Yes, there is also a sensitive narcissist.
huh? Can a narcissist be sensitive?
A sensitive narcissist remains selfish with a lack of empathy, but can react very sensitively to people and situation.
So are you wondering how to recognize a sensitive narcissist? And how do you deal with this? Then you’ve come across the right article!
What is a Sensitive Narcissist?
Narcissism seems to be more and more prevalent in our society, with many harmful consequences.
Narcissism can be defined as selfishness, feeling superior, lack of empathy and a need to be admired.
Narcissism is a personality disorder . A narcissist does not think that he is superior, but is convinced of this.
But behind this mask of superiority and a very high degree of self-confidence, there is a vulnerable person with little self-esteem who cannot take criticism very well.
The narcissist’s high self-esteem and superior identity are often self-centered, based on false superiority, conceit, superficial status, false privileges, exaggerated sense of legitimacy, materialism, etc.
However, many narcissists are very sensitive to criticism. They will quickly feel personally attacked. Criticism or situations where their superiority is questioned are seen by the narcissist as a direct threat to their self-esteem.
And then you are dealing with a sensitive narcissist.
How to recognize a sensitive narcissist
How do you recognize a sensitive narcissist? What is striking about a sensitive narcissist is that he or she displays a self-righteous conceit and a deep hunger for reconciliation with others.
The sensitive narcissist also displays intense negativity when others question, threaten, or attack their sense of superiority.
- Negative response to constructive criticism
A mature person is able to accept criticism, evaluate it and learn from it.
Constructive criticism is an important means to grow as a person.
Sensitive narcissists react negatively to negative criticism. They feel unfairly criticized, even when the criticism is constructive.
They often take criticism personally. A response from the sensitive narcissist may be: ‘ How dare you say/do this ‘. They then have a hard time letting go of the criticism.
- Narcissistic resentment
The narcissist may feel attacked by a situation or comment. This can evoke hostile stimuli in the narcissist.
This can also cause the narcissist to feel resentment.
The narcissist shows anger and cannot let it go, because he does not get his way.
“ If my husband thinks he is not being thought of, everything is a problem for him, while he says that nothing is wrong. ” (Josephien).
- Narcissistic anger
The narcissist displays intense anger outbursts and anger.
Also in this signal the narcissist cannot let go and the nature lies in the fact that the narcissist does not get his way.
The trigger of a narcissistic resentment and narcissistic anger lies in the fact that the narcissist has a hard time discovering that the world doesn’t revolve around him and he doesn’t always get his way.
“ I hate it when you put the groceries on the counter like that. I told you I HATE it! (Dianne on her daughter at the grocery store)
But there are even more triggers with which a sensitive narcissist shows his true nature:
- The narcissist is told that other things are more important than the narcissist’s (selfish) needs.
- The narcissist cannot do what he intends, often due to a quick reaction from another.
- The narcissist is asked to take responsibility for his (narcissistic, manipulative) actions.
- The narcissist feels rejected or not ‘special’ because he does not get what he intended.
- The narcissist cannot let go of a situation that he sees as unfair.
- A person reasonably disagrees with the narcissist’s opinion. The narcissist cannot let this go, takes it personally and feels attacked.
- The narcissist feels that he is not the center of attention and shows jealousy for the recognition that another person receives.
This false shell crumbles when the world reminds them that they are not on a pedestal.
Do you want to learn about how to recognize a narcissist in time before he causes irreparable damage?
PS I call the narcissist a he/him, but a narcissist can of course also be a woman/she/her.