Before we look at the new way of connection, we must first look back and see what relationships used to be. In metaphysical terms, relationships, like most other aspects of the 20th century, were guided by the lower 3 chakras. This meant that most relationships were a compensation around Money (Base chakra), Sex (Sacral chakra) and Power (Solar Plexus chakra).
Whatever feelings and emotions brought people together, they would inevitably quarrel over issues of money, power, and sex in their daily union. And of course, to some extent these will still remain issues when a relationship is established, but the relationships in the 21st century must also enter the Heart Space or Heart Chakra where spirit and soul also become part of the relationship. A central and important part.
Money, Sex and Power – what it was like
A primary adult relationship, or love affair, would inevitably mean that the two people involved begin to live together at some stage. The need for intimacy and companionship is a primary human need, love relationships have always been and will continue to be expressed in cohabitation and physical intimacy.
Traditionally – there was compensation between the two sexes. The man works for the money and the woman does the housework. This makes it possible for the partnership to create a home and purchase and maintain what is needed. The sex between them produces the family. Power was traditionally handed over to men as part of a hierarchical patriarchal social form.
However, powerful social changes that began in the mid-20th century in the developed world meant that these traditional assumptions about relationships were outdated, even though many of us are still working with them on a subconscious level.
The revolution of Feminism meant that women began to work outside the home as the norm. Women’s careers and dual income partnerships are now accepted. This creates problems in the traditional structures of relationships, as women are now also money earners and in some cases earn more than men. The balance of power has now shifted as we move away from the hierarchical model of connection. And no one is quite sure how sex fits into this new form of relationship.
What emerges from this transition is that relationships are now about two people who are equal in ability and strength, and who primarily seek companionship and intimacy, rather than just compensation on a physical level.
The way to achieve this is to enter the Heart Space, or Heart Chakra, as the primary location of the relationship. Once this is achieved, the other levels can be negotiated according to the needs of each individual couple.
Heart space and Communion
These are the two terms given to me by Archangel Michael to define the new way of joining.
The relationship should primarily be about being in the Heart. This means being in touch with FEELINGS and being able to EXPRESS these feelings in creative and empowering ways.
Many people think this means being able to communicate verbally. In some cases this is so. But I’ve found that women tend to express their feelings better verbally than men. How often do I hear women complain about how they can have long conversations about their feelings with their girlfriends, but not with the men who are important to them.
Does this mean that men should become like women and talk about their feelings?
Well – maybe?
But I think it would serve us all better if we realized that talking about feelings isn’t the only answer.
It’s just talking – and tends to go in circles, even if it makes the person feel better.
But NON-VERBAL expression is often more important in expressing feelings.
And women may need to learn techniques of nonverbal or heart-centered expression that will allow them to bond with their partner.
Communion is a term that has a religious connotation associated with the sacrament of Christ’s death and the ritual of the Last Supper. But what Christ probably meant was that we learn to communicate with each other by becoming one with the other being.
In religious communion, one drinks the wine and eats the bread that represents the body of Christ, and at that moment becomes one with Christ.
The lesson for us is to “be” with others in such a way that we can become one with them. To understand them and be with them in such a way that explanation and story are not important.
To see the divine essence in that person or being and have their essence resonate with your own. To feel their feelings as intensely as possible as if they are your own, because they are in truth your own, or a mirror of yourself.
When we understand that the person we have chosen to connect with is part of us, and that we see ourselves, then we can be in compassion and love with ourselves and then with them. From this place of communion and understanding we can learn to connect with total acceptance – of ourselves and of others.
It is very important now to be able to love and accept yourself. Only when you fully accept yourself will you be able to accept the person who holds the mirror in front of you. And if you can love yourself, you will be able to love them and be with them.
Acceptance means being able to be with that person in love and grace, without the need to change them or make them into something different from what they are at the moment. So many relationships fail because people see potential and fall in love with potential. This is followed by frustration when the potential will never be realized.
In this place of Communion and Acceptance, the relationship will tend to become deep, warm and creative.
There are no rules for expressing creativity – each couple will find unique and individual ways to strengthen each other and express their growth as a result of their acceptance of each other.
The important aspect of a Heartspace relationship is that the partners will feel empowered to be what they can be in that moment. They will endeavor to express the highest good for themselves and the relationship, from a place of acceptance, grace and gratitude for the person who chose to create with them.
And from there…
Once this place is reached, the affected individuals will be able to negotiate how their relationship will be based. How they will balance power, how they will interact sexually and what role money will play in their relationship. These things are negotiable, not supposed, from a place of respect, care, and love. For the Heartspace, if kept open, will continue to imbue the relationship with energy from the Soul and Spirit levels, ensuring that the relationship remains a creative place of growth and love…