You probably have at least one manipulative narcissist around you who is harming your life. You may not be aware of this, as the manipulation is often subtle. How do you arm yourself against it? This article shares effective defense techniques with you. “Literally ignore these people. Don’t say anything. Do nothing. Do not invite them in any area of your life.”
When dealing with manipulative-narcissistic people, you have to rely on your intuition. When something feels like nonsense, it probably is and you don’t have to accept it.
Techniques you need to know
You probably have at least one manipulative narcissist around you who is negatively impacting your life in some way. The manipulation can be very subtle. Knowing what he or she is doing and how to deal with it will help minimize the negative effect on you.
The best tip I can give you about dealing with manipulative narcissists is very simple: don’t hang out with them. Avoid them and get out of the way as soon as possible! Unfortunately, you cannot always avoid contact with these people. Perhaps it is a co-worker, close relative, or ex-partner with whom you have children. ‘Dealing with’ is actually more a matter of ‘handling them’. If you are in a situation where you have no choice but to deal with a manipulative narcissist, you can learn some techniques to defend yourself against him or her.
To begin with, determine what your purpose is with these manipulative-narcissistic people. When your primary goal is to make them understand their own behavior or to make sure they ‘see the light’, you get frustrated. Repeat to yourself, “This is a person who doesn’t care if his or her behavior is wrong.”
You can’t change what someone else tries to do to you, but you can change how you deal with it. Rather than trying to get manipulative narcissists to understand, it’s better to focus on setting boundaries. You can make it clear to them what is desirable and undesirable behavior. Not to change their general behavior, because you can’t. To set your own limits. Use all the power you have in you to do that.
Praise them to heaven!
Want to get something done from manipulative narcissists? That can be done quite simply: by praising them to heaven. Say they are great. That’s how you get them on your side. When you claim they always have great solutions, they will make an effort to help you. The smartest thing to do is to make what you want them to do to their advantage. Because only then will they be willing to accommodate you.
Don’t take it personally
Nothing manipulative narcissist people do or say has anything to do with you. It’s a great challenge not to take it personally when you hear false accusations or criticisms of your character. Realize that they don’t care who is around them. They are just like that.
Show no sympathy
Understanding can make it easier for you to interact with someone. But it’s important that you don’t show sympathy for manipulative-narcissistic people because then they pay you even more. One of the tricks is that they can be very pathetic. They share personal information intended to elicit sympathy. They may seem very sensitive and even vulnerable. Don’t fall for it!
Don’t be blackmailed
Do not engage in emotional blackmail. Without your cooperation blackmail is impossible, because this always requires two people. Manipulative narcissists know which ‘buttons’ to press. If you keep responding to that, they’ll keep going. Stay with yourself! When dealing with manipulative-narcissistic people, you have to rely on your intuition. When something feels like nonsense, it probably is and you don’t have to accept it.
Keep your sense of humor
Ignoring manipulative narcissists is a good approach, but sometimes you have to intervene to end bluffs, annoying behavior, or lies. The smartest way is to do it with humor. For example, you can point out their inappropriate behavior with an innocent smile. It makes dealing a lot easier.
Accept the fact that they exist
Most of the confusion comes from not being able to accept that there are people in the world who just don’t think or feel the same way you do. It is important to accept that not everyone is like you. Not everyone values keeping their word or being honest. Not everyone thinks it’s important to do the right thing. Not everyone takes care of you the way you take care of others.
The fastest solution to dealing with manipulative narcissistic people: is to stop giving them any responsibility. Not about your life, not about your emotions, and not about your time and energy. When you apply this consistently as a starting point, you are able to alleviate your situation. Taking personal responsibility is a big step, but it’s the best step in dealing with manipulative-narcissistic people around you.
It’s easy to lose sight of your own goals with manipulative-narcissistic people around you. Don’t get hunted down. You don’t have to respond to everything they say or do. Start ignoring people who threaten your pleasure. Literally, ignore them. Don’t say anything. Do nothing. Do not invite them to any area of your life.
Finally, realize that all narcissists are manipulative and manipulative people are often narcissistic. In extreme cases, you may decide that ending contact completely is the only way to adequately defend yourself.