12 Signs Someone Is Playing Narcissistic Games With You


Narcissists are known for playing with the minds and emotions of others.

Do you also feel that narcissistic games are being played with you?

The narcissist is only out for his own gain, and then you are left as the loser.

How can you recognize someone else’s narcissistic games so that you can stop them in time?

If you’re wondering if you’re dealing with a narcissist, read this blog!

Below I will give you a number of important signs of narcissistic games and then I will give you tips on how to deal with them.

How the narcissist plays with your head

It is important to understand the mind of a narcissist. They see relationships as a means of getting what they want without worrying about the other person’s feelings.

Their only concern is what they can get out of it. Relationships are used to boost their egos and give them what they value, such as status, power, positive attention, esteem, and sex .

You have to have something to offer to get something in return. They are motivated only by that and are not interested in you as a person or in doing anything for you without some form of payment

A relationship with a narcissist can be collegial, amicable , family , or romantic .

The narcissist has a selfish, businesslike mentality. And this shows in your relationship. There is little room for real emotions (as in: sincere).

A relationship has a clear purpose for the narcissistFor the narcissist, a relationship is like a transaction, with a buyer, a seller, and a product. The narcissist wants to get what he wants, but at the lowest possible price.

  • For a  male narcissist , it can be about sex and status. He wants a beautiful person by his side.
  • female narcissist often wants material things, such as gifts, wealth, sex, extravagance.

That is why it is important that you understand the mind of a narcissist. What’s behind the facade? Then you can recognize the narcissistic games and stop them.

Narcissists see relationships as a means of getting what they want . They are not concerned with the feelings of others in this.

Their only concern is what they can get out of it. Relationships are used by the narcissist to boost their ego and get what they want: status, power, money, appreciation, sex, and so on.

This is their only motivation . So they are not interested in you as a person.

They see the relationship between you and them as a business transaction. The narcissist tries to get as much as possible and to give as little as possible.

The narcissist sees this as a game. He will manipulate you to get what he wants. Can’t do it in one go?

Then he will continue until he succeeds. Will he face unexpected setbacks in the game he’s playing?

Then the narcissist pulls out some dreaded tricks. For example crying, anger, blackmail or gaslighting .

Suppose you landed a new promotion at work after years of hard work, but the narcissist would have done it in half the time.

They will definitely point you to all the things you have NOT done or accomplished.

Again, this is to make you feel inferior to the narcissist, and also to shift the focus (and energy) back to the narcissist.

Signs that a narcissist is playing games with you

Scientific research shows that the goal of the narcissist in a relationship is to have uncommitted pleasure.

This is a narcissistic game and winning is the goal. They can play this narcissistic game with several people at once because they don’t have to be emotionally intimate with them.

  • The narcissist is  hard to reach  or  disappears suddenly
  • hot/cold relationship . At first intimate (friendly or sexual), then suddenly there is distance. For example, by not replying to messages, calling back late or sending impersonal responses.
  • Making promises they cannot or cannot keep.
  • Lying and making excuses , and then not wanting to admit or apologize. In the eyes of the narcissist, it is  never his fault.
  • Take quick steps . Very charming and seductive in the beginning, with a lot of flirting, and then quickly (wanting to) take the next steps in the relationship.
  • The narcissist  refuses to put a stamp on the relationship . So he doesn’t call you friends (in a friendship), partners, courtship or exclusive (in a romantic relationship).
  • The narcissist flirts with others in front of you.
  • The narcissist  hides you from his friends and family . Will you ever meet his family?
  • The narcissist  expects you to read his mind . This is especially true of female narcissists. The fact that you cannot do this is seen by the narcissist as a major drawback.
  • Sex and feelings are a means . If you pay close attention, you will see that sex, emotions and feelings are used by the narcissist in the game to get what he wants.
  • The narcissist is a  master at blaming others , not taking responsibility and playing the victim.
  • Never will the narcissist be the first to call or send a message . You have to go first, so you’re trapped in his net.


What can you do about these narcissistic games?

You can take steps to protect yourself from the narcissist’s games of the narcissist.

If this doesn’t improve the situation, it’s better to take a break.

As painful as this may be, it is less painful than sinking further into the narcissist’s trap.

Remember that there are more fish in the pond, but this fish is poisonous!


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