This is a difficult topic for me to write about because it reminds me of a very challenging period in my son’s life when he considered taking his own life. It reminds me again of the fear I experienced, wondering if one day I would come home and see that he actually did this act.
He never spoke to me about considering this, I do know that he often walked the narrow line. There were things in his life with which he could not reconcile and had great difficulty. The possibility of suicide was, in his view, an option because it would stop the pain he was feeling.
That’s the flip side of the extreme sensitivity that Indigos have—they feel their pain very deeply and are so wounded that they can’t find a way out. They then consider suicide in moments of despair, when they are convinced that no other solution is possible.
Indigos struggle with these suicidal thoughts more than any previous generation. And many actually push this through, leaving a trail of sadness.
They have a hard time accepting things and because many Indigos experienced a difficult childhood, their wounds are often deep and painful. Their empathic abilities make their own pain worse because they add to it the pain of others.
My son had many Indigo friends, many of whom also struggled with their own problems. I sometimes felt that he was working out his friend’s problems on top of his own.
We had this problem for three years. We did counseling, drug therapy (briefly) and talk a lot with each other. The drugs only seemed to make things worse because Indigos can have unusual reactions to drugs and can be intolerant to them. And because they are subject to addiction, they can even become addicted to all kinds of drugs .
My son did not commit suicide but he had several friends who did and that was a very sad and difficult experience for everyone. Any parent whose Indigo children are going through an emotional battle or painful experience needs to understand that these children are incapable of just “turning off” their emotions as we have been taught.
And they also take in the emotional energy from their environment, which they may then think is theirs. Because they are highly empathetic and intuitive, it could help channel their empathic abilities in a better way and help them discriminate between what energy is theirs now and what belongs to others.
Good communication between parents and children is always necessary especially with Indigo children because they can imagine all kinds of things and often have trouble distinguishing between reality and their fears and beliefs.
Although they are highly intelligent, they also tend to be emotionally immature and need more encouragement than they care to admit.
Through several years of talking, working things out, and teaching my son how to direct his empathic energy, and letting him know I was there for him, we were able to get through this difficult period and it is now on the mend. and behind us. It’s a challenge that many Indigo parents face, but one that can be overcome together with some effort. It’s not easy but it is possible!
In the above article (part 1) I wrote about Indigos and suicide last week. I shared with you my difficult and challenging experiences with my Indigo son and many of you wrote to me about your own experiences with their Indigo children .
Pain, confusion and frustration, you shared that with me and that was the general theme.
Many of you wrote about Indigo children who are now eighteen to twenty years old. This is a particularly challenging age for Indigos, who are then supposed to leave the house and face the world. However, many of them are trapped and afraid to leave the house. They are depressed, drink and/or use drugs or have simply turned their backs on everything and do nothing at all .
As a generation, most of us at that age were either in school or married. So now we are frustrated with the behavior of our children. And overwhelmed by the black hole they seem to be in. Can we help them ?
Some Indigos are intimidated by what they see as ‘their parents’ success’ and to match or exceed it’. Others fear that they will not live up to society’s high expectations of the current generation. Some want the exact opposite of what the parents do, not because they want to make things difficult, but because they want to make their own path in life and feel that doing something different from what their parents do is a good start.
Still others simply don’t know what to do and are overwhelmed by the set number of opportunities they have and the challenge of choosing one thing and being successful at it like their parents did. What if they don’t like it – will they be stuck with it forever?
As a generation, Indigos are very creative, intuitive and motivated and do everything with purpose and intention; if they get stuck, then they are really stuck. But they can be helped out of their black hole. One thing I’ve noticed is that many Indigos were bullied by boyfriends and suffered for being ‘different’.
Whatever emotions they may have felt during that time, they carry them with them into young adulthood and the fear of being judged for who they are, how they look and how they behave seems to have been fueled in many of them.
The solution I have always suggested to parents of Indigo children is to talk to them about their fears. Find out what their interests are, reassure them and help them feel safe with their differentness. The Indigo energy will not conform to rules and restrictions and they will not be able to perform a job that they abhor or that is not appropriate to their talents and gifts.
If they are supported in their efforts, they are creative enough to find alternatives that are appropriate. Instead of being frustrated (although their behavior can be quite frustrating), we should also ask ourselves why they feel the way they do, instead of making them feel like something is wrong with them.
This is a challenging situation for any parent and may be less difficult if an attempt at communication is started. The situation may not be resolved overnight, but it will gradually improve. And your Indigo child, like mine did, will climb out of a black hole, find his way and blossom into his/her creative energy.
This is the final sequel to the monthly series on the Indigos and Suicide. I have received so many messages from parents, teachers and healers that I have felt compelled to write an additional commentary on this important topic.
Note that I have not yet written anything about Crystal Children . That’s because they haven’t reached their “point of evolution” yet like the Indigos. Indigos are now entering their late teens and early adulthoods and are now reaching that crisis point.
And they fight with their purpose in this world, their ability to carry out their mission with their gifts and talents. Many Indigos who consider suicide do so because they are very depressed and depression is a major problem for Indigos. They can no longer give meaning to their lives, themselves and see no future beyond their current situation.
They don’t know how to get from the point where they are now to the next in their lives. And this is a generation that grew up with video games where they had to “die” to get to the next level. Do they take this concept into their present reality without understanding the implications?
While the Indigo energyso wonderfully creative when given a positive expression, it can be very destructive in a negative expression. This applies not only to the Indigo’s outer world, but also to their inner world.
They are often their own worst enemy, creating a host of problems and difficulties for themselves (and their parents). Indigos are a generation that require fully engaged parenting.
The parents must be present in every area, including emotionally. Most parents are stressed by their demanding jobs and lifestyle and don’t have the time to really be there for their children. At this point, the Indigos run into trouble. And they seem to deliberately push their parents away when they need the most insight and attention.
The tragedy of a child taking his own life is unimaginable, not only for the family but for society in general. These children have much to contribute and can teach us and we owe it to them to be an active presence in their lives.
When my Indigo son finally came out of his suicidal period he wrote me a letter expressing his gratitude for the unwavering love I gave him even at his most difficult period and he told me he probably wouldn’t be here if I was had not made these attempts.
As I write this, years later, I am still overwhelmed with emotion because I know how much he suffered and how hard it was for him to make that decision to stay. I had to convince him that he was in the right place here, that going to the next level meant figuring out the best way to talents and gifts.
And together we worked to discover what they were. We can help our children make the decision to stay, to find their own path and create happiness, confidence, and discover their gifts, by teaching them that the next level can be reached by becoming who we are.
Find or create their path and live it with passion, no matter what it looks like. They must also learn to accept the love and help of those they chose from their parents and spiritual teachers, knowing that they are there for them when they need it most, whether or not they are willing to accept that help. In the end they will succeed and the world will benefit from their experiences. They will also help other Indigos to get through the rough times.
I hope that together we can help the Indigos get through their rough times and suicide becomes something that doesn’t even cross their minds.