Narcissists are known for playing with the minds and emotions of others.
Do you also feel that narcissistic games are being played with you?
The narcissist is only out for his own gain, and then you are left as the loser.
How can you recognize someone else’s narcissistic games so that you can stop them in time?
If you’re wondering if you’re dealing with a narcissist, read this blog!
Below I will give you a number of important signs of narcissistic games and then I will give you tips on how to deal with them.
How the narcissist plays with your head
It is important to understand the mind of a narcissist. They see relationships as a means of getting what they want without worrying about the other person’s feelings.
Their only concern is what they can get out of it. Relationships are used to boost their egos and give them what they value, such as status, power, positive attention, esteem, and sex .
You have to have something to offer to get something in return. They are motivated only by that and are not interested in you as a person or in doing anything for you without some form of payment
A relationship with a narcissist can be collegial, amicable , family , or romantic .
The narcissist has a selfish, businesslike mentality. And this shows in your relationship. There is little room for real emotions (as in: sincere).
A relationship has a clear purpose for the narcissist. For the narcissist, a relationship is like a transaction, with a buyer, a seller, and a product. The narcissist wants to get what he wants, but at the lowest possible price.
That is why it is important that you understand the mind of a narcissist. What’s behind the facade? Then you can recognize the narcissistic games and stop them.
Narcissists see relationships as a means of getting what they want . They are not concerned with the feelings of others in this.
Their only concern is what they can get out of it. Relationships are used by the narcissist to boost their ego and get what they want: status, power, money, appreciation, sex, and so on.
This is their only motivation . So they are not interested in you as a person.
They see the relationship between you and them as a business transaction. The narcissist tries to get as much as possible and to give as little as possible.
The narcissist sees this as a game. He will manipulate you to get what he wants. Can’t do it in one go?
Then he will continue until he succeeds. Will he face unexpected setbacks in the game he’s playing?
Then the narcissist pulls out some dreaded tricks. For example crying, anger, blackmail or gaslighting .
Suppose you landed a new promotion at work after years of hard work, but the narcissist would have done it in half the time.
They will definitely point you to all the things you have NOT done or accomplished.
Again, this is to make you feel inferior to the narcissist, and also to shift the focus (and energy) back to the narcissist.
Signs that a narcissist is playing games with you
Scientific research shows that the goal of the narcissist in a relationship is to have uncommitted pleasure.
This is a narcissistic game and winning is the goal. They can play this narcissistic game with several people at once because they don’t have to be emotionally intimate with them.
What can you do about these narcissistic games?
You can take steps to protect yourself from the narcissist’s games of the narcissist.
If this doesn’t improve the situation, it’s better to take a break.
As painful as this may be, it is less painful than sinking further into the narcissist’s trap.
Remember that there are more fish in the pond, but this fish is poisonous!