Burnout is about balance
Burnout literally means ‘burnt out’: your energy reserves are exhausted. You’ve let it go too far. Do you recognize these symptoms of the preliminary phase and do you want to prevent burnout? Then learn how to be true to your needs and boundaries, to prevent things from going from bad to worse. This is a process of becoming aware, in which you let go of old thinking patterns and certain behavior.
Who gets burnout? Usually, the person who is helpful, with a heart for the cause and a strong sense of responsibility. This person often has trouble setting boundaries, does not say no quickly, and is therefore ultimately the one who often ends up with extra tasks. Carrying load and carrying capacity threatens to become unbalanced. If you always consider others, you may be ignoring your own feelings or wishes. Thus, even something you enjoy can become a duty. And when we get tired of something, it’s ‘should’.
You can find the balance in this by learning to take into account your own desires and what you can handle. And also pronounces this. This is easier said than done. It often concerns fixed patterns. The will to live up to all the expectations of others stems, for example, from wanting to be liked or out of fear of being excluded from the group.
Breaking through these patterns is quite a process in itself. You do this by gaining insight into your beliefs, experiencing fears and other emotions, and thus transform the pattern of exhaustion into behavior that does justice to what you need. The trick is to find the right balance between:
- load and carrying capacity
- effort and relaxation
- take care of others and yourself.
Become aware of patterns that exhaust you and transform them into behavior that supports you. So that you can find balance.
Burnout is about energy
The things we do cost energy, give energy, or are energy neutral. If, after things that cost energy, we also do things that give us energy, the battery will recharge. So ask yourself: ‘Am I doing enough things that give you energy? ‘Are there too many things that cost energy?’ ‘After the duties, do I still have the energy for fun things?’
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When you do things that give you energy and that make you happy, you get into a flow. Then things go almost effortlessly. If you do those things that you feel have energy for, then what is intended for you will happen. It is important not to do things that require a lot of effort and hardly any results. You pull the proverbial dead horse. That’s pointless and you’re exhausting yourself.
So you need mindfulness to feel, to know, to see what you are doing and how that affects your energy level. Get used to dwelling on this. If you become very still inside and learn to observe yourself well, you can even notice which thoughts cost and give energy.
Learn to think about your energy management. Develop the ability to feel what energizes you and what doesn’t and to make choices about it.
If you are completely exhausted, you have to stop. A burnout asks you to listen to your feeling (your body) and to your intuition (the voice of your soul) and to be faithful to it. In my view, burnout means to us: ‘you know yourself’. Know what you need and take care of yourself.
Standing still and becoming aware of what lives in you is a process that takes courage. Because sometimes you have to face things that you had put away for nothing. Such as painful situations from the past and your tendencies to flee or fight. Or your negative self-image, your insecurity, or doubts about your competencies. The encouraging message is: that as you embark on this transformation, it enriches your life in ways you could never have dreamed of. New possibilities are within reach.
You have prevented or overcome burnout at all levels if:
- When you have recovered physically;
- your energy is replenished;
- you are emotionally empowered;
- you have found confidence and a sense of self;
- and you have converted the negative thoughts about yourself and your possibilities into real ones.
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The message of burnout
In essence, burnout invites you to be true to your own values, ideals, and goals. You are going to connect with your higher self, your soul, and with why you are here. In this way, you can become aware of deeper motivations and ideals. And possibly of unexpected qualities. Maybe you’re not really in the right place and you want to look for better suitable work. If you comply with this, the (almost) burnout has made sense.
This sense of purpose is of great importance in the prevention and recovery from burnout. It gives life shine and deeper meaning. If you have learned to listen to your inner voice and dare to go your own way, a substantial change has taken place in you. You have become a more conscious and complete person.