You used to know. If something was true, it was. You didn’t really doubt, or little. But more and more people are no longer so sure of the truth. What is true, what is false and how do you know?
I have a different approach to the truth than is generally accepted. My way there is the shortcut, the intuitive, feminine route, based on a deep contact with my body, feelings and energy. Many people don’t think the shortcut is such a good route. They say you should take the rational, masculine one, which is based on science, numbers, statistics and facts.
That way of thinking is even so dominant that the way of feeling is not taken seriously. But no matter how hard you try to record reality in statistics and tables, you will not arrive at an objective, constant, unambiguous reality. The truth is always subjective; it is seen through the lens of the user, or the storyteller, and those glasses are shaped by background (parents, culture, time, interests, etc.).
The truth is often false
As soon as you start on your way in, the first thing you start to discover is what is untrue about yourself: who you are not. You begin to see through psychological and energetic mechanisms that are not authentic, but that you have learned to feel safe. Those mechanisms have a major influence on your life, and keep you from who you really are.
You can think of ‘masks’: the cheerful face that you show to the outside world, while you feel bad inside. And your defense mechanisms (all the ways to stay out of touch with yourself and others), and the narratives you’ve formed about reality. They are all distortions of the truth; of your real, true self.
You can see through everything that is not true and authentic during your awareness process. You don’t have to keep believing what you believed. Neither the situations from your past, nor the emotions and concepts that have emerged from them, say anything about who you are at the core.
When you start to shake off your inner falsehoods, your glasses change, and with it your reality changes, ie what is true and false for you. So your truth is not rigid and defined, but fluid; there is development. As you accumulate more awareness, the truth becomes more and more layered.
However, the truth has a tricky side and that is: we don’t like to see through. Our consciousness prefers to maintain old illusions. It continues to fight for the truth of its own reality, even when it has become patently untrue. And that is not for nothing. The truth can really hurt.
By taking a radically honest look at yourself, for example, it becomes clear how you have hurt, manipulated or disadvantaged others and how painful that must have been for them. There are few people who endure their own shadow and dare to expose their (unconscious) untruths. They twist, brush away and put the blame on others. That’s how the ego works. Taking ownership feels extremely uncomfortable.
But that is not everything. Once you expose an untruth, you have to deal with the consequences. You can no longer close your eyes to it and you have to act on it. And that is also uncomfortable. Because while some things may no longer be true for you, they are still real and normal for most people around you, such as status, money, work, social structures, parenting styles, and everything that enters the body (types of food, drink, medication, etc.).
How impractical is it if you don’t want to or can’t do it anymore?! Do you dare to let go of your old life? Or more simply: can you resist furrowed eyebrows? Do you stand still if you deviate from the group? Exclusion is the greatest human fear. And yes, conforming is easier, but it comes at the expense of your truth.
The truth does not exist
Of course there are many different stories that are completely opposite to each other. In that sense ‘the’ truth does not exist. You can say that the truth has different forms of expression; a higher and lower form, or a universal and personal one. The personal truth may be very limited, the universal truth is not.
The higher truth arises from space, openness and curiosity, the lower truth is often clearly defined. Look at religions: within the same religion you will find movements that focus on the investigation of love, unity and liberation within, and dogmatic movements that prescribe, reject and condemn. In the first case god is the love you can get to know within yourself, in the second god is used as a means of pressure to frighten believers and keep them in line. He is far from you.
The heart brings balance
On your path to discovering your personal truth, feeling and tuning is an indispensable tool. If you can feel good, then you know what is right or wrong on different layers of who you are (physical, emotional, mental, energetic). And as long as you don’t know that yet, you’re just investigating. Congruence is important here.
Are you bringing into the world what actually lives inside? Are your head (thinking), heart (feeling) and belly (action) connected and do they listen to each other? Are your words in line with your posture, feeling and energy?
By being true to your own heart and attunement (and acting accordingly) you become more and more congruent and you become more and more firmly anchored in who you are. It becomes more natural to live your life, according to your inner values. The need to convince others of right and wrong, to defend yourself or to worry is diminishing.
Moreover, if your truth really flows from your feelings, you are willing to take the consequences of your choices. You don’t have to doubt and constantly weigh pros and cons. While at the same time staying open to a wide range of perspectives.
All you really have to do is navigate between frequencies. Feeling which vibrations suit you and which you should not connect with, because they pull you down to depression, anger or powerlessness.
‘The’ truth has a frequency. It feels like clarity: light and grounded. You align with it step by step during your growth process. Within that truth you can be who you are, with all the trimmings, without judgment.
Unlike personal truth, this universal truth transcends polarities. It is the knowledge of the whole spectrum – from high and low, black and white, yes and no, left and right – combined with the wisdom of the heart that accommodates all.
The truth literally springs from the middle, the heart, which balances the extremes and thus produces the highest truth: the universal truth of love, unity and freedom.