Resistance: how does a trigger work on your emotions?

Resistance: how does a trigger work on your emotions?

People, children, and animals are our mirrors. They reflect in us what we would like for ourselves or what may be healed in ourselves. Other people can trigger you so that you experience an emotion such as joy, love, fear, anger, and sadness. These triggers touch a part of you that demands attention and needs attention. Instead of talking about guilt to the other person, you can look and feel why someone touches you exactly.

This creates awareness in yourself so that you will experience, feel and learn what the trigger wants to tell you. By looking at the effect of triggers on emotion, at yourself, and by feeling why you can solve the trigger and clear yourself. In this way, you dissolve for yourself and you create space for both without collision and guilt.

Resistance: how does a trigger work on your emotions?

“What you think of others, you can give to yourself.”

How does a trigger on emotions work?

As soon as you say that something shouldn’t be there, you get resistance. As soon as something is allowed to be there, you get space. This also works with triggers. Hiding or finding something to do with it creates resistance and triggers; letting the emotion be there gives space to dissolve and heal. If emotion is allowed to be there without you liking it, the emotion becomes lighter in yourself. You just have to look at it and feel it.

This is very exciting. The way to yourself is daring, wanting and giving, and granting it to yourself. All emotions may be felt, they tell you something on your path. Once you just want to live in joy and hide the rest or blame someone else, you hide a lot of resistance in your body and mind. This will eventually cause complaints. Your body and mind will give signals to resolve and heal this.

Resistance: how does a trigger work on your emotions?


A mother stayed with her baby so she wouldn’t fall asleep alone and lonely. This became a longer and longer process every night. Until, in addition to the impotence, there was also frustration and anger.

The trigger in this story was the loneliness that the mother herself experienced as a child and does not want to pass it on to her baby. The baby mirrors the mother by reacting exactly to the same emotions. From the moment the trigger was realized, the whole process could begin. The baby calmed down in it and went to sleep, alone. Sleeping alone, but in loving connection with her mother.

It is also true that a trigger can tell you something about something you can give yourself, such as love, self-esteem, boundaries, acceptance, etc. If you know this, you can again apply ‘feeling the underlying emotion’ and heal yourself. and bring it into balance. Each trigger is different and reflects a feeling, experience, and emotion.


I find that he takes up all my time / he takes up all my time – that feels (trigger) annoying and cramped in your own space.

Once you turn it around to:
I think I’m letting him take up all my time. Then you see that you can set limits in yourself and solve the guilt you gave to the other yourself. Once you say no, there is a limit on your own time and space. By changing what you think of another to “I” (think), you can begin to discover the nature of your triggers.

Life is like a spiral, experiences keep coming your way to feel and learn. If you run away from something or if you hide something in yourself, experiences keep coming the way that triggers that part of you. Every time a new experience touches the same triggers is a moment to be allowed to heal.

“Mirror to yourself in love,

without judgment and heal yourself.”

This article was written by: Yvonne van Alphen


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