High sensitivity: are you a harmony creator or pleaser?

High sensitivity: are you a harmony creator or pleaser?
A harmonious environment makes people thrive. You work better there and you live better there. Are you highly sensitive? Then there is a good chance that you attach great importance to harmony. You probably like harmony even more than other people. In this article, you will find out whether you are a balanced harmony creator or more of a false harmony creator; a pleaser.

Harmony is a term from music, the interplay of sounds that creates beauty. But within music, there are all kinds of different ways to create harmony. From calm and calm to exciting and even exhilarating. The notes work together to create something bigger.

The creator of harmony

There are people who can create harmony. If you are such a person, you have a nice, positive atmosphere around you. You know how to make others feel like you see them. People like to be around you because when you are there, everything just runs better. When you work with such people around you, you work in a nice place.

Please and false harmony

Only, having the talent to create harmony is not the same as putting that talent to good use. Because to clear up a misunderstanding: creating harmony is not the same as pleasing. There are people, and maybe you are one of them – who have a very good sense of what someone else wants or needs. And then they will give it. Regardless of whether it is good for them or not. Then you do get harmony from the outside. But that comes at the expense of the harmony within.

People who use their high sensitivity in this way are often very good at hiding their dissatisfaction and creating energy blocks for themselves in this way. You can then fool yourself about how far along you are on your spiritual path. But actually, you’ve just created false harmony twice.

High sensitivity: are you a harmony creator or pleaser?

The less harmony you have inside – suppressed or not – the greater your need for harmony outside. If you have a pleasers pattern, you can become even more stuck. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

The Harmony Creator and Negativity

True harmony creators are not afraid of negativity.

With a fascinating piece of music, you are regularly surprised by a note that is different. A dissonance that suddenly breaks things open. There is room for innovation, for exciting and unexpected: the difference between music and muzak.

It is the same in life. True harmony is not afraid of dissonant notes. There is room for the dissenting vote because the dissenting vote has something to say. If you are a harmony creator, negative emotions do not scare you. You can listen with respect without having to go along with the story or give up your own position.

You can move as needed, create space and help find solutions that make everyone richer. True harmonics are not afraid of people who introduce a dissonant note but know how to appreciate it. For that, it is necessary that they are strong enough to give space to the dissonant sound and not be too afraid that it will take over the whole piece. Because a harmonious creator can also limit in a respectful way.

No fear of your own storms

High sensitivity: are you a harmony creator or pleaser?

In order to do that, it is necessary that you are not afraid of your own storms. You don’t run away from your own dissonant tones. You know yourself and you can see your own anger coming and thus handle it. Not by blowing off steam, but by owning your limits. You dare to say ready before things get out of hand. Because you give yourself the right to exist and the right to take up space regardless of the opinions of others. Not that you want to hurt others or take away from them. But because you have learned that we are all responsible for our own lives.

You can be a true harmonizer if you dare to be human and if you dare to embrace your own weaknesses. You have harmony within and that includes your own dissonances. If you know who you are, you can stand firm. Self-acceptance and self-respect give you ground and from that firmness, you can reach out to others. But also set limits on other people’s behavior.

Are you more of a pleaser?

Then you still have the talent. What you need is to work on your base. To be there, exactly as you are. The more you are allowed to be who you are to yourself, the easier it is to let others be who they are. Do people want things from you that you don’t want to give? Then they can want to without you feeling the need to change them or go along with their story.

That gives you a lot of space, but paradoxically so does the other. Because the people who need the pleasers the most are usually the people who accept themselves the least. That is why it is never enough. And the more they get their way, the less they can deal with opposition. If there is a counter-sound, it can hit hard. But strangely enough, that doesn’t seem to be the end of the world. A loving mirror has patience until someone can look into it,

The more you can do that, the more you can bring out your talent for creating harmony so that your presence helps everyone to be a greater whole together. With plenty of space for the individual notes with their unique sound.



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