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‘That’s not fair!’ Dealing with injustice

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do you know? Someone says something or something happens and you think: ‘Yes, but that’s not fair!’ Then all kinds of emotions shoot through you and you are angry and sad at the same time. As a result, you end up lying on the couch exhausted and exhausted. Well, dealing with injustice is not that easy.

Touched to my core

Why is it always so touching to me when something I don’t think is fair? It feels like I’m being touched to my core. Even if it’s not about me but about someone else. For example, when someone is treated unfairly or I am part of the story.

A slap in my face

The annoying thing is that I don’t always get my words right in such a situation. It seems as if I get a slap in the face at that moment and temporarily no longer function. A sense of disbelief overpowers and muffles any reaction.

Then I regain consciousness and pain, sadness and anger fight for attention. In the end they all win and I am cackling like a headless chicken. To whoever wants to hear it, but honestly, to myself, in my head.

Conversations in my head.

Because instead of expressing my indignation or disbelief, I often keep it inside. I have endless conversations in my head. In my head I tell someone a good truth and I stand up for myself.

The truth is that I often find it difficult to stand up for myself. For someone else? That’s not really a problem. But for myself?!

What will people think?

A voice in my head then interferes with the conversation in my head. A voice that doesn’t think standing up for myself is a good idea at all. Because what will people think? Or say? What kind of conflict might then arise? And so I then come into conflict with myself.

Adjusting to someone else, nodding ‘yes’ where saying ‘no’ is desirable, happens very often. Because knowing that something is unjust and acting on it are two different things.

Highly sensitive and dealing with injustice

People who are highly sensitive often have a lot of trouble with injustice. But also just as much difficulty standing up for oneself. Tendency to always adapt and thereby forget to stand up for oneself.

Injustice hurts to your soul. And there is also a key to change. For your soul gives a cry that you may learn to act upon. (Learning) to stand up for yourself, no matter how difficult it is sometimes, is doing justice to your soul.

How do I deal with injustice?

First: Blow off steam, cry, laugh or scream. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you express your emotions rather than bottle them up. You often tend to suppress the emotions that injustice. But try to express yourself next time. If it doesn’t work right away (because you might find it scary), do it later. Turn on the music loud and scream or shout along, write it down on paper if that suits you more or talk to someone about it. Whatever you do, give space to your emotions.

Second, take a step back and try to look at the situation from a distance. What happened? What (exactly) touched you, why and what does this say about you? What can you learn from this?

Third: Think about what you want to do with the outcome of step two. Do you want to return to the situation in which you experienced injustice? Talk about this again and use the words you couldn’t find before? Or do you want to leave it for what it is and do you manage to do that? Is what you have learned from it enough? What do you need to later look back with satisfaction, knowing that you stood up for yourself?

So you don’t always have to confront it. Sometimes writing down your feelings or talking about them with someone else is enough. This can give you insight into how you might learn to deal with it differently in the future. The point is that you learn step by step to look more consciously at the situations in which you experience injustice. So that you gradually learn to do more justice to yourself.

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