Feeling and healing fears
We are quite shaken up in these times. Circumstances ask us to (continue to) turn inward, to face and feel our own fears and limiting thoughts. This releases the charge and brings us into balance. This also prevents us from projecting our fears onto someone else. In this way, we automatically contribute to (world) peace. Because everything we heal and transform can have an energetic effect on our family and our family.
You are a karma bearer
We are all ‘karma bearers’: we carry positive and negative karma with us. Karma is also called the law of cause and effect. All deeds, thoughts, actions and intentions have consequences in life. In short: all our good deeds (etcetera) give us positive karma and our ‘bad’ deeds give us negative karma! We carry this karma with us, in our figurative backpack.
A recognizable example
A boy cheerfully gets up, but is depressed by his mother who is having a bad temper and projects her anger onto her child. He takes this feeling to school and becomes unmanageable for the teacher. The teacher becomes frustrated and projects her frustration onto the class. The class has a bad day and takes this feeling home again… This example clearly shows the responsibility we have in what we pass on to our direct and indirect environment.
Emotional inheritance is in your DNA
Earlier I wrote about the ‘ emotional legacy ‘‘. Everything that we do not process in our lives in terms of pain, behavior, patterns, and traumas, we pass on to our children. In this way, they can be passed on for generations until someone within the family heals the inheritance.
An emotional inheritance is in our DNA, with all the positive and negative karma of our ancestors. Every day we have the opportunity to face and work with everything that is unprocessed. That’s free will we all have! Do we remain stuck in the old, with all the (negative) consequences that entail? Or do we try to solve the unresolved pains?
The important role of family karma bearers
Every family has a so-called ‘family karma bearer’. It is usually the one that is most spiritually evolved and carries the energetic blockages that run in the family lineage. You carry this burden from birth and become aware of it as your inner growth grows. The challenge is to break through the unprocessed traumas, patterns, actions, pains, behaviors, and intentions and thus clear the way for light and love. Not an easy job.
I myself am a family karma bearer of a double negative charge of karma, so from both my mother’s and father’s side. Again and again, I encounter ‘new’ karma. Now is the time to clean up everything that is left – sometimes it is from many lifetimes. To deepen my inner mastery, to stay with myself, and to become more powerful in unconditional love.
Suppressed pains and the devil in ourselves
Let’s face and dissolve all our transferred and self-built karma. The more we resolve to (passed on) pains, the lighter our thinking, our environment, the world becomes! Now is the time to tear down all the walls we have built around our hearts. Now is the time to stand up for ourselves, our wishes, and our goals. Yes, right now, despite everything that is going on in the world.
Once we have cleared some of the pains and karma, we gain space and more desire to keep our thoughts positive. This brings with it a creative force for more positive things – which you will attract. The same applies the other way around… Every thought, expression and action is important and contributes to your and our world. Your act or thought makes the earth more harmonious, more loving and lighter or darker and more unloving. Perhaps something to think about and become aware of: how do you contribute to more light and love in the world? As Gandhi so beautifully said:
What positive and negative words do to us
You may be familiar with this experiment: one bowl of water was spoken positively, and another bowl of water was only given negative words. The first bowl of water remained clear, while the second bowl became cloudy very quickly. Since our bodies are made up of 70 percent water, you understand what a great effect positivity or negativity has on you too! This video by Dr. Masaru Emoto illustrates very clearly what positive and negative words do to water.
A healing exercise: observing yourself
When (old) pain triggers you and you find it difficult to be positive, try the following exercise. This is very useful in healing pains from the emotional inheritance that originated in your childhood. The exercise is by psychotherapist Jean Jenson, with addition from myself.
• Find a place where you can be alone. Lie or sit quietly. Close your eyes and go back to the moment when the pain started.
• Feel the pain and possibly let your tears flow freely.
• See if you can relate this pain to an event or feeling in your childhood. See yourself again as the child in you who felt this pain. Look at the child and this pain without any judgment or opinion. Feel and observe!
• You may see other people before you. Look at them, again without judgment or opinion. Feel what comes to you or what happens to you and just let the feeling be.
• Calmly come back to the now. Take a few deep breaths and open your eyes.
• Ask yourself: what do I need now? For example, a cup of tea, a walk, rest…
By doing this exercise often and feeling and experiencing the pain(s), you lose your ‘attachment’ to it. You neutralize the pain. When you let them fully sink in, without trying to get a grip on them, they will come to an end on their own.