Do you feel that you have to bring every situation to a successful conclusion, that it has to be solved somehow and that everyone has to be happy? Do you determine the success of your class by how long you stay in it or if your efforts will change someone’s behavior?
How long is it needed and when is it appropriate to leave? The criteria you use to determine the success of each lesson will establish the point where you know it’s right to say you’ve had enough, and you know when to say “stop.”
It’s easy to believe that a successful outcome, of whatever lesson, is one where every issue is resolved and all parties gladly relinquish the situation and are happy to have been part of a life-changing experience. But that’s often not the case. There are often issues that have no other solution than to reclaim your power.
These are your hardest and most challenging classes because these are the ones you will struggle between staying out of a sense of commitment and obligation and/or leaving things unfinished, meaning you were unable to change someone’s opinion or behavior and resolve the situation in a way you feel comfortable with.
If you believe that every situation has a positive outcome, ie that everyone lives “happy ever after”, you risk staying in those situations longer than necessary. And you also risk missing the point of the lesson that has to do with your own teaching and soul growth.
Does this mean leading someone else to happiness? You can only take them as far as they can. Every person has to put in some effort in their life and often, no matter how attractive the opportunities you have to offer, they are unable to take them.
The challenge is to reconcile what you think is your obligation to others as part of your spiritual journey with your own need for joy and peace. When situations only bring you pain, sadness, and despair, it’s an indication that the lesson is knowing when you’ve had enough.
What are your expectations of how a situation should end and what are your obligations to others? These are boundaries you need to set for yourself so that you know when you’ve had enough and when it’s appropriate to find your own strength and leave.