As a highly sensitive person you are very focused on your environment, in energy you flow together with it, as it were. The result is that you feel less good about yourself.
Attuned to your environment
If you are highly sensitive, you can feel other people well. Many HSPs (Highly Sensitive Person) like to take care of others. Consciously and unconsciously, they are constantly attuned to their environment and what it needs. It is striking that they react sensitively and empathically to others but can be harsh and critical of themselves. Maybe you recognize this. If you are hard and critical of yourself, you are not only destructive to yourself, but you cannot really care for another.
Why many HSPs are so hard on themselves
As a highly sensitive person, you absorb more information from the outside world and process it more intensely than someone who is not highly sensitive. You are very focused on your environment, in energy, you merge with it, as it were. The result is that you feel less good about yourself, which quickly leads to you putting yourself last. Not so much consciously, it just happens.
Many HSPs are eager to help others and are very helpful and loving towards their environment. Recognizable? But how loving are you to yourself? Many highly sensitive people can be strict and critical of themselves. Why you’re so hard on yourself depends on several factors: your personality and what you’ve been through in your life. As a coach and trainer especially for highly sensitive people, I see that many HSPs are convinced that they have to become tougher. Or they have often heard in their lives that they should not be so sensitive or that they should not behave like that. If you hear that often enough, you will automatically believe it.
The consequences for your energy field
Being hard on yourself every now and then and reflecting critically on yourself is good. It can encourage you to do something you might find exciting or scary. Or it helps you to persevere. But if you are too hard and critical of yourself, it actually backfires. This is also reflected in your energy field. Your aura will shine less, you are less connected with yourself and with people around you. Heavy self-criticism has a negative effect on your thoughts, feelings, and your body. So does it help you? No, it’s destructive!
Meditation: how to strengthen self-love
If you want to change something about yourself, it is important that you express an intention. An intention means that you intend to be more loving to and towards yourself. The second step is to gain insight into yourself and to become aware of your behavior. Our behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are mostly repetitive patterns, which are 90 to 95 percent unconscious. When are you too hard on yourself? And if you were not talking to yourself, but to someone you love dearly, how would you talk to yourself? Changing unconscious behavioral patterns takes time and attention. Try to be loving and gentle with yourself in this.
