Being alone is something a lot of people fear, but somehow it is the most beautiful thing there is and everyone should give themselves as a present. Even if only for a certain period of time, because in that time you can learn so much about yourself. Being alone is actually a very nice process that you can learn, and which will bring you more than you might think at first.
In the whole process of being alone, you are confronted with yourself! And a lot of people don’t want that at all, because somehow there isn’t enough self-love to realize that you only need yourself to be happy. Somewhere you don’t trust yourself, so you always have the need to look for everything outside of yourself. Yes, of course everyone likes to have fun, that’s something else. But being truly alone is perhaps the hardest thing for a lot of people.
I too have been in those shoes and thought that I couldn’t live alone, and didn’t want to be alone. Strangely enough, I just really want to be alone and it must really be an addition for me to share my energy with someone. I used to not realize that I gave my energy away so easily to everyone, just to please . Being sociable, talking and doing things can also cost energy, and it was up to me to find a balance.
The era of breaking loose
We have arrived at a time when a lot of people realize that they are not happy the way they are now, and a lot of relationships are broken. People want to look for fulfillment, to fill the void. But only you can do that and only you can give yourself that bit of happiness that you are looking for.
Taking yourself on a date, doing things alone, being alone with yourself, and being comfortable in your own skin is a gift that you will thank yourself for if you have created it for yourself. But if you have yet to work towards that, it can be very difficult. Your reality has always been different, so mentally you are not there yet. Mentally come the biggest struggles come and go and you can drive yourself crazy if you think that you will only be happy with one or more people.
But the power is precise to be alone as much as possible and to turn inward, to get to know yourself in a way that you have never been able to do before. Look yourself in the eye and be truly satisfied with who you are and what you do. Explore with yourself and see what you like about yourself or what you like to do. Learn to play in the world again and discover yourself. It’s all part of it, if you dare to break free from those things that no longer suit you. If you choose to be alone again, no matter how difficult it may be for you.
Your own energy
Being alone can put you back in your power and it also teaches you to know your own energy. You experience what it is like to feel your own energy, without the influence of other energies. You learn what makes you feel good and what doesn’t (anymore). You learn to honor yourself and stand in your self-esteem much more. Self-love is the key to ascension and will bring you more than you thought possible. Your own energy teaches you to deal with your limits and needs much better, making it easier for you to say no. You will value yourself much more and you will be more selective with what you spend your energy on.
Sometimes that can mean that you only feel good when you are on your own! Know that this is also good because you start to believe in yourself more and more, to appreciate yourself, to love yourself. You will anchor your energy so that you can and will choose better for yourself. Getting to know your own energy is perhaps the most important part of being alone.
Because that way you can feel exactly what is yours and what is not. You will recognize that you have given yourself too much away for a long time, and you will learn the importance of staying true to yourself. You are going to learn that being alone is going to bring you so much joy, and nothing and no one can get in the way of that. You will learn that being alone empowers you and gives you so much more value.
The art of being alone is that you choose for yourself and therefore learn to enjoy yourself and life again. And only then can being together with others add so much more value, because you know that being alone is really beautiful. That your inner processes follow there, which put you back in your power. That you can do what you want, when you want and wherever you want. You learn to stand in your power there and to play in life, without taking into account.
Too often we put our happiness in someone else’s hands, while someone else can’t make you happy. You have to do it yourself and no one else can change or adapt to make you happy all the time. It should flow smoothly, without expectations. Without putting someone in a straitjacket, which they cannot meet anyway. Everyone should live his or her life the way he or she wants, without putting too much pressure on each other.
Yes, in a relationship you make compromises, that’s normal. But don’t expect anything from each other, don’t set the bar too high. You can fulfill the expectations you already have for yourself, and together you can be a nice addition to each other’s lives. But keep the value to yourself and choose your own happiness. You determine the value of your life and your happiness!