Often I feel with children that they do not want to be on this earth. Parents say the same thing because another medium has said this to them before. And with some parents it stays that way because it is something that supposedly belongs to an NTK. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
If children do not want to be on earth, this can certainly be solved or properly supervised. It is possible as a parent to teach your child how wonderful it is here and how beautiful it is here (if you can feel it yourself) by helping a child overcome fears and not create new fears for the child.
If children do not want to be on earth, I feel a lot of fear in children. This fear can become so extreme that they don’t want to sleep, cry a lot and hang on to their mother a lot. Some even get busy because they don’t know what to do with themselves. I often come across this problem, but the solution is easily available. (There are also exceptions where past lives play a role.)
What I pass on to parents to help children connect with the earth during pregnancy and during the baby phase.The role of the parents is especially important because they help the child to feel safe and thus form the connection with the earth. Safety is the way for children to ground themselves, to be themselves and to ‘dare’ to walk their unique path here on Earth.
A child may feel that it is safe to be here, safe to make ‘mistakes’ and thus to grow, safe to receive and give love, safe to desire and wish and safe to have a place to be included in this society. Even in many adults I see this safety pushed far away.
Life seems like an unsafe place where we have to protect ourselves, have to be tough, receive little love and don’t meet the right people in our path who love us unconditionally. This has just become a truth that most adults still consciously or unconsciously hold on to. Life is equally safe for everyone! Only safety is something that you can still apply in your life because this has never been given or taught to you.
Safety often comes from connecting with the spiritual part of oneself. Many sensitive children/adults are aware of this world early on to help them with life. For example, their pain and sorrow is often temporarily carried by angels and guides until the moment comes that they can do it themselves. Safety often comes from connecting with the spiritual part of oneself. Many sensitive children/adults are aware of this world early on to help them with life.
For example, their pain and sorrow is often temporarily carried by angels and guides until the moment comes that they can do it themselves. Safety often comes from connecting with the spiritual part of oneself. Many sensitive children/adults are aware of this world early on to help them with life. For example, their pain and sorrow is often temporarily carried by angels and guides until the moment comes that they can do it themselves.
During my classes and sessions with adults where they learn to be themselves, safety is an important foundation.
Often I see that most adults have not felt safe with their own parents. Parents were too harsh, too strict, too dominant, too present, so that as a child they got the feeling that it was not safe to be themselves.
Armed with a mouth full of harsh words, a thick wall and the words that the other cannot hurt them, they convince themselves that the world is an unsafe place, they withdraw into society. The belief has become that you should protect yourself by building thick walls. But children feel this and face the same fate as the parents.
They experience the world as loveless and learn to build walls. A child naturally feels that this does not feel right, but for most adults it is already difficult to penetrate these walls. Let alone a child!
The best way to stop is of course to investigate this part yourself and also solve it. You can already start helping your baby in your tummy by telling it it’s safe with mom and dad and that it’s welcome. Promise yourself to fulfill this. Make this a kind of mantra and repeat it every day.
Discuss with your husband what you want to do together to give your child this safety, and keep it up. It helps enormously if you and your partner become clear about what your personal pieces are and learn to separate them from your child’s life. This is only possible if you are aware of it.
The most important thing is rest. I cannot emphasize often enough that from inner peace in parenting, major problems can occur for all involved. It is precisely this rest that provides the safety that the child needs.
A mom or dad who has inner peace will not react so quickly from stress and frustration. This brings the feeling of security. Unrest gives the feeling of being unsafe. Because you don’t know what’s coming but you can feel it.
Especially for mothers during pregnancy, it is very important to regularly make time for this rest because you start a foundation for the birth and baby phase of your child. You are not only preparing yourself for the birth, but also your baby. Your child will then see the light of day for the first time and be a real person.
This is caused by the first breath. The first and last thing we do during this life on Earth as a sign of life. We may all find it normal that we bring a child into the world, but for the child this is a completely different experience than for the parents.
This is exciting for the baby. They desperately need their parents at that moment and then the bonding phase starts. Safety is also central to this bonding. A child needs time to get used to the new situation, just like the parents.
Every cry is rediscovering what your child actually wants. A child needs time and space for this. If this phase goes too fast because parents want it to stop crying, or children are taken to daycare without proper attachment guidance, life can even become unsafe. Often during this period, understanding the child is the most important.
This is about the child who finds himself on earth for the first time as a human being and must be given all the time it needs to be able to bond. It is looking for guidance and clarity from the point of view of safety and security. Children who cry may as well feel unsafe and fear being here. As a parent, comfort is not only important but also the space and tranquility to take the time to do this new phase of attachment in your own way.
Every child has the right to do this in their own way and to do this as long as necessary. By giving understanding and support you help your child go through this phase of attachment, which is a huge step for some sensitive children. As a parent you form the intermediate piece between your child and the earth. You are the safety at that moment and slowly step by step you teach your child to stand on its own two feet.
Not too fast and exactly at the pace your child needs. You are the safety at that moment and slowly step by step you teach your child to stand on its own two feet. Not too fast and exactly at the pace your child needs. You are the safety at that moment and slowly step by step you teach your child to stand on its own two feet. Not too fast and exactly at the pace your child needs.
So, as a parent, try to work on your inner peace. Therefore, do not expect so much of yourself, a good foundation for your child is half the battle for later. It seems like you may have to do a lot, but from now on you decide what is good and what is not good for your child.
You are the parent! If you have no other choice, work on a good balance and talk to your child. Explain why you are taking the steps you are taking and work on your inner peace. If you can find peace in it, your child can too.
There are several options on the market to work on bonding. All these options require time, rest and empathy (understanding) for your child. This is not going to happen quickly. And if you have too much baggage, there is a good chance that your sensitive child will have trouble bonding.
Every child deserves to feel safe on Earth and mom and dad are the only ones who can do this for a baby. It makes education so much more fun. And what I myself often say to parents is that parents are safe with their child.
This may sound strange, but if you experience love as unsafe, you may also feel unsafe for your child’s love. If love is so beautiful, we can become afraid of losing this love and so unconsciously apply actions in education that do not help the child to stand on its own two feet, but to adapt to this need for love in the parents.
Being on earth is something that some children can learn. Feeling safe is not self-evident. When they feel safe and have enough confidence to be themselves and walk their unique path, they will naturally feel how fun life can be and that it goes hand in hand with sadness and pain (lessons).
This can disrupt the feeling of safety, but it is possible to return to the feeling of safety with a lot of understanding and support from the environment. Be aware that for many new-age babies, enjoying life doesn’t come naturally, even when you see them laughing and playing.
Taking it easy, learning to deal with expectations, being given space and a lot of patience and understanding of their environment works wonders. Some of these children need time to integrate to process their birth trauma.