But Lilith also shows us another key. One that dissolves the core of the inner struggle of the feminine. This goes beyond envy and jealousy and has to do with the choice Lilith – and the female part she represents – made to flee the reality of the male-based system.
As a result, the female has unexpectedly stepped into a trap. Namely in the illusion of being limited in your freedom. I like to explain this on the basis of the story of Hagar, Abraham and Sarah.
The chosen one
The story of Hagar, Abraham and Sarah can be seen as a shift from ruling families, or tribal houses. A shift from matriarchal – a system in which the feminine predominates – to patriarchal, in which the masculine predominates. The Bayajidda legend (link) , the African counterpart of the story from the Bible or Quran, also illustrates this movement well.
Abraham, married to Sarah, has a prospect of many descendants. Since Sarah considers herself too old to have children, given her age, she proposes to Abraham to father them with her slave girl Hagar. Hagar has a son, Ishmael. When Sarah unexpectedly becomes pregnant with a son, Isaac, this leads to the question of who has the oldest rights. Hagar and her son Ishmael lose out in this. They are sent away into the desert and end up near Mecca.
Ismael is seen as the ancestor of the Arab people and Isaac as that of the Jews. In African legend, Bawo’s descendants founded the ‘legitimate’ Hausa empire and those of Karbagari the ‘illegitimate’ states, the Banza Bakwai.
A game is played out in different ways and layers in these storylines. The striking thing is the conflict between brothers, men and women. A division and struggle that will continue to grip the world in the centuries that follow.
The stories mark who feels or wants to be the chosen one, and what is preferred and as a result of being protected – see also the underlying aspects of the duality experience as highlighted in the first article, Lilith: key to ‘the free man’ (link) .
The main characters show sacrifice, victimhood and perpetratedship.
And this pitfall lies at the heart of the inner struggle of the feminine.
It starts with an assumption
It starts with an assumption, the idea or assumption that something is, seems, or should be impossible. Sarah assumes that she is too old to have children. She then makes a grand gesture to her husband Abraham and offers him to marry her slave girl Hagar, so that he can have children with her.
But when Hagar becomes pregnant, Sarah starts to doubt. She wonders what she contributes and what her meaning still is within the whole. As a result, Sarah feels she has to secure her position; and Hagar responds by protecting her own position. When Sarah unexpectedly has a son, this leads to the question of who has the oldest rights.
As if there wasn’t enough room in their three hearts to love both sons equally, Sarah sets a condition to protect her position and that of her son. Hagar is sent into the desert as a result.
The injustice done becomes the new reality for both. Sarah, victim of her own assumption takes this out on Hagar, making Hagar a victim of Sarah’s actions and reacts to this again. And so both end up in the role of both victim and perpetrator.
Lilith has also brought about something similar. Because the patriarchal system focuses on the form and the tangible result instead of the (female) free movement and the natural design, Lilith assumed that she would be (fixed) in a form that would limit her freedom. .
She believed that there would be insufficient space for both design aspects and did not realize that she was creating a limitation herself. Not only did she limit her own presence in this way, as her choice to flee the new (male-oriented) reality led to doling. But she also limited her connection with the male and the other female part.
Lilith’s choice to flee reality and Hagar and Sarah’s struggle with their position shows how they see a solution in setting conditions as a way out of the injustice that takes place.
For them, this was the best way to secure their position and experience of freedom. They could not (over) see that despite a different position or experience of freedom, they could still be who they essentially were.
And stepped out of the wholeness of the feminine. Moreover, they did not realize that in this way they themselves introduced a condition into being together with the masculine.
In a sense, their choices reflect fear of being left alone or fear of losing one’s own position and essence. It shows that they didn’t trust that there was enough space and love to feel safe. And shows a lack of confidence in themselves, and the masculine. Not being able to see these deeper layers partly caused both parts of the feminine to step into the role of victim(hood). Something that has undeniably played into the hands of the patriarchal system.
Over time, the masculine gained the upper hand and it became more and more difficult for the feminine to see what actually lay behind the mutual alienation. Until now. For these present times where purity and transparency are being brought back by shedding light on deeper layers invite us to set things straight and take back ownership of the feminine.
Again, the story of Hagar and Sarah marks the way back. After all, their story shows the pattern of (self) protection against the injustice that is being done. It allows us to recognize and reconnect to the underlying layers.
It seems inevitable to face the deeper layer within the feminine. In this layer are anger and sadness, but also Self-condemnation with regard to what she herself has set in motion with her choices.
When we allow and accept these deeper emotions within ourselves,
the struggle of the feminine can dissolve.
An invitation to each of us individually, and collectively.
Streams of Infinite Love
Since the feminine (at the time) set conditions for being together with the masculine and with itself, she has to open her heart in such a way that everything can be let in again without conditions.
Imagine what is possible when you fill your inner wounds with a stream of infinite love. Imagine how this flow of unconditional love touches you, deeply and gracefully, and what can be rectified with it.
This flow also contains the unconditional love of the masculine. For where the feminine assumed that the masculine would not be generous enough to give her enough space, the feminine has remained so dear to the pure core of the masculine. This love is great and heartwarming. It therefore seems inevitable that as long as the feminine continues to impose conditions on the masculine and his love, she will limit her own connecting power.
Hagar and Sarah symbolize assimilating the effects of the turn that the feminine Self called upon her.
Only when we start to see these deeper layers and open ourselves to this from the heart, can inner healing for the feminine take place. That’s the key Lilith shows us. The feminine can only step out of her pattern of victimization when she faces the Self-condemnation of what she has set in motion with her choices.
As long as she chooses not to accept that, she will have no choice but to continue cutting herself off from her own wholeness and stuck in Self-Rejection. But once the Feminine does, she will open the doors to her great potential and step into her unique power.
The Pure Feminine and the Return of the Sacred Creation Wisdom
For Sarah’s choice to leave the issue of wombhood to Hagar has also resulted in relinquishing ownership of her womb, its unique creative and creative power. This, along with the feminine’s inability to step out of the victim role, has had consequences for the Sacred Creation Wisdom.
It has also and unforeseenly played into the hands of the “birth (or hybrid) programs” brought to Earth from extraterrestrial influence. Taking full responsibility for the choices made will therefore also claim ownership of her own potential for wombhood – by this I mean the wisdom of creative power and the intuitive and all-knowing which are gently cradled in the pelvis, or sacred creation wisdom.
The deepest taking back of the ownership of the feminine
leads to the unveiling of the Sacred Creation Wisdom, individually and collectively.
The feminine is a powerful connecting element and has an enormous potential for creation within it. She will be able to fully step into this again if she completely allows the masculine to give her unconditional love and if she generously welcomes his behavior. With this she can feed his love and carry him in this.
And so on. In this way an infinitely creative dance of love arises from wholeness and the power of being one. In which the feminine (in us) takes full responsibility for her true contribution in this collaboration and co-creation.
How beautiful and powerful is this prospect! What potential is not open to us in this way, in being Whole and One?!