“You become what you think”. This is a statement that you have probably heard many times. If you think negatively, you will also attract negative things in life.
While people who have a positive attitude to life, generally feel happier and experience life much more pleasantly.
So you better have a positive outlook on life and look on the bright side.
Bad things can always come your way, but you can choose how you deal with them. And you can always learn something from a difficult situation.
In this article you will learn some important tips for to live and being Positivity and Optimism Every day
Way #1 Be kind to yourself
The first step to be more positive in life is to value yourself.
If you are constantly self-critical or if your heart is full of resentment and guilt, you are unlikely to look to the future with confidence.
It is vital that you take the wounds of your past seriously and take steps to heal them, if you haven’t already.
Only then do we come to terms with the past and feel lighter and more optimistic.
Rather than dividing ourselves in half by determining what is ‘good’ and what is ‘bad’, we better say:
“This is me, white and black, light and dark, this set of positive and negative experiences made me who I am, and I am a masterpiece in development.”
Understand your weaknesses, knowing that everyone has them.
By focusing more on what you are good at, your self-confidence grows and that is good for your attitude towards life.
You are a valuable person who deserves to be given attention and love, not because someone else thinks so or because you are successful and rich, but because YOU accept this as your truth.
If you believe in that self-esteem, you give it the power to develop.
Tip #1 Reduce self-criticism
It’s very easy to swear immediately when it starts to rain or when you get stuck in traffic again. People complain all the time and especially about things that are not important.
Complaining often will only attract more negativity.
Try to train yourself not to do this anymore and to be grateful for the good things you have around you. You can of course be disappointed now and then, but try to see everything in the right perspective.
Make it a daily habit to compliment yourself. You don’t always have to win or be successful in everything you do.
Rather, focus on the effort you put in. Even if the result isn’t quite what you expected, recognize that you tried your best. It is not only the result that counts, but also the way to get there.
Would you like to be positive in life? Keep worrying about the past or the future to an absolute minimum.
After all, you achieve nothing with this, it only creates even more negativity. Provide new and fresh ideas.
Learn to forgive yourself
Forgive yourself. You may have made mistakes in the past that you still carry with you today. This can make you feel inferior to others.
However, this is not necessary. Forgive yourself. Making mistakes is human.
View the past as an important life lesson and don’t let it occupy your present life anymore.
Always be honest with yourself. Look at your feelings honestly and admit them. If you are happy, feel that happiness too.
If you are sad, acknowledge your sadness and think about it for a moment. All your feelings can be there.
Be grateful. There is always something in your life that you can be thankful for. Be grateful for yourself, for the people around you, for your health and for what you have experienced.
Take care of your body. Healthy food, sufficient rest and enough exercise are essential for a positive life. Your body is your temple and it is up to you to take care of it with love.
Tip #2 Develop resilience
Being positive goes hand in hand with developing resilience.
The positively meant saying ‘by trial and error’ is valid on the life path of every living being.
However, it is the way we deal with falling that will determine how quickly and with what strength we get back up.
Do you lose sight of your goal every time something doesn’t seem to be going well? Are you giving up or falling into self-pity?
Chances are you would benefit from developing more resilience.
For example, not being able to see things in perspective is a big factor in why some people deal poorly with resistance.
They lose sight of the bigger picture and focus only on their failures. As a result, they usually remain in a slump.
The steps below will help you develop more resilience:
Accept the setback
It’s not that you have to embrace every setback. It is enough to accept that something unpleasant has happened.
Many people try to suppress their negative feelings, but doing so only makes them more difficult. So allow yourself to feel a little less good for a while.
Think of setbacks that you have overcome in the past
There is no need to wait for a difficult situation to pass on its own. A great way to build resilience is to remember how you successfully overcame adversity in the past. This gives you confidence that you will get through it now.
Learn from the past
If you know how you dealt with your adversity in the past, you can think of how that can also help you in your current situation. Did you ask for help last time or did you take some time for yourself? You may now be able to apply this again.
Learn from the process
Did you manage to overcome the difficult situation? Then think about how you achieved this. Are you still having trouble with it? That’s a shame, but it’s not the end of the world. Then consider what you have learned and how you can do better next time.
To develop resilience you can:
- Make sure you have a social safety net: family, friends, care providers..
- Taking care of yourself: A healthy lifestyle. Eat healthy, get enough sleep and get plenty of exercise.
- Laughter: An age-old medicine and nothing works more effectively to put a situation into perspective. Find humor in your day, find what makes you laugh, meet friends for a light-hearted get-together.
- Change is part of life. Accept what is beyond your control.
Tip #3 Live in the moment
Carpe diem, or Seize the day is a well-known saying that has survived the centuries.
It is immortalized in a 2000-year-old collection of poems by the Roman Horace.
Since then, many people took this wise advice to heart and the interpretation sometimes turned out to be very different.
Some see it as a slogan to take a once-in-a-lifetime but somewhat risky opportunity, while others use it as an explanation to explain their unbridled and exuberant lifestyle.
Others see it as a sign of mindfulness: living in peace in the here and now.
You will automatically lead a more positive life if you focus more on the present moment. How often do you think about what you still have to do or about what happened last week?
We are easily distracted by all the hustle and bustle from what really matters. And that is the experience we are living right now.
Living in the moment gives you inner peace. You have absolutely no influence on the past and the future.
Below are a number of exercises that you can apply daily to live more in the here and now:
- Stand with both feet on the ground. And you can take that literally. Feel how your feet make contact with the ground you are standing on. If you are already aware of this, you immediately live in the now.
- Concentrate on your breathing. Simply follow the rhythm of your breathing without trying to change it. Do you feel it more in your belly, chest or nose? It’s all okay.
- Repeat a mantra in your head. A mantra is a phrase or word that you repeat over and over in your head. This will help you avoid restless or negative thoughts. If you notice your mind wandering again, gently bring your attention back to the mantra.
- Ask yourself if you have a problem right now. If you often tend to worry, this question can be very helpful. After all, in the present moment you usually don’t have a problem.
- Watch your stream of thoughts as if it were a moving train. When you notice that you are still on the train, get out and let the train continue. That way, you can let go of the continuous flow of thoughts and be completely in the present moment again.
Tip #4 Remove disruptors from your life
There are both minor and major disruptions in your life, often without you realizing it. These can be people, but also negative habits you have.
Nothing is more debilitating to your positive attitude than being surrounded by pessimists.
People who are constantly out to question your intentions and who see the negative side first simply have to walk a different path than you.
At least if you take those positive intentions seriously.
Instead, gather up your courage and distance yourself from everything and everyone who put you down in your efforts to be more positive in life.
We have that gift of free will to make choices. Wanting to be stronger and more positive in your shoes is a very noble choice.
Jammers are aspects of your life that are at odds with this choice, making it difficult to continue.
Now suppose you’ve decided to be nicer to the people around you and stop participating in backbiting.
However, an old school friend that you still occasionally hang out with remains completely anchored to this bad habit.
She takes your new intention as aloofness and cannot see that it has nothing to do with her and even punishes you with it by making hurtful statements.
If you are true to yourself, you would rather not spend your time in the relationship with your girlfriend who does not want you to evolve in a positive way.
Right now you better look for positive people who support and inspire you.
It is sometimes said that you stay on the average wavelength of the five people in your environment that you are closest to.
If that’s true, then you better choose your people more carefully.
By banning these disruptors from your life as much as possible, you have much more room for positive things and thoughts.
Watch the news less
This is often the first thing people do. As soon as they wake up, they watch the news of the day. However, this is not a good way to start your day. Your head becomes full of information about things that are going wrong in the world.
Start your day by watching funny animal videos. This will immediately put a smile on your face. You don’t have to block all the news, of course. But don’t overload yourself with it.
We all do this very quickly and without even realizing it. In a split second we judge other people. Rather show some understanding for your fellow man.
You usually don’t know the whole story and it’s easy to jump to conclusions right away. Start by becoming aware of the fact that you are judging someone. You’ve come a long way with this.
Avoid negative people
Some people do nothing but complain and that can bring your mood down too. Or you also have people who prefer nothing more than to criticize others because it makes them feel better themselves.
Ban these people from your life. Both in ‘real life’ and on social media. Pay more attention to people who do approach you positively. This gives you much more energy.
Tip #5 Cherish what you have
We quickly start to focus on what we don’t have, but this won’t make you happier at all. Cherishing what you have is an important step towards a life full of positivity and optimism.
Be content with your life, even if you are short on cash, your health is not optimal and your relationships do not always go the way you want them to.
All you have to do is look at your life in a different way. It’s okay if your life isn’t perfect. You often think, “If I could achieve this, I would be much happier.”
Write down what you are grateful for or talk about the positive things in your life with a close friend. Enjoy the simple things in life such as a warm sun shining on your face.
Think about your strengths and talents. And just assume that everything is as it should be or that everything happens for a reason. Then all you have to do is enjoy the journey.
Tip #6 Visualization exercises
Visualizing can help you bring your dreams to life. And who wouldn’t want that? Visualization exercises make your dreams and goals concrete and stimulate your creativity. This will also make you more positive in life.
Yogis, doctors, psychologists, etc. use mental imagery to achieve certain goals.
It is a technique that can be used by anyone. Although this is not always done in a positive way.
Worrying about what could go wrong in a job interview is also a form of visualization, but trust me, this isn’t the kind we want to talk about here.
By visualizing, positive or negative, you kind of give higher orders to your autonomic nervous system.
Consciously conjuring up a positive image can therefore have very favorable consequences.
Visualization exercises help you to believe in yourself, and help make the shift to a more positive attitude towards life.
The exercises below will help you on your way.
Magnifying a situation
If you’re just starting to visualize, it can help to explore a familiar situation first. Think back to a time in your life when you were very happy. This could be anything. A holiday with your partner, a dinner with your friends or a beautiful walk in nature.
Close your eyes and imagine yourself reliving that situation. Think of certain smells, images and colors. Take your time and go over every detail.
Open your eyes again after about 5 to 10 minutes.
Colors are often linked to certain properties. For example, red stands for passion and green radiates tranquility. Not only can you see colors, you can feel them.
For example, if you want to feel more calm, imagine a large green orb hanging above you. In your mind you reach for the sphere with one of your hands until you pierce it completely.
The sphere does not snap, but slowly disappears in your hand. Take in the color completely until your body is completely one with the color.
Visualize your dream day
For example, do you want more free time? Then think about what your ideal day would look like. A day when you don’t have to work and you can do everything you want. You choose the activities, the weather and the people.
Some examples for more positivity in your life:
- A scene where you ask for a promotion from your authoritative boss in the most assertive and confident yet friendly way, to which he comprehends.
- Visualize waking up with a smile in the morning. You look in the mirror and smile at your radiant image. You hear beautiful music and dance. You feel good.
- Visualize standing on a mountain that you just climbed yourself. You feel the cold but gentle breeze and watch the sun rise on the ocean horizon. The landscape is filled with beautiful spots of light and the last stars are just disappearing in the bluer sky. You feel inside how you succeeded in your goal and yell out loud, “I can do it!”
Tip #7 Seize the day
Life is way too short not to enjoy it.
The tips below can help you seize the day:
- Give someone a sincere compliment.
- Put on your favorite music while you prepare food.
- Take a relaxing walk in nature.
- Meditate in a quiet place.
- Give someone you love a big hug.
- Enjoy a delicious dessert.
- Give your full attention to the person you are having a conversation with.
- Watch a funny or inspiring movie.
Tip #8 Change your habits
Bad habits are better off today than tomorrow. But breaking a bad habit is easier said than done. Humans are creatures of habit.
However, you can get rid of bad habits with the right tactics and a portion of perseverance.
Do it step by step
Do you have a bad habit? Then systematically reduce it. That way you increase your chance of success.
Inform others of your intention
Breaking a bad habit can be quite difficult. It is therefore nice if you get some support from the people around you. These can then stimulate you to make the right choices and it is also a form of social control to keep you motivated.
Give yourself time to change
Tackling an entrenched habit takes time. So don’t expect yourself to learn a new way of life overnight. Give yourself time.
Know your weaknesses
Try to anticipate your weaknesses and invest in your pitfalls. Think of solutions to overcome your weak moment.
If you want to stay motivated, you also need to reward yourself every now and then. This way you make it fun for yourself to work on new habits.
Tip #9 Follow your dreams
This may sound like an old cliché that we have been told a thousand times, but there is a lot of truth in it if you have chosen a more positive attitude to life.
After all, following your dreams is equivalent to rekindling the passion and zest for life that you may not have felt since childhood.
In our society we are prepared for adult life by acquiring the best possible status in the labor market.
This is done through studies, diplomas and a sober and realistic attitude towards money and security.
Usually there are too many financial risks attached to your true dreams that you cannot take for whatever reason.
That’s a shame, because we’re missing an opportunity to prove to ourselves that it can work.
Picking up that dangerous thread of your dreams may be financially risky, but it could also fill you back with a huge sense of accomplishment and positive energy.
Your dreams are the essence of who you are. And only when you can fully be who you are do you radiate full positivity and optimism.
If you follow your dreams, you will become a better person. It gives you a sense of purpose and direction. And this gives you the energy to jump out of bed in the morning.
The more attention you give to your dreams, the more positivity, energy and joy you will experience in your life.
So immediately list all your goals and make them concrete. Focus on it and keep striving for it.
Tip #10 Take your own responsibility of Positivity and Optimism Every Day
Come on, get rid of that self-pity.
Stop blaming your current situation and your past for everything that goes wrong in your life.
The only factor that can make the difference now is you!
It is high time you used your will to take control of your life.
That will equals personal responsibility. It is your unique gift to be part of your own destiny as a human being in this world.
Putting the blame on external factors and holding back is a bit like stripping yourself of all your strength.
Never give up and take responsibility for everything you create. Ideally, your thoughts, words, and actions would be aligned.
That means you do what you say, and you also say what you think. It seems simple, but give it a try in any situation!
Your problems will not go away on their own. It’s up to you to tackle them too. No one else can do this for you.
If you want more positivity in your life, you need to take control.
- You are responsible for the things you say. So don’t say things you don’t really mean or don’t support.
- Make your dreams come true and don’t let it depend on other people.
- Study for yourself and not to please your teacher.
- Don’t get caught up in feelings of self-pity by blaming the world for your problems.
- Live by your own standards and values.
- Realize every day that the responsibility for your happiness lies with yourself.
Taking your life into your own hands isn’t always easy. It takes willpower and perseverance.
However, you will find that it pays off after a while. After all, you don’t live for others, but for yourself.
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