One of the people I’m currently writing a book with witnessed such a drama. His grandmother said to him on her deathbed, “What kind of life have I had?” That was the ultimate surrender. The full realization that she hadn’t been happy. The enormous drama that lay behind it was a key moment in his life for this man. Whatever happened, he would make sure this didn’t happen to him. He would stay close to himself and do his very best to get out what was inside. To be true to oneself. And although it took many detours before he finally got the hang of that art, that deathbed scene has always remained a shining example of what NOT to do.
The roadmap to living your own life
How should it be? Everyone can only decide that for themselves. Precisely because going your own way is such a completely individual experience, someone else’s road map is of little use to you. However, there are general things that help. For example, regularly ask yourself these three questions:
- do I follow my heart and am I true to myself?
- is my life focused on the things that are really important to me?
- am I the person I want to be in this world?
If the answer is yes, then you are on the right track. If not, then it is important to change course as quickly as possible.