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What is Spiritual Narcissism? are you a spiritual narcissist?


Narcissism is basically self-righteousness to the point that one can accept any logic, as long as the ego remains protected. This often involves self-deception. Is this what happens in many spiritual trends ?

As humans, we often struggle to find a middle ground. One minute we can lose ourselves in a lack of self-esteem, the next we’re trampling on others with our own self-righteousness. It’s a constant struggle for balance. Narcissism goes way beyond simply valuing selfies in our social media world .

Self-righteousness masquerades as a liberation, but is actually a trap that can destroy relationships, increase your personal suffering, and keep you away from your true spiritual aspirations. It’s no wonder, then, that more mindfulness and compassion for this difficult human trait is the best way to heal it.

What is Spiritual Narcissism?

We all have the capacity to become overly self-righteous . The risk of this increases the more we confuse it with spirituality. In many ways, it is clear that all of humanity suffers from a degree of complacency as we ravage oceans and forests and allow plants and animals to become extinct in our material quest. In Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism , Chogyam Trungpa provides a good foundation for Westerners to navigate the pitfalls of our materialistic abundance.

“We shouldn’t be ashamed of what we are. As thinking beings, we have a wonderful history. That history may not be particularly enlightened or peaceful or intelligent. Yet our soil is fertile enough to cultivate; we can plant anything in it.” – Chogyam Trungpa

There is a difference between the ego-self and the deeper, universal soul within us. It is important to have this difference clear. Unfortunately, we are left with spiritual philosophies and religions that are made to feed the ego, which inflate our sense of justice and divide us into camps, all the while justifying murder, exploitation and oppression.

Acting ethically, apart from spirituality, requires treating yourself and the other as one, respecting and hearing each one, and meeting them with compassion.

“Regardless of practice or teaching, the ego likes to ambush to use spirituality for self-interest and survival.” – Chogyam Trungpa

Looking for the solution against self-absorption

Narcissism is basically self-righteousness to the point that one can accept any logic, as long as the ego remains protected. This often involves self-deception. The ego is an important aspect of our self, it is part of our self-preservation. But when it gets out of balance, it has the potential to destroy us and our relationships.

Many spiritual traditions seek to strengthen our ability to recognize and be mindfully aware of the drives of the ego. With that we can master the ego, instead of being a slave to it. When the ego grows too big, it is difficult to deal with, but spiritual liberation expands our understanding of ourselves beyond the ego, beyond time and space.

The goal is to find a balance between the inner experience and the outer reality. How do we practice healthy self-love without becoming an ego maniac that destroys her personal relationships? On the other hand, self-hatred and low self-esteem are also the manifestations of an imbalanced ego.

Selflessness can still be quite selfish; over-involvement can be just as problematic as social withdrawal. Fortunately, we are here to find that balance, by living full lives, by making mistakes and by expanding our sense of self-awareness. Healthy self-awareness is the only solution to self-righteousness.intermittent fasting (2)

The Story of Narcissus and Echo

“One day Narcissus was walking through the forest when Echo, an Oreade (a mountain nymph) saw him. She immediately fell madly in love and followed him. Narcissus noticed he was being followed and shouted “Who’s there?” Echo repeated “Who’s there?” Finally, she revealed her identity and tried to hug him. It took a step back and told her to leave him alone. Heartbroken, Echo spent the rest of her life in lonely valleys, until there was nothing left of her but the sound of an echo. Nemesis, the goddess of vengeance, learned of this story and decided to punish Narcissus. She lured him to a puddle, where he saw his own reflection. Not realizing it was just an image, he fell in love with it.Eventually he realized that his love would go unrequited and he committed suicide.” – Wikipedia

Since intent is subjective, a person within their community is usually perceived by their actions or image. That process is even more difficult in our age of social media and the materialism found in yoga, meditation and spirituality today. It is possible to pretend to be good and thus (temporarily) fool ourselves and the people around us.

We can buy the latest yoga clothes , read the right books and associate with all the ‘cool’ people, but if our actions are not grounded in a deeper spiritual act, such as a fundamental consideration and respect for others, then it remains hollow. A clear example is the man who is popular with everyone, but at home kicks his dog or is rude and unpredictable towards his wife.

“Deep spirituality makes us more receptive to the feelings of others, it encourages a courageous open attitude where we let down our protective walls and accept the fragility of being seen as we are. In contrast, narcissistic sensitivity focuses only on the subtle nuances of one’s own inner self. It refuses to look at hard, inconvenient truths that can distort self-image. A narcissistically sensitive person is easily upset by the ‘crudeness’ of others, tries to change her environment to fit the contours of what she needs, and becomes angry or offended when it doesn’t.” – The Allure of Narcissistic Spirituality , Huffington Post

How do you recognize narcissistic behavior

Being able to recognize narcissistic behavior in yourself and in others is the best way to heal it. It’s not your job to diagnose or tell others how narcissistic they are if they don’t want to hear or heal. But if you set the right boundaries, you protect yourself and encourage others to become more mindful. That is the loving and compassionate way to deal with narcissism.

Are you a spiritual narcissist
Being able to recognize narcissistic behavior in yourself and in others is the best way to heal it.

It is always good for you to set boundaries and express your truth in a loving and compassionate way. Whether the narcissist hears or not is beyond your control. Common reactions from narcissists are belittling your feelings, giving an empty excuse without any effort to modify the behavior, or completely ignoring what you are saying.

In other words, they do everything they can to not have to look at it or to make the situation your fault. That’s the sign that you need to set the right boundaries for yourself.

Be open and receptive yourself when others tell you you haven’t treated them right. Accepting constructive feedback from the people you care about is a great way to balance inner needs and outer relationships. And that’s how we can grow as individuals.

Official features of narcissism

  • Lack of empathy: is unwilling to acknowledge or perceive the feelings and needs of others
  • Has a grand idea of ​​self-esteem (eg exaggerates achievements and talent, expects to be seen as superior without achievements to match)
  • Presumes privilege, such as unreasonable expectations of privileged treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
  • Is mutually exploitative, eg takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own goals
  • Is often jealous of others or believes that others are jealous of him or her
  • Requires excessive admiration
  • Displays arrogant, haughty behavior or attitudes
  • Believes he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood or connected with other special or important people (or institutions)
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty or perfect love

heal unhealthy patterns

Hopefully, this article will help you navigate difficult interpersonal relationships and improve yourself. It’s wonderful that psychology allows us to identify terms and heal unhealthy patterns emotionally. As we learn to live in community, we also learn the many aspects of love. This is how we help ourselves and the people around us to grow!


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