That’s why it’s also said that you should choose your five best friends well: their vibrations affect yours. I would say that you should be careful about who you choose as a sexual partner for exactly the same reason. It’s not uncommon for people to feel exhausted, “dirty” or not like themselves after a one-night stand .
These feelings can stem from personal circumstances, such as our insecurities, egos , and our judgments about ourselves and others, but it can also have a lot to do with the energetic implications of having sex!
What Happens To Your Energy When You Have Sex
When you have sex with someone, an act that physically connects you in the deepest possible way, it makes sense that their energy would act on you. In addition, it is said that when you have sex with someone, their aura leaves an impression on you that is difficult to energetically cleanse. So, what does that mean in terms of modern sex culture, where it’s not strange to sleep with several people?
Suppose you go to bed with someone who has been with ten others in the past, and that individual has not got rid of the energies of their previous partners, you could be susceptible to the energies of eleven people .
Sometimes people say they feel ‘different’ after having sex with a new partner. This is because your aura connects with your partner’s during sex, and you exchange energies with each other. So your energy has changed slightly after you have sex. If you have sex with someone with a high frequency, the intercourse can increase your frequency; and vice versa, if you have sex with someone with a low frequency, that can lower yours as well.
But just because you feel bad after having sex doesn’t simply mean you were with someone in a “low mood.” All guilt is ultimately a product of our ego, which we use to judge ourselves for our actions. Experiencing guilt after sex is also a feeling that is reinforced by society, especially with regard to women, because female sexual energy was suppressed and discouraged by society for a very long time, and in some parts of the world it is still.
Okay, you can take these feelings as a sign that maybe you shouldn’t sleep with this person again, but you also need to take responsibility for your own feelings and use this opportunity to look inside. Ask yourself: why do I feel guilty or some other ‘negative’ emotion about sex, and does it have something to do with my ego, my partner’s energy, pressure from society? Although we are receptive to the energies of others, we can ultimately control our own frequencies . But in order to do that, we must first look at what influences our energy.
Nor should we judge people by how we feel about them. To be clear, we should never judge anyone, and if you think you live at a higher frequency than others, it may well be your ego speaking, not your soul.
We are all at different stages in our lives and walking our own paths, that’s what makes the human experience so beautiful! We are not all destined to go through the same experiences or have the same interests, so of course we will all give off different frequencies as well.
There is a big difference between judging someone and empathizing with someone . If you’re “vibed” with someone, as we say these days, and you feel like you two feel good about each other, there’s a good chance that’s exactly what’s happening! That doesn’t mean you have the same interests or that you’re at the same point in life, but it might just mean you emit similar frequencies. The best thing you can do is not to judge others and trust your intuition, because eventually your soul knows.
Despite all this, I still believe it is healthy to have sex, especially if you are energetically cleansing yourself. I believe you can use sex as a way to deepen our inherent love and connection with each other and with ourselves. We are so much more than our physical bodies and sex is so much more than just two bodies colliding for pleasure and reproductive purposes. I think sex is meant to be an intense spiritual act, one that can sometimes give you more pleasure than the orgasm, by practicing tantra.
Tantric Sex and Taoism
Tantra is Sanskrit for ‘woven together’. By studying and practicing it, you can better understand yourself and your partner on a spiritual level. Exploring yourself sexually, whether alone or with a partner, ultimately only teaches you more about yourself, and therefore more about Source.
Both Tantra and Taoism exhort different ways of creating and building sexual energies between two partners for the purpose of spiritual enlightenment. Although tantric sex is normally practiced with a partner, I believe this practice will help you understand yourself better. In fact, a recent neuroscientific study suggests that orgasms feel so good because they take us to a different state of consciousness.
One of the ancient customs of Taoism is controlling male ejaculation during sex. Taoists believe that losing ejaculatory fluids is equivalent to losing essential life energy (or “jing”). So by learning to preserve the sperm, one can direct the energy of the orgasm throughout the body. In a world where the purpose of sex is often just to get the man to ejaculate, these Taoist practices seem valuable to me to experiment with.
This does not mean that a man should never reach orgasm; it’s just a spiritual concept worth applying every now and then because it can be more pleasurable than ejaculation, if practiced properly. Some Taoists believe that by directing the energy upward toward the crown chakra , it can provide nourishment to the brain. In modern sex culture, this is sometimes referred to as “edging,” although many men may do so for other reasons.
Women can also shift their sexual energy by moving it up and playing with different breathing techniques, but this has not been studied much in the ancient religions. Yet sex was seen as an act that empowered women, as they can bring forth life and assume the role of ‘mentor’ to their partners. Women were and still should be seen as equal to men during sex, so it’s important to note that these practices are only useful if both parties agree.
Whether you’re having sex or not, or whoever your sexual partner is, it’s always better to consciously cleanse yourself from the energies of others. Even if this is ‘positive’ energy, you will eventually only want your own energy around you.
How to cleanse your aura
It has been scientifically proven that all our bodies radiate an electromagnetic field, also known as the ‘aura’. It plays a very important role in how we should understand our biology and the connection we share with all life. Below you can read how you can cleanse your aura (after sex or just in general):
Sage or ‘smudging’
Not only does sage smell fantastic, it can also rid your home and body of negative energy. Smudging with sage has been used for years to cleanse people’s energetic auras and to rid environments of negative energy.
Wash your hands or body
A lot of people like to shower after sex for personal hygiene reasons, but water also plays an essential role in cleansing our energetic bodies! An excellent way to rid yourself of the energies of others is to actually physically wash your hands or your whole body. As you feel the water flowing over you, imagine that the negative (or positive) energy washes away from you as well.
Use an Aura spray
An Aura spray for is mainly grounding and protective and it creates space around you. It raises the vibration in your energy field, as it were, so that you are no longer susceptible to influences from others. It is a nice tool until you can keep your own energy household in order. You can buy an aura spray here from a pure supplier that we can wholeheartedly recommend.
Reflection and meditation
Sometimes we just need to look within to clear our energy. We can look objectively at our actions and our feelings to understand why we feel and act a certain way. Plus, when we connect with ourselves, with our true higher Self, and simply be present in that high frequency state, we naturally get rid of all the energies that no longer serve us.
Sunlight and nature
Sunlight naturally revives your energy, and you can try to meditate and visualize for yourself where the rays of the sun are clearing your energetic field. Being surrounded by nature naturally raises your frequency and can help you ground and relax.
I’m not telling you that you shouldn’t sleep with anyone, nor am I saying that you should only have sex with people who are energetically the same as you. I believe we can learn a lot from very different partners , but it is also important to be aware of this information and how it can affect us on an individual and spiritual level.
Sex is a much bigger and more complex topic than the mainstream media and porn industry makes it seem. Sex can be chaotic or enlightening , emotional or distant, grounding or empowering; the point is that it is always both physical and energetic, which is why it is so important to cleanse ourselves afterwards.
Sex isn’t about how it looks, it’s about the feeling you get from it, the energetic shift you go through, and the intimacy you share with your partner. We are so much more than our physical bodies and, believe it or not, sex can really teach us about that! By expressing ourselves sexually, we can strengthen not only our bond with our partners, but also our bond with ourselves. And who knows, maybe in your quest for a better sex life you’ll run into yourself again.