically into the psyche of women. An act of violence against the feminine power has broken something in women’s consciousness and it continues to this day.

Athena became the city god of Athens, but the women were punished: they lost their right to vote, their citizenship and were forced to be married off in a patriarchal marriage. The women were brutally deprived of all their privileges. Suddenly a patriarchal society was rolled out over a culture that still had many matriarchal elements. As the brand new wife of Zeus, Hera seems to be the hobbyhorse of this development.

Apparently there has been some form of manipulation and violence in the past that seems to have worked energetically into the psyche of women. An act of violence against the feminine power has broken something in women’s consciousness and it continues to this day. Athena became the city god of Athens, but the women were punished: they lost their right to vote, their citizenship and were forced to be married off in a patriarchal marriage. The women were brutally deprived of all their privileges.

Suddenly a patriarchal society was rolled out over a culture that still had many matriarchal elements. As the brand new wife of Zeus, Hera seems to be the hobbyhorse of this development. Apparently there has been some form of manipulation and violence in the past that seems to have worked energetically into the psyche of women.

An act of violence against the feminine power has broken something in women’s consciousness and it continues to this day. their citizenship rights and were forced to be married off in a patriarchal marriage. The women were brutally deprived of all their privileges. Suddenly a patriarchal society was rolled out over a culture that still had many matriarchal elements. As the brand new wife of Zeus, Hera seems to be the hobbyhorse of this development.

Apparently there has been some form of manipulation and violence in the past that seems to have worked energetically into the psyche of women. An act of violence against the feminine power has broken something in women’s consciousness and it continues to this day. their civil rights and were forced to be married off in a patriarchal marriage. The women were brutally deprived of all their privileges. Suddenly a patriarchal society was rolled out over a culture that still had many matriarchal elements.

As the brand new wife of Zeus, Hera seems to be the hobbyhorse of this development. Apparently there has been some form of manipulation and violence in the past that seems to have worked energetically into the psyche of women. An act of violence against the feminine power has broken something in women’s consciousness and it continues to this day. Suddenly a patriarchal society was rolled out over a culture that still had many matriarchal elements.

As the brand new wife of Zeus, Hera seems to be the hobbyhorse of this development. Apparently there has been some form of manipulation and violence in the past that seems to have worked energetically into the psyche of women. An act of violence against the feminine power has broken something in women’s consciousness and it continues to this day. Suddenly a patriarchal society was rolled out over a culture that still had many matriarchal elements.

As the brand new wife of Zeus, Hera seems to be the hobbyhorse of this development. Apparently there has been some form of manipulation and violence in the past that seems to have worked energetically into the psyche of women. An act of violence against the feminine power has broken something in women’s consciousness and it continues to this day.

What would the goddess Hera want to give you?

“The heavenly touches the earthly and in sacred moments the veil falls away and the two worlds touch each other. Everything is becoming, everything is in the process of becoming. Let yourself be transformed, by the ritual, by life itself. Don’t be afraid to leave the old behind, it has served its purpose, it is time for a new form.

Attach yourself to other people, in being together we come into our own as human beings. Be careful with every commitment you make. Unite the masculine and feminine in you. When all opposites are removed, everything will be one again.”

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